Terrified of Crib

Updated on January 10, 2009
R.C. asks from Elburn, IL
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My daughter is 14 months, and for the last 2 months she has refused to sleep in her crib. Whenever she is put in her crib she screams and refused to go to bed. Prior to her turning one she slept just fine in her crib.

Background: I have tried putting her in her crib when she was sleepy or completely asleep. She would occasionally sleep for a few minutes and then scream. I have even stayed in the room with her to reassure her that it is ok; but that didn’t work.
My husband insisted on trying the cry it out method, but after 2 ½ hours he gave in and slept with her on the couch.

Currently she sleeps in our room on a small mattress on the floor. Unfortunately our room is too small to put her crib in our room. We love her…. But we would like to have our room back to ourselves.
What can we try to help her be comfortable in her crib again? Has anyone else had this problem? I am reluctant to do the cry it out method; but am willing to try just about anything else.

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B.Z.

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Is she teething or otherwise going through some changes?

This is probably a sign of separation anxiety. Your daughter's developmental stage is such that her memory is increasing and her imagination is starting. Please please please don't make her fears come true by making her cope on her own, crying and afraid that she's alone.

I use cosleeping methods, so my experiences won't work the same for you. However, when my son was around 14 months, he was willing to try out new techniques rather easily. Mix things up by putting her mattress on the floor in her room with a gate at the door. Or continue the current situation for another two or three months until she's transitioning into a new developmental stage. She will be less willing to try out new things after 18 or 20 months old, but it's not impossible to make changes at that age or older.

It's possible that your daughter is simply telling you that she needs more frequent reassurance from you that she is safe and loved. You might try some different techniques during awake times.

Best of luck!

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J.O.

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R.
I would give her one your "dirty shirts" one you wore to bed the night before and use it as a blanket it will help the separation. Good Luck!
J. O

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S.W.

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I would suggest to put some soft toys that she likes, like a favorite stuffed animal or a favorite blanky. I started to play peeka boo with my daughter before nap time while she's in her crib just to show her that being in the crib can be fun too. I myself just posted a request asking for advice on how to keep my 11 months sleeping in her crib when she wakes up at night, and 5 out 5 responses I got was to try the "Cry it out" method, which I've tried for the first time last night and it worked for me. She fell back asleep by herself after an hour of crying loud at 4 am! I suggest you try it and don't give in!! Good luck to you!

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V.G.

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This is exactly like what we went through. At 13.5 month we moved her to big bed and we were back to sleeping through the night in her own room.

Each child is different see if this works for u!

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A.R.

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My daughter is the same age and we co-sleep, but she is also starting to come "into her own" as far as tantrums and what she likes and doesn't like!

I have heard many accolades about _The No-Cry Sleep Solution_ book. Not sure who it is by, but I'm sure you can find it on Amazon.

Hugs,
M.

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