Online Dating Websites

I did e-harmony but it is a lot of work and I met some nice guys on there and then I met some real jerks. That happens anytime you put yourself out there. I then over 6 years ago went on plentyoffish.com and tried that dating website. It's free and I met some nice guys and some creeps on there as well. I also met my husband on that site and we have been happily married for almost 3 years and have a 10 month old son. I think my husband is my soul mate and we are great together. No matter what site you try you have to go into it with positive thinking. Always meet someone for drinks, never have them pick you up! If you meet for drinks and things dont go well, you can always get out of staying with the person longer by saying you have plans afterwards. If it goes well, you can get dinner as well. Drinks are a good starter and you learn a lot about a person in 5 min. You know if you will like them or not. Just live for today when you are dating. if someone calls then they call but don't get hung up on them calling you back. You weren't meant for that person. Believe in your instincts and have fun most of all. One thing about e-harmony was the free dating books that were sent to me. You go looking for a soulmate, you need a checklist of things that they must have and things that you can't stand. Don't compromise on the can't stand if you don't like the habit then that person isn't for you. Think up ten things for each list. Must have: a job, nice car, stable finances, his own place, or a room mate that you like. Can't stand: Smoker, swears a lot, drinks too much, smokes weed, anger issues, doesn't seem to care about anything. Think hard about it. Can't stand any of those then he's gotta go. Smoker but is quitting, maybe a potential person. Listen to what you like and write it down. Kind of like the universe will respond to your wants. Good luck in the search and remeber, sometimes you have to kiss a lot of toads before you find your prince.

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I met my husband on a Christian singles dating site. There were some stranges guys on there, but you trust your instincts. We chatted online for a few days, then moved to phone calls, and then decided to meet in person after 4 weeks of long-distance stuff. (He lived about 8 hours away.)

I think online relationships are often stronger because you get to the know the real person rather than being persuaded/biased by outward appearances. My hubby and I joke that if we had met in person first, neither of us would have "hit on" the other simply because we weren't what we had typically dated before and what we thought we'd be attracted to. (Picture me - a college professor with glasses, and him - a construction worker with tattoos.)

But our personalities are perfect for each other and I've never been so in love before. :)

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I met my husband on Match.com 6 years ago, we'll be married for 4 years next week :-) Give it a shot, I signed up for 'shits and giggles' cause a male friend of mine was a member....... I tell my hubs he's the Best $30 Bucks I've ever Spent !! LOL
Good Luck

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Did jdate with no luck, but quite a few dates. Then for the heck of it signed up for match. One guy winked (first guy), I winked back, then the emails went back and forth for about 2 weeks. The emails were very long, so he sent his phone number. I called, we met, dated for a year, engaged for a year and just celebrated our 5th wedding anniversary.

If you do it, do so with the intention of having fun. And look at it as one option to meeting someone. But be careful, spend some time getting to know him before meeting, and meet in a populated area. Be smart.

I say go for it. I met my husband on a Catholic singles website, and my best friend met her fiance on eharmony. Positive results here!

I know a dozen couples who have met through Math or Yahoo personals. They are all very happy!!

I agree with all the posters, online dating is an amazing way to meet people you never thought you would but...beware...a lot of men go online to 'step out' on their women and cheat...and additionally a lot of guys go online to just have a sexual experience...weed those guys out....good luck honey ;)

Never tried it myself - can't imagine choosing a potential life partner based on a questionnaire.
I know several people who have done, some with very good results, some not.

Everyone has pretty much said everything that I would share...I know people put online dating down....it's just like any other way to meet someone only you don't see them face to face...you get to know the person's heart first before the face. I have met people that stocked me and lied to me, but I have also met people that have become my forever friends. I just wanted to add in another free site that seems to have some quality people...okcupid.com Also a good one for single moms and dads is singleparentmeet.com It does cost money, but we are the target audience.
good luck.

I've been doing the online dating thing for a few months. For every one good guy, there are about 10 weirdos so you just have to be careful and do a lot of prescreening. Always meet in a public place the first time and drive yourself. Although I have yet to meet "the one" I have made one really good friend that I continue to hang out with regularly. Good luck!

I met my husband on a dating web site :) This was a free one tho, plentyoffish.com I don't think it's necessary to pay for that stuff lol You just setup a profile & look at profiles of guys in your area. Talk to who you want, meet up with who you want. Just be careful!

