Trouble with Transition to daycare......again

My daughter is almost 4 and has been in daycare all her life. She is a shy child and still has times where the dropoffs are terrible, crying and begging us not to leave. I always call an hour later and the daycare provider says she stops crying as soon as we leave. When I pick her up she is playing and very happy and not always ready to go home. Her dr said some kids are just like that. I have read that a new baby causes older children to regress, go back to bottles and bed wetting, so crying again at drop off is probably part of that. We do a reward chart. every good drop off gets a sticker and at the end of a week she gets a treat. We use reward charts for a lot of things and it really works for us
Good luck (I know its really hard)
J.

Take them out of daycare. Kids should be raised by thier mother not by a daycare provider.

Hmmm. I don't think I'm harsh. People ask for advice. I suppose since I'm not coddling my advice is harsh? Please realize that like an email one can not hear a tone of voice and should not be so quick to insult me. I'll bet some could stay home if they went without stuff.

Wow Kimmie, you are pretty harsh to some of these questions. Some people can't afford to stay home or some children need socialization. Don't pass judgement on these posts!

J. - I agree with one of the other posts to do a drop in day care to see how they do. I have a friend that does that on occasion and she takes them to Kids Park. There is a website so you can check it out, I am not sure of the age requirements; however, you can always find out.
http://www.kidspark.com/

Good Luck with the transition!

J., you might try using a drop in daycare on a regular basis. We use California Kids in Rocklin and you can take them just for a hour or two a few days in a row. When your child realizes that everytime you leave them you are coming back it really helps. Also, at California Kids the staff is great and gets them involved in new activities. They have tons of new toys, sensory bins, education based activities - new stuff all the time. I have had great experiences there and all the kids I've seen usually don't want to leave. Hope this helps.
www.californiakidsrocklin.com

I just wanted to say...

I had my kids in daycare when they were babies.. I really feel they are more social and responsive to others, because they were surrounded by 'different' people..

Hi J.,

A lot of times children play up the crying when you leave to make the parent feel loved, but then a few minutes after you leave they are playing and having a good time. Is there a window or area where you can view you son after you leave to reassure you that he is alright? Another thing to look at is the daycare itself. I know when my son had this problem, the provider would pick him up, love him, take him to help her get breakfast or prepare for the day. Is the provider helping to reassure your child it will be okay? What about the other children, how does he interact with them? Another reason to watch from a distance, especially if he is not old enough to tell you. I hope everything works out.