Hi moms!
My daughter is 20 months old and last evening for the very first time she went peepee on the potty!!!! I bought her a potty about a month ago just to show it to her, let her sit on it, and pretent to flush. She loved it. Last night she was pointing to it and crying and trying to pull her clothes off. I thought she just wanted to "sit" on it. So I took her pants and her diaper off, she sat down and within 10 minutes she went pee pee!! OF course I carried on like a mad woman, clapping my hands, saying yippie and woo-hoo, and hugging her and everything. She was kinda looking at me like ut-oh what did I do? It was sooo cute! ANYWAY, my question is how old were your girls when they started to potty train? When I told people that I had bought the potty I got alot of negative feed back telling me that she was too young, and that it would just confuse her. My concern is that she is in daycare 4 days a week, and while we haven't totally touched on the subject they have mentioned in the past that they don't put the toddlers in her class on the potty...not until she is almost 3 and in the next level class. Obviously if she continues to do this at home I will talk to the director to see what can be done about that rule. But in the meantime, I am curious to know how old your little girls were their first time, and what you did afterwards to reward them and what you did to encourage it. I'm hoping this wasn't a one time thing, but don't want to push either.
Thanks!
****UPDATE**** I asked the teacher at daycare about it, and she said that as long as my daughter is doing it at home, they would be more than happy to help her try it at day care!! Yay! She assured me that they don't push the issue, but will ask her at diaper change time, and IF she goes, then great! I AM SOOO EXCITED!!!
First of all CONGRATS she did it on her own!! All children have thier wn little internal potty clocks. I have 3 girls and they started all about 18 months or so. All of them were finally done potty training about 2 1/2 so for some its a logn process but you sound like you are a lucky one and she wants to go voluntarily. Good for you and keep up the good work! Good Luck!
each child is diffrent,
But what i would do is try to start training her,
see how she responds, as far as switching classes, I think it will be far more difficult for her, however maybe a diffrent daycare would be better for her.
its no diffrent than switch ing a class and teachers.
M
There is no set age in my opinion. Each child is different! As to how to reward her you did just the right thing, maybe a little to energetic with it.You don't want to scare her. Just praise her for being a big girl. DON'T start buying her things for a reward. Just let her know you are happy she is going on the potty and that your happiness and pride is her reward. Congrats
There may be a time where she may revert, so don't let that surprise or discorage you.
CONGRATS- shes telling you shes ready- and many other parents whos children trained older will tell shes too young and shes not. Every child is different. Jean everybody told me my daughter was too young as well-she started training at 18 months and school wouldnt cooperate with me- Finally after 2 months of going potty for me in the potty I went in and insisted again they start helping me and offer her the potty with the over 2's in her class- (many almost 3 year olds not trained:() -the first couple of days in undies at school when I finally got them to agree she was having lots of accidents even though she didnt at home because school had made her wait and pee in her pull up for the last 2 months -so she thought thats what you do at school but after a few days she realized its like home and you use the potty- waiting until 3 is ridiculous if the child is ready sooner- its no more effort for them to put her on the toilet than it is to dress and undress her and wipe her for a diaper change and its confusing for your child to go back and forth to diapers and potty. Why should you delay development and hundreds of dollars on diapers for the schools convenience? You shouldnt- I talked to them and they caved. My daughter was completely potty trained for days and only wears big girl undies since 22 months. I do have her in a diaper at bedtime only and she is starting to wake up dry some mornings (others soaking wet) so it will be a while in nighttime diaper- this morning and some others she woke up and yelled to go potty and had never peed in her diaper at all. Good luck, perhaps switch to a pull up to mak eit easier and keep offering and when you start to get a few more successes and can stick clos eto home for a few days and want a potty trained child switch to cloth (training or plain) undies so she can really feel when she wets and if you see the poop face run and put her on it and make the big happy fuss -after a couple of days she will probably be doing great!! My daughter loved Elmo so I got her elmo "big girl" undies and you dont want to pee on Elmo;) she also got 1 M&M after using the potty and that combo of getting to feel wet and getting rewarded, & reading potty books did the trick. Mommy is thrilled as you can probably tell:)
M.
Just wanted to say CONGRATS! That is always a big moment. My daughter was 2.5 when she was fully trained. She probably started around 24 months-I really don't remember. My son was 3.2 when he was completely trained.
I diod bribe my daughter from time to time because honestly I had no idea what I was doing and I hated the whole process. The bribes never worked, never! In retrospect, the onlt thing that really worked was patience. They are going to do it when they are good & ready.
And if your daughter is good and ready at 20 months then I am so envious! But do not let anyone else make you feel bad for it. I do not think you are going to confuse her at all. 20 month olds know what a potty is and it sounds like she has the muscle control & the cognitive abilities to do what needs to be done. Go with it. Praise her. Rewards are ok just not bribes. Way to go & good luck with the rest!
A.
Hi! Like some others who have replied, my daughter started at around 18 months and was totally trained by 2.5. Each child is different but I believe slow, steady encouragement is the best way to go. They will all get it on their own when they're ready. During the year that she was in "training" there were some points when she thought she got it only to realize she hand't. But at 2.5 I finally had to put my foot down with her daycare provider and told her that for over a month she was staying dry all 3 days that she was home with me (Fri-Sun) and that I needed her to agree to let me bring her in panties (this was in her home). She finally agreed and had only one accident. After that she realized she needed to use the potty there too and she was done. Good luck!
my littly guy started peeing on the potty before he was 2 when you put him on. actually the daycare would put the kids on everytime they changed diapers (so every 2 hours). This really prepared him for full blown training/undies (we did it for 2 days when he was 27 months). people kept saying boys take longer but i think that every child is different. if they are interested, go along with the interest. if he hadn't been interested, i would have waited.
my daughter was 19 months when she started going on the potty all by herself too...that lasted about 3 weeks. I didn't change a wet or poppie diaper for 3 weeks, thought I had a phenom on my hands, and with a 3 month old in the midst, I was thrilled to be on my way to no diaps for the older one. Well, after about 3 weeks, she wasn't interested anymore! I kept the potty in the bathroom and one in the car, but nothing. Not sure what the deal was, but with a new sister in the house, I certainly didnt' want to start creating drama over her potty training. About 5 months later, she began again and this time it was for real. She potty trained for day and night at the same time, so we were out of diapers completely practically overnight.
Something I did notice when she was potty training and now as my younger one is starting, whenever they wake up at night crying, they ALWAYS have to go potty. My husband thought I was crazy, and would try and rock them, put them in our bed, rub their back and it never seems to settle them back in for good for the night. Each time I would walk them quietly while they cried to the bathroom, help them on the potty, listen to them pee, wipe them and walk them back, by the time they reached the bed they practically couldn't climb back in because they were asleep already! My older daughter would start to fall asleep as she was peeing sometimes. It was really funny. Once my husband figured it out, he was thrilled to help them to the bathroom. My 26 month old has been going on the potty occasionally during the day, but last night for the first time she woke up saying "i go to the potty now" it did take 3 trips to the potty, quietly, being patient before she went, but right back to sleep afterwards. Good luck.
