To Test or Not to Test???

I would take the test. The pregnancy test at the doctor's office is no more sensative than the over the counter ones, so if you're trying to test early and you get a false negative at the doctor's office you might be less inclined to test again later.

Also, if you are pregnant and you lose this pregnancy as well, it should be tested for genetic abnormalities just to rule out any other underlying issues. 30% of miscarraiges are not due to genetic problems with the fetus but something medically wrong with the mother which is almost always treatable. (statistic from Parenting magazine's May2008 issue)

Good luck! :)

I would take the test. I would want to know if Iam pregnant or not, that way maybe if I am doing things that I shouldn't then I would know to stop. If you haven't been tested yet for certain test when your pregnant I would get tested. Chorosome testing, blood clotting, etc. I have gone through this 12 times out of the 12 times I have four health beautiful boys. I found out that I have tri-13 which is where one of my chorosomes over lap another one. I also have a blood clotting disorder when I get pregnant. So it might not be one reason but a few mixed. At least you would know what you are up against.

Hi K.
I guess it's easy for me to say, but if I were you I would take it. The earlier you know, the better off you will be - maybe just avoid the test altogether and go to the doctor - not only can they let you know on the spot, but they can also counsel you immediately on things you can do to try to take it easy, etc, since it appears this would be somewhat high-risk
Take care
A.

I tend to think what you really need to do for yourself is learn how to relax and not worry so much...what will be will be...

Join a Yoga class, or buy some relaxation tapes...or learn how to meditate... Get involved in being good to yourself.

Every thing we experience in life has a positive and negative side to it. We can choose to think either way. When we think positive we bring positive energy around our selves and when we think negative, we surround ourselves with negative energy... My question to you is why have you chosen to think negatively?

....yes, take a test and find out if you are pregnant. Surround yourself with beautiful positive thoughts....and give yourself a hug.

You may think you are because you want to be.. so take the test .. they are inexpensive and it cant hurt .. seems that you would worry either way.

I agree with a lot of the previous posts, it's probably better to know... emotionally i know its not that easy.
i've never miscarried (i know many women who have), but we've been trying to conceive for close to 2 years now... i used to test every month as soon as i possibly could, i just couldn't wait to find out, i invented all those pregnancy signs in my head thinking i just have to be pregnant this month, but after maybe the first 10-12 months i just couldn't take the disappointment anymore... now i never test, just wait for that darn "aunt flo" to show...
but in your case i think if you really feel that pregnant, its important you know as soon as you can just to be able to get the medical help you may need. and i think that if you were to (God forbid) lose this baby as well - if it were me i'd want to know rather that always wonder... but you know yourself best!! good luck!!! prayers for a happy and healthy 9 months!! :)

This is a hard one. Personally I would want to know if I miscarried or not so that I could mourn the lose of that life. Whether your child dies a few weeks old in-utero or in old age once he's born, that soul still deserves to be mourned. I've never been in your situation, and I pray that I don't ever have to be. But if I were, that's what I'd do. I pray that all goes well.

Take the test because you will worry either way, and if you are positive, at least your doctor can be there for you and help give your baby the best possible chance. For now, just assume that you might be and eat healthy, avoid anything bad for the baby and take your vitamins. Good luck! I feel for you!

I would absolutely test. I am a mother of 1. Prior to having my dtr I had 1 tubal & 2 misacriages. After my dtr I had 2 misses and every time I needed to know. Yes it hurt when I lost them but it was great when I didn't & had my dtr. I was nervous and constantly looked for signs of bleeding but that passed. We were always cautiously optomistic. TEST!!!!

So.....you'd rather not know if you are? Do you think that's a good idea, especially if you've miscarried before. It's always best to know no matter what. Have a little bit of faith. Perhaps the sooner you know, the better you will be equipped to handle the situation. Take better care of yourself, bed rest,or whatever else you may need to do. Take the test. Good luck.

I think you already do know, a mothers intuition is usually correct. I would try to relax and not take the test. Let your body do it's work and enjoy what you feel. When the time is right, you will have your answer.

test

you'll wory either way at least if you know you can be proactive, healthwise and precautionary

Good luck

M

I've never been in your shoes, but I can only imagine how it would feel. I think I would need to know. I don't think I'd be able to sit still long enough to write a computer post before I'd be out the door to get a test. You are going to worry either way...Hugs to you and best of luck.

I would take the test. It been said the raspberry leaf tea helps strengthen a women's reproductive organs. Good luck. D.

Hi K.,

I would test yourself just so you know. I know it would be constantly on my mind if it was me. I know how you feel though. I have 4 children -8,7,3 and 1. I miscarried in between my 2nd and 3rd child and I remember being scared the next time I got pregnant. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Hope this helps in some small way :-)

Take care,
C.

Hi K.,
Worrying doesn't get you anywhere!
So go and do the test, so you can take better care of yourself and the unborn.
You might want to go: http://C..healthyhometour.com

This might give you a clue about alot of your questions.

All the best.

C.

Take the test! Fear is no reason not to do something you know you want to do !! And GOOD LUCK!!!!

Hi K.,
I have been in your shoes, miscarriages and all. And I do suggest you test. I would ask my OB/Gyn to do blood work. then there is no guess work. That is how I handled both my pregnancies and for the one's I lost I did not test early.
M.

Hi K.... I also have misscarried and I had an ectopic pregnancy.. I had a real suspision as well that I was pregnant this time and everyone told me ot wait but I knew I needed to know to easy my mind.. I also knew that anything could happen. I am now 6 months pregnant and conceived in the same month this year that I misscarried in last year. I hope all works out for you. I am here to talk to if you need it. Its up to you whether to test but it might make you feel better to know!

Personally I would take the test, but then I am the kind of person who always needs to know. I would not be able to stand the suspense.

But that aside, I am really writing to give you a few comforting words: I have had a total of 5 miscarriages and still have two healty, gorgeous girls. So even if it does not work out this time, take heart. You are not alone and many of us have enjoyed very happy endings.

Whether you test or not, treat your body as if you are pregnant until you verify this. Take prenatal vitamins, no drinking, etc.

Just because you have miscarried doesn't mean you will again. When I had a miscarriage, my dr said one in four pregnancies end that way. Unless you have been told you have a condition that makes you more susceptible, don't worry.

K., if you know in your own heart that you are pregnant, a miscarriage will still be painful. It will still be a loss, because that baby exists in your mind and heart.

Go to the Dr. Let him do the testing, and see if there is any way that they can help you to carry all the way.

Best of luck to you.

Better to test and get your Dr involved as early as possible.

Good luck

K.,
You need to know you are pregnant and you need a doctor who specializes in problem pregnancies. I saw Sami David, MD in Manhattan and he works a lot with fertility issues especially miscarriage. I lost my first, had spotting with the 2nd and I have a son with his help. ###-###-####.
There is no use just worrying--be proactive and take control.
It will be better for you and the baby.
A.