K.H. asks from Saint Paul, MN on March 09, 2011
Sleep - Saint Paul,MN
How do i know if my 8 month old can put himself to sleep in themiddle of.thenight. rigjt now.hefalls asleep with anook at a little before 8 and wakes up off and on. I put the nook in and he sleeps again for an hout or so. He finally wakes at just before 6 he slept through the night a couple nights and now we are teething and nit sleeping. What should i do?
T.C. answers from Des Moines on March 10, 2011
but the nuk is a two edged sword. Yes it helps them fall asleep but once they loose it you are back in to replace it. I thought my daughter would eventually be able to find the nuk herself and put it back in her mouth. not so. At about 1.5 years of age we had tried cry it out successfully several times. But she would get sick and then I'd go in to her for a few nights and we'd have to start all over again with cry it out.
Then in the church nursery I saw a kid with a Pacimal (google it) and this changed my world. I did not buy one - I just made one out of a stuffed animal that she was already attached to. But now she is able to find her nuk on her own and I don't hear from her all night. Finally!
BTW - there are a few different brands of these stuffed animal/pacifier holders. Some have adapters to fit different brands of nuks. But like I said I just made my own with a little ribbon and thread, it's working out great. If you want some tips on how to make your own I'll email you pictures of ours.
C.R. answers from Allentown on March 09, 2011
Some mothers will forcefully disagree but I let my son cry it out. Some Moms don't feel comfortable with doing this, don't get me wrong, I sat outside of his room crying as well but it all worked out in the end when he was able to put himself back to sleep and stay asleep. This conditioning, for us, started earlier than 8 months. Each Mom is different. I was also told to scatter nooks around his crib, that way he could find one in the night.
R.M. answers from Seattle on March 09, 2011
No he can't he needs help, he needs you to come in a plug the nook in.
Try teaching him how to put it back in his mouth as well as try to find one in the crib, put a LOT in the crib.
You can teach him to fall asleep without the pacifier. I wrote an article on another website about ditching the pacifier, I'm not sure if I'm allowed to post the name of the site.
R. M. - Parenting Consultant & Children's Sleep Specilaist
J.G. answers from Washington DC on March 09, 2011
With working full-time mon-fri & having a 1 & 2 year old, I finally broke down & put the kids in the bed with me. Teething is a tuff time for kids & I refused to give my kids drugs to sleep during it, so do what you must. My kids are still sleeping with me due to the fact that one has severe eczema & the other doesn't want to be singled out sleeping by himself, so just be prepared if you choose to go this route to weaning him back into his own bed. I don't think I'll have much of a problem here because my boys will have each other in the same bedroom.
We're now in the process of weaning my 2 year old off the pacifier & believe me you don't want to wait as long as I have because my son hasn't been able to bite down on his front teeth since 18 months & we're unsure whether his teeth will correct on their own, so get rid of the nook sooner than later. We simply threw most of them away & yesterday he lost the last 1 & we told him "you lost it so it's gone". He's been looking for it some, but he was able to nap & go to bed without it last night, so I'm sure after a few days he'll forget all about it. Good Luck!
D.B. answers from Charlotte on March 09, 2011
K., if you want your son to learn to put himself back to sleep if he wakes in the middle of the night, you need to stop giving him the nook. When it falls out, he wakes, and then you have to put it back in. He is waking because of the nook.
The teething makes it harder, so make sure you give him some Tylenol for pain.
Research methods of self-soothing like the Ferber Method, or something similar. It will help you figure out how to help HIM learn to put himself to sleep, without you doing it for him.