K.K. asks from Clovis, CA on March 28, 2007
B.V. answers from Fresno on March 30, 2007
I alos have a 14 year old that is ready to fail the 9th grade. This has been a rough year for her and I am at my wits end. I think maybe we should talk and can bounce ideas off of each other. My daughter has no interest in school, or school activities and it is a constant battle to get homework done, then once she finally does it, she will not turn it in.
My E-mail address is ____@____.com
If you would like to drop me a message I would be happy to talk with you and tell you what things I have started to try and get her some help...and Me
A.V. answers from Los Angeles on March 30, 2007
I have three daughters and one is 14. Ive been homeschooling for the last 8 years and we really enjoy it. There are so many options for her you would be surprised. What city do you live in? If your interested in this you can google homeschooling. They also have independent study through the Orange County Public School called Pacific Coast High School. They offer classes that they can go to a few days a week at will.You can talk with me if you have any more questions. My email is ____@____.com . A.
M.L. answers from San Francisco on March 30, 2007
A Month ago I was right there with ya K.. My only child is 14 going on 35 if she had it her way... I was at my breaking point at trying to get interested but was failing fast. The last thing before continuation school or worse juvinile detention center was Home Studies program where they work at there own pace and only have to go to school for one hour a week to test on past weeks assignments and retrieve new ones.
So far she has really done well, gotten A's on all test and completed all assignments.
V.W. answers from San Francisco on April 02, 2007
You have to do something SOON... I think I need some more information to help you though. Is she into anything (sports, arts, music, friends, shopping)? Does she have friends? There are a lot of things that could be going on - you need to get to the bottom of that first - perhaps she has low self esteem, is feeling overwhelmed - is bored with her classes - getting too much peer pressure - - but something is definately going on and that should be the first priority to find out what.
Two of my daughters friends have been going through his since freshmen year and both just got kicked out in their junior years - so you want to work on this now - not wait - there is still time and programs to help her get caught up.
If you tell me a little more I think I can give you some tips to help you a bit if I can... I am a teachers assistant and mother of 4.
E.C. answers from Los Angeles on April 04, 2007
I also have a 14 year old daughter. She is a freshman with freshmanitis. Loves going to school for the socializing and fun but when it comes to homework thats another story. We gave her until semester grades to get her act together, that didn't happen so my husband, myself and my daughter met with all her teachers. All her teachers said she was a good student and participates in class but doesnt do her homework. Our solution was to take away the distractions (the fun stuff). No more myspace, no Ipod, no cell phone & no make up. When the next semester grades come out and if there is improvement she will get her things back. I know it's tough but you have to try different things. Not everything works for everyone. Hope things get better!
D.J. answers from Sacramento on March 30, 2007
If she is seriously having trouble I would suggest an alternative school. I went to Walnutwood High School and finished ahead of my class. Which felt pretty good because I graduated but was still able to do things with my family. Please just keep encouraging her that she can achieve the goal. Hope this helps. D.
C.T. answers from Modesto on March 29, 2007
I am a mother of 4. Three of my children are teenagers, two in high school and one in going to high school in september.
One of my girls did well in high school for 1-1/2 years then she got to social but luckly she is on the right path now.
Has your daughter tried getting involved with a school club? Like band , or drama, a sport? This might help her become more interested in school.
How much of a influence do her friends have on her? Sometimes peersd have a lot to do with the choices our children make.
I have been through it all with my children and have lots of ideas feel free to contact me at any time. I am a great listener. Good Luck and don't give up on her! C. T
L.P. answers from San Diego on April 04, 2007
Try independent studies.she gets to do school work when she wants and it gives her a little more freedom,just make sure she isn't getting into any other trouble,or it could be something more then that,trouble with friends,self esteem issues,look into that maybe find someone for her to talk to.Don't give up on her though,and push her to stay in school,my parents didn't care about my schooling and when I told my mom I dropped out her response was well I was expecting it from you.Let's just say that's not the best approach.lol