Yikes! - Saint Louis,MO

Not normal for me... I'm a "get over it" kind of lady. I'm mad for a day at the MOST and then I'm over it. Seriously... if my husband did something bad enough that I was angry for a week, there would be more serious issues than whether or not to have sex with him.

I can't function when I'm angry, really angry. In fact, I completely shut-down and stop listening or thinking. I don't think most of the women responding were responding with "mad for a week" in mind. I could be assuming here, but I think they were responding to "when you're mad".

i was once angry at my husband for what seemed like years, so a week really isnt a stretch.

Im happy now though

And anger and love are very connected to one another, its indifference that is the opposite of love.

Yeah. I know what you mean.

My husband has done some things that have made me REALLY mad. They are not be things that can be "undone".

Certain things make me see red when I think of them a year or two later. (Example: He tossed out a framed print given to me by a dear friend--now deceased--because it wasn't hung at the time & I had it in the basement.)
Being "mad" wasn't going to get it back. I certainly let him know how much it pissed me off, and I highly doubt he'll ever do that again without checking with me first.
But as far as walking around, being nasty, not talking to him, etc., no--that's not how we generally roll!

We're in love and committed to this marriage and we generally work as a team. Not a me vs. you attitude.

Occassionally I get tired of Making It All Better. And so I WAIT for HIM to try to Make It All Better. Then, uh, YEAH, it can take a WEEK or more!!!!

:)

My MIL can be mad for weeks at her husband. She plays the silent treatment card. Me personally, I don't have the energy to be mad that long!! I'll be pissed for a while, but honestly, it's easier when everyone gets along and plays on the same team. Some days I wouldn't be able to function without my guy lending a hand. That, and he acts so stupid and silly just to make me un-mad, I can't help but laugh. Laughing and having fun is WAY better than being mad! But that's just me :)

I don't get it either. I am not like that, never have been. I am the kind of person who has an argument, then is done and over it and NEEDS to have moved on with that person within hours of it happening, usually less than an hour.

I get upset, speak my mind, apologize for being nasty while I spoke my mind :), then MOVE ON!

~I have never stayed mad at my hubby for more than a day, we always make up before we go to bed...with my sister, its more like never more than 10 mins. seriously...when we fight, we are saying sorry directly after and moving on!

I just asked this question a few days ago in one of my responses to a post - more of a rhetorical question I suppose, but how does one stay mad that long, and teach me!!

In all seriousness, I am so not a grudge holder. I get over things so quickly. It doesn't mean I don't get mad at things, but I sure don't stay mad for long. I think I get over things too quickly sometimes.

I can't do it either - I saw that post and didn't even know how to respond....LOL I have to get things resolved, it is just not worth it to spend that much time angry. Life is too short and you just need to realize that no one is perfect, we all make mistakes. I forgive my husband when he does something to me, and he forgives me when I do something to him. I would never INTENTIONALLY do something to hurt him nor would he do something INTENTIONALLY to hurt me. We all make mistakes, we all make poor decisions, and we should forgive the other person. I can't expect my husband to forgive me when I make a stupid mistake if I can't forgive him when he does something stupid......

I suppose early on in our marriage, we hadn't gotten to that point yet, and it might've taken a little longer to get over things, but I can't imagine going a week or more with that kind of tension at this point in my life.

But that is just me.....

I think people are assuming she was mad over piddly stuff and I agree. If it is a minor annoyance or aggrevation, a week is a long time to hold a grudge. However, I have absolutely been mad at my husband for more than a week before and DID NOT have sex with him. Drinking issues, spending life savings, spending money we didn't have. They are things we eventually worked through, but it took a LOOONG time for trust and security to be rebuilt and I can't have sex if I don't feel safe, emotionally or physically.

How do you function? You just do! You do what needs to be done. You take care of the kids, you go to work, you come home and go to bed. Does it zap energy? Yes. But it is what it is.

There are just some things that are NOT OKAY after an arguement and a one hour cool off period.

I've been with my husband for 7 years, and I've never stayed angry at him for more than a few hours. We both deal with angry in similar ways. We take a little time to cool off, then discuss it or let it go. When I am angry it sucks up all my energy and leaves little room for anything else. I'd rather move on and put my energy where it needs to be.

I can't stay mad at my husband very long. I am a firm believer in working it out swiftly, and so is he.
HOWEVER, after reading the "So what happened" on the other post, I can TOTALLY see why she is mad for so long.
The scenario she gave was that he did something, she said it hurt her feelings (and that's good that she says that!!!) and he says "F*ck you and f*uck your feelings, walks off and then counts the days that he doesn't get any sex. Unbelievable. I'm not an advocate for hitting ANYONE, but I sure would like to take a crack at that lout!

My husband is going to get an extra long kiss when he comes home today, just for not being a big fat jerk! :)

I couldnt stay mad for a week. Usually when I wake up I would like to start a new day with a good attitude. Or just a little time apart helps things. Im not really one for reliving the same fight over and over. Once is enough. Hmmmm, he must have done something REAL bad!

I cant stay mad at my husband long, and he cant at me either. A week would seem like forever. Just a few hours seems like forever! Lol. We usually dont speak for a little bit so that we can both think over what happened and then after awhile one of us always appologizes. It takes wayyyy too much effort to be angry! Especially when what were fighting about usually just isnt worth it in the end. Most stuff is just small potatoes.

I get mad and then resolve my anger in a few minutes so I guess take what I say with a grain of salt. I am sure there are a few who yell like banshees or make rude comments for a week but in my experience the people who stay mad at others for weeks on end just pretend that the offender isn't there, use the silent treatment or become extremely polite but distant (this is what I do when I am around people I don't really care for...I am exceptionally polite...if I am giving you a hard time and joshin' with you or if I am talking about "questionable material", I like you). Just because someone is angry doesn't mean they are an out of control crazy person who can't perform basic human functions.

I am with you girl! what did he do that you were mad for a week? and then how did you get over it? I need my issues with my SO resolved! ASAP With my ex they never got resolved fully and thus we are divorced!
If you can't get this issue resolved and can't get over it it might be telling you something IMHO

Me either! I may get mad, but by the time I sleep on it, I'm usually over it. I'm really bad at being mad at him, he's my best buddy! BUT, he has never done or said anything very hurtful to me either.