Wedding Clothing Issues

Updated on February 22, 2011
L.P. asks from Uniontown, PA
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Have you or has anyone you know personally bought a wedding dress online? I don't mean on ebay or craigslist, I mean from an online wholesaler/manufacturer of dresses, like from the link below. BTW, the link also happens to be of the dress I'm considering for my wedding, but more about that in a minute.

http://www.bridalweddingdresses.us/tea-length-wedding-dre...

This particular dress is all over the web, on lots of different sites that are extremely similar to the one I linked. The sites aren't identical, but they are set up in a very similar fashion, they have the same options, and they all apprear to be operated by a non-American, as the English in much of the text is broken. It almost seems as if the same company has put multiple sites on the internet, selling exactly the same thing, which makes me cautious. Has anyone purchased from a place like this? Of course, I'm fearful of being scammed... they take PayPal, so I'd have some protection there, I'd think, and the dress isn't thousands of dollars, so I wouldn't lose my life's savings if I did get rooked, but naturally I don't want to have to go looking for something last minute if I can avoid that. I'm leary about getting something sight unseen anyhow, just not knowing how it looks on, how it will fit, etc. My plan is to err on the side of it being a little big, so it can be taken in. I think that's more feasible than going a little small, and having to lose 20 lbs. in a week or something silly like that!

As for our wedding, we will most probably be having a very small, mostly informal wedding at a bed and breakfast a mile from our home with an outdoor exchange of vows, followed by a small family dinner/reception, thus, the not so formal dress. If I do choose the dress I linked, or something similar, what should my fiance wear? He's NOT a dress up kinda guy. In fact, I've never seen him in more than khakis and a sweater, and even that's a rarity. He's a hard worker, most comfortable in his work pants and sweatshirts, lol. I can't even picture him in a suit, much less a tux, not that a tux would be appropriate or necessary for our type of wedding. But what should he wear? He's not unwilling to dress for the occasion, but we just don't quite know what to put him in.

So to summarize,

1) Have you or someone you know personally bought a wedding dress from a site like the one I linked and if so, what was your experience? Do you see any major reason NOT to order from this or a site like it?

2) If I get the dress I linked, or one very similar to it, what should my fiance wear for our wedding?

Thank you ladies for any advice you can share!

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So What Happened?

Just a little more info... I have looked at David's Bridal, both in store and online, and they just didn't have anything that thrilled me. I have looked on ebay and craigslist, but I just get frustrated, because it is so hit-and-miss, many really frumpy dresses, and never the right size... I get frustrated looking.

I do have a couple local bridal boutiques that I will look into, and one used wedding/prom dress shop that I will check too.. I am not opposed to buying used, if I can find something that I like and that fits...

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K.B.

answers from Columbus on

I work in bridal, and although I'm sure some people have had success buying their dress online, I've heard waaaaay too many horror stories. Don't do it! Altering a wedding dress is a bigger deal then you would think, even just taking it in. Also, if there is something wrong with the dress, will you really have any recourse or time to find another one? Go to a bridal boutique- not a huge chain store. You will be surprised how inexpensive a simple casual dress can be, and the service you get for the price will be well worth it.

*edit- I just looked at the dress, this is going to be really hard to alter with the ruffles, rouching, and appliqué. I wouldn't do it.

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K.P.

answers from New York on

L., so so happy that you are planning!

My niece ordered her dress online and I will say that it turned out fine. I would suggest finding a really good tailor who is willing/able to work on wedding dresses (lots won't) and get professionally "measured". Take a picture of the dress with you so that the tailor can measure accurately and help you order the best size.

As for what your fiance should wear... I would suggest a dark gray suit with a white shirt and a tie that coordinates with the bridal party. We got married in the early afternoon- my dress was floor-length, but very simple and my husband and his groomsmen wore charcoal suits. Black tuxes would have looked out-of-place at that time of day/year and with the "cocktail" attire of the guests.

