Wet Bed and Wet Pants

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I can't imagine a dr would say a child is lazy.
Find another doctor.
Hope this isn't what you are spanking him for.

Maybe it is your "pro spanking" stance and he's scared of you.

if i took my little boy to a pediatrician with a problem and he was accused of being lazy, i'd find a new pediatrician.
i find it very telling that your son is hiding his pull-ups. that has all the earmarks of a child who is being shamed instead of helped.
get him some wet-resistant sheets, have him help with clean-up and bed-making (not to punish him, and not in anger, simply to involve him in the process) and give him the pull-ups with no head-shaking or tsk-ing or making comments about how he's not yet a big enough boy for real underpants.
it could be a phase, it could be symptomatic of an underlying issue. but writing it off as a lazy kid is not helpful.
khairete
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Never heard of a doctor that would say the child is just lazy

There is often a reason behind sudden bed-wetting and soiling clothes.

If your doctor did thorough testing for infections and other medical issues, and diagnosed your son as being "lazy", and didn't offer a referral to a psychologist or other appropriate professionals (either for your son, or for you for some parenting advice; we all can use it from time to time), I suggest you need a new doctor. Did the doctor ask what your son is eating and drinking, and when? Did he ask about the bedtime routine? Did he ask if your son is "lazy" in other areas? Did he ask how he's doing in school? Do you notice a general lack of responsibility in your son in other areas (constantly forgetting to feed the dog, absentmindedly ignoring chores that are routine, forgetting where he set his juice box down)?

Let's assume for a moment that your son is too occupied with other things to get up and use the bathroom, just for the sake of argument. Perhaps you might consider making his room less comfortable. If he hides pull-ups, then remove the hiding places. Take out the bureau and place the mattress on the floor and take the door off the closet so that the room is an empty space with a mattress. And take away play time and turn it into laundry time (he may be too young to use the machine, but he's not too young to sit on the floor of the laundry room without any toys or electronics while the wash and dry cycles are completed). Or you remove whatever is occupying his time (video games, playing with a particular toy, etc) and make it very clear that he will now have plenty of time to get to the bathroom. There was a time when my son was very young that he had a favorite cowboy outfit that he would literally want to wear every day. He would get so carried away that he'd wait too long to get to the bathroom and wet those beloved cowboy pants. So I made it uncomfortable for him. I'd take them away, place them in a plastic bag, and then take my sweet time getting around to washing them. After a couple of days without his cowboy pants, he figured it out (he was completely potty trained at that time and more than able to do things by himself - he just was too excited about the outfit to stop the roundup at the ol' corral to use the bathroom). Problem solved. Without anger or humiliation.

However, I'm wondering if your son actually is lazy. It doesn't really add up. In your other post you state that you are pro-spanking and want to discuss discipline techniques.

Are you aware of what discipline is? Discipline is teaching, leading, guiding, showing, demonstrating, and establishing boundaries and rules. Punishment is the practice of giving consequences for disobeying clear, sensible rules when the child is capable of understanding the rules and following them. And the punishment must fit the broken rule, which is why removing hiding places and switching play time for boring laundry time make sense.

But, are you spanking this child for wetting his pants and his sheets? Just curious; perhaps you aren't. Is it possible he's afraid and anxious about your punishment techniques? Could the sudden bed-wetting be a sign of anxiety? How is the overall environment in your home? Have there been sudden changes (new baby, divorce, a loss, moving, etc)? Are you providing your son with a stable, secure home life? I'm not assuming anything, just offering possible avenues to explore.

well, maybe you should stop spanking/ hitting your son. Who is fearful and scared. Which is why he is peeing and sitting in a wet pull-up. You are a real piece of work, lady.

Maybe he needs more help than your lazy doctor. Kids can often have accidents when they are stressed, nervous or upset.

Maybe this is connected to the 'spanking help' issue you posted on? Angry kids will wet/soil their clothes. Consider finding a family counselor.

Any doctor who says a kid is just lazy needs to be fired.
Keep a water proof mattress pad on his bed and let him change/make the bed himself, and put his pajamas into the laundry with the bed sheets.
Bed wetting is very common all the way to 12 or 13 yrs old.
Our son was day trained at 3 1/2 but he was 7 1/2 before he was finished with pullups at night.
When he woke up dry for 2 weeks in a row - he was done.
Try a new doctor or a urologist - and you will get better information.