I still remember the first day my husband & I chatted through that site. Met that afternoon & the rest is history hehe :)

i met my husband on the yahoo singles one. it was over 10 years ago. it works just like any other method of meeting people. you just have to go into it knowing that no one is perfect and no dating site is perfect either. keep an open mind and be willing to put yourself out there a little bit. good luck!

I sat next to a friend getting a pedicure that I haven't seen in years and turns out she is engaged to a man she met on Match. She went on a few bad dates also, but then met him and they hit it off. I think they can be good if you go in not expecting the first one to be your match made in heaven!

I met my husband on Match- I also went on a couple of terrible dates too from Match. Honestly, it's pretty convenient and there are tons of "normal" people online who just don't want to deal with the bar scene or are too old/mature/smart to think that you will meet a person randomly anymore!

Think of it as a "digital blind date"!

I met my husband on what was matchmaker 8 years ago. My best friend met her husband from there and her husbands best friend met his wife there on the same site all within a year.

I had lots of dates in the four months I was doing online dating. I would always meet them somewhere, drive my own car and no one ever had my home address. There were lots of guys that I met that I didn't care for, no freaks... I just wasn't interested in them. Mind you that I chatted a lot with them before going on a date. It took a lot of my time during those four months but the result was were greatness. I have an awesome husband.

Good Luck

I tried them years ago but was never successful. I dated a handful of guys through my friends and finally met my husband through a couple we both know and I've decided, for me, that its better to just get out and meet people. You can really get a sense of who someone is before you date them by being around them and being friends.
However, I do think that online dating can be great and SO many people have used it and been successful.

My results were positive! Signed up for yahoo 2 years ago about this time and my 2 year first date anniversary w my boyfriend is comic up Aug 8th. :)

My roommate on the other hand is a different story. I actually signed up for yahoo so she would have someone to do it with her. She only dated two people from there and neither were a good experience. Shealso recently joined Match (which is what Yahoo was merged into) and hasn't had a single date yet. I think it's been 3 months. I think it has a lot to do with your personality. My roomie is very shy and can't bring herself to start a conversation. She may get brave enough to wink at someone, but that's the extent.

I think that if you have an open mind and are willing to share who you are, you'll find people who are interested in you. I do agree with whoever put to not compromise with the things you don't like.

Have fun! I had a blast talking to all of the different guys! Loved it!

I used match.com in 2003/2004. I met my now husband in 2004. I will say this, I received thousands upon thousands of responses, but only went out with two people (one of which I ended up marrying). The first guy was nice and we had a pleasant time, but there wasn't any chemistry. It can be a bit disheartening and there are a lot of people on their only looking for a booty call. So, really know what you're looking for in someone and be very picky about who you go out with. I'll tell you my story:

On match, they do this thing where they send you people who they think are a good match. This one guy kept getting sent to me and I would read his profile and really like what he had to say, but thought he looked a little too 'outdoorsy' for me. Finally, one day, I thought what the heck and 'winked' at him (winking is a way to say you're interested without actually emailing the person). The day that I winked at him, he was leaving town for work. By the time he got to his hotel, he logged onto match with the intention of cancelling his account, but instead saw my wink. He had checked out my profile before and really liked what I had to say, but thought that I might be a bit of a party girl, so never contacted me. Since, I winked at him, he decided to email me. We emailed back and forth for the next two weeks. Then we decided to exchange phone numbers. Our first phone call lasted an hour. At that time, we decided it was time to meet - for drinks and appetizers. We ended up talking on our 'drink and appetizer' date for over 3 hours. It was only later that he realized he probably should have suggested dinner. The rest is history. We married in 2009 and now have a wonderful 3 year old little boy;)

p.s., we're both older than the typical in your twenties dating. We both have jobs where we have no desire to find a mate at and had no desire to go to bars. At the time we were 34 & 36 respectively.

I met my fiance' on eharmony! If you do online dating, just be very careful and don't get discouraged if it takes many many dates to find the right guy!

I think they are a great option. You do meet a lot of weirdos but there are good ones there too..You just have to keep fishing until you catch the big one. LOL. Be cautious and look for red flags before you meet anyone. Have fun.