He could also wear khakis with a navy blue sport coat- think New England on the beach!

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L.C.

answers from Washington DC on

If your gut feeling is making you hesitate on purchasing this dress then don't do it. It is being shipped from overseas and I didn't look at the shipping cost but I can't imagine it would be cheap.

Go to a used bridal site, like bravobride.com or use craigslist for someone local. You'd be surprised at the finds you can get! Your dress does not have to be brand new! I just sold my sister's expensive designer dress on craigslist (she lives in small town and I am near DC so I had better a better chance to sell it than her), and it was beautiful and it fit the girl who bought it PERFECTLY! She didn't even need alterations! She paid less than 1/3 of the cost of it new - so an excellent bargain!

If you just feel like you have to have a new dress, there are many discount bridal boutiques that you can find something reasonably priced and simple for your situation. (ie. David's bridal)

As for your fiance, have him wear those khakis and either a light sweater, or shirt and tie, and even a sport coat would dress that up just a bit more. That is, if he doesn't own a suit. If he does own one, he should wear it, if not, don't bother. I went to a picnic wedding years ago and he wore khakis and a nice polo shirt (it was a really hot summer day in a park) and she wore a simple white dress. They changed clothes right after to play volleyball, bbq, etc... It was lovely. No one cared what he was wearing - they were all looking at her and the beautiful setting.

Good luck on your special day! and congrats!

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A.S.

answers from Iowa City on

If you are getting married in warmish weather and you are going for a more casual look your fiance could wear a breezy linen button down.

I have purchased a bridesmaid dress online. The color was a bit different than we saw on the screen but otherwise all went well. If you purchase online just have someone available for alternations and have a backup plan in case the dress isn't exactly what you were hoping. Good luck!

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M.P.

answers from Lafayette on

i've never ordered a dress online, but i'm getting ready to start dress shopping so let me know how it goes. as for what the groom should wear, i'd put him in a suit or something similar. but that's based on what i think a wedding should be, if you want it less formal he could do khakis or something. but i just don't think it would look right.

good luck and let us know what you decide.

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A.D.

answers from Philadelphia on

The site looks ok, but I would Definitely send all your measurements, and have a professional take them, make sure you wear the shoes you plan on wearing with the dress.

I got married on the beach. I did have a full length dress. My husband doesn't own a suit. He wore a tux for the wedding. We each had 2 people in our bridal party. The guys all wore flip flops and the girls were barefoot on the beach.

Our guests wore what they liked from hawaiian shirts to "standard" suits for the guys, and different lengths and styles of dresses for the girls.

If your fiance rents a tux, he doesn't have to worry about adding a suit to his wardrobe and possibly having to wear it again. The pictures will be beautiful and classic and you will be able to tell that they are "wedding pics". That being said, there are plenty of other dress options that don't involve an actual suit or tux. Decide on something that fits both of your styles and goes with the setting and feel of the wedding/reception. while the event is for the family and guests, it is still your wedding and should reflect your personalities and desires.

Sorry I can't help more on your dress dilemna. I say put your fiance in a tux, but add a little personal flair.

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K.M.

answers from Chicago on

Ok, so you may not know that major department stores now have nice bridal collections and most are geared to second weddings or beachy/at home weddings... here is a link (i like the last one)
http://www2.jcpenney.com/jcp/XGN.aspx?N=4294943555&Ca...

The website makes me weary because there is no designer name attached to the dress that is NOT normal even for a foriegn website.
put him in a nice suit to go with your dress, nice suit/tie in a slate grey color.

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L.B.

answers from San Francisco on

Okay, first of all, I looked at the dress and it's darling! If you feel you have enough time to find something else if this dress falls through for some reason or another then go for it. As far as your handsome groom, he definitely could wear something as simple as a pair of khakis and a dress shirt but you want to make sure that he looks like the groom of the beautiful bride, not like some guy that stumbled upon a wedding. Best wishes to you and your hubby to be!

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