Stop talking to that doctor. Go see a new pediatrician and get a referral to a pediatric urologist. Learn about nocturnal enuresis. My child, and many others, were far beyond 6 when their bodies developed. It's not about laziness. It's developmental. Same as when their teeth come in, they hit a growth spurt, they walk or talk.

I also read the question about spanking. Maybe your child is reacting to the corporal punishment too.

i would pee wherever i wanted too if i were being spanked and disciplined all the time.. change the way you treat your child and your child will change how they respond.

Find a new pediatrician and sign up for some parenting classes. (Answering both of your questions in one shot).

Take a life, troll or crazy mom.

You are punishing your kid too much. Please stop the punishing and start PRAISING for good behavior. Praise goes a long, long way. Smile and love and have fun with your kids. And watch Supernanny, as I suggested in your other post. You will get a good idea of how this all works.

I teach juvenile delinquents, I know what I'm talking about. If you don't take the suggestions of the moms on this forum, almost all of whom disagree with your approach, I or someone like me, will be teaching your kids in a few years. Sorry but it's true.

First, I am shocked that your doctor said he was lazy - find a new doctor! As mentioned by others there are different reasons why this could be happening. My oldest son had a problem that would occasionally recur into middle school. His pediatrician said that he grew in huge growth spurts and that not all the internal organs would grow as fast. So when that happened he would have accidents as his bladder was not big enough to handle the difference. In a while everything would catch up and he'd be fine - no more accidents. This was not something he could control and he was mortified when it would happen. Punishing him for it would not have helped. Please keep in mind that you don't know why this is happening.

I am going to copy and paste my answer from another question about this.

There is nothing a person can do to start the chemical reaction in the brain that needs to happen so the kidneys will recognize the kid is asleep and slow down the production of urine.
He's asleep. He's NOT in control of his brain and kidneys when he's asleep.
Some kids wear pull ups til they are nearly teens. They make overnight pull ups for bigger kids and you still should put a water proof mattress pad on his bed. A nice padded one so that it won't be like being on a plastic sheet and hot.
You can limit drinks, won't make a difference. You can put an alarm on his bed, you will lose less sleep because it will wake YOU up and it will also make double laundry for you because instead of having a wet pull up to toss each morning you'll be using sheets and blankets and mattress pads to absorb his urine each night, and you get to wash it each morning. Every single morning.
Keep the pull ups. It's so much easier for everyone to have a full nights sleep and to not have tons of extra laundry.
If you're worried about the cost of the monthly package of pull ups consider how much YOUR time is worth, how much is it to run a load of laundry with pee sheets and stuff. I used to do 2 loads each accident with the sheets, mattress pad, blanket, and comforter if it was cold weather and then sometimes his pillow would be wet too so add in another load for that.
How much is it for a box of pull ups, $20 per month?
Extra laundry loads each day, extra laundry soap, bleach, fabric softener, extra dryer loads, dryer sheets, your time taken away to do 1-2 extra loads of laundry each and every day.
Not even a question for me. I buy pull ups.

My 6 year old step daughter has started to do the same thing. She usually wets and stays in clothes does not bother her. She even will get rashes from it.
I've begged her to change and sometimes she just will not. She started wetting the bed every night and has been to the doctor as well. Everything going came back normal. It is very frustrating. I hear noise in her room every night and walk in (usually it's her rolling around in bed needing to pee) but of course she won't get up on her own..when I make her get up she gets mad and then goes. I seriously feel for you. I'm tired of buying pull ups or washing clothes. I do notice though that cutting off fluids at 6 pm helps alot though.

First of all, I doubt a pediatrician would call a child lazy because the kid is wetting his bed.
Potty training takes lots of love and much more patience. Some kids are ready earlier than others, but most of the time it takes more than we would like to.
I read both of your posts, and I think you probably need to back off a little and do not push too hard. My older kid wore pull ups until 9; I trained him little by little without pushing, and I praised him each time he was successful. It took time because he needed time, period. My younger kid took less, and he was ready at 3; he never wanted to wear pull ups. Both of my children were different. The time always finally comes.
Your younger kid is 6; he is probably not ready yet, keep a good and consistent routine. Take him to the bathroom every specific period of time, and again, keep a consistent routine. Let him wear his pull ups until he is ready, he will be ready, believe me. The more you push the more difficult will be for the kids and yourself, and you will have to start over every single time.