Ny Baby Wont Sleep in the Crib

You probably have gotten answers that you didn't like. I went through it as well and it comes down to the fact that you allowed the habit to form and it's up to you to change it. Be prepared for some sleepless nights and just let them cry themselves back to sleep. After about a week of it, he new I was not changing my mind and now my son sleeps through the night in his own bed, and so do I. The alternative, just keep dealing with it.

i know what you are going through. I did the biggest mistake that we as mother can do to our kids and is taking them out of the crib at an early age. I did the samething with my 2 1/2 year old and boy did i pay for that one to make it worst I took his crib apart and got him a toddler bed. Now that i'm trying to get him to his room in his own bed, I have to let him fall asleep in my bed then transfer him to his own bed. He has done pretty good so far, but there are days that i want to be bymyself and relax and he doesn't let me. I be telling my best friend about it and she tells me "that's why i never took my kids out of the crib and but them to sleep with me". Honestly, your best bet is to but her in the crib and when is her time to go to bed. She is going to cry and you are going to feel guilty but let me tell you have to be very strong. She will be used to the crib again in a couple of days. Don't give up because is could get worst. I'm telling you it gets harder when they are bigger. Do it now, now that she is still little. DON"T GIVE UP!!! Always remember that after the rain you will see light. STAY STRONG!!!

Hi L.,
I experienced the same exact thing. My daughter who is now 6, still has this anxiety about sleeping apart. Here is what I did... I purchased an item called a co-sleeper. Its about the same size as a pack n' play but it rises to be even keeled with the bed. (works well if you are nursing too.) I would let my daughter fall asleep with us then gently slide her into the cosleeper. This way she could still feel my touch, know I was there but give us the room we needed to sleep. I found mine on ebay but if you just google co-sleeper you should be able to find one... Well worth the investment. Try this link http://babybungalow.com/arreacuncos1.html
I had my flush up against a wall, then had my bed flush to the opening... She slept in it for a looooong time. Then we wound up getting a toddler bed and put it in the same spot as a replacement. Now she finally sleeps in her room but with a struggle...

My baby is 2 and he won't sleep in his bed either. When he was little he wouldn't sleep in his crib. He finds it very comfortable to be in between my husband and I. We are to the point where we have to plan mini vacations to go away just to be alone.Its very difficult. I made his toddler bed so much fun to sleep in but he hates it. I think he is attached to having someone next to him. SOOO we are still trying every day to get him to sleep in his bed by waiting until he is in a deep sleep then sneak him into his bed. However, sometimes he notices and gets up in the middle of the night and gets back into our bed. We need help too!!!!!

My daughter was the same way. She absolutly hated her crib and would always sleep with us. When she was a litte of 1 years old we bought her a toddler bed and put it next to our bed. That seemed to work. At the beginning she would still wake up in the middle of the night and join us but about a month later she would stay in her bed for the full night. She was in her own bed but was close to me also. Now she is almost 4 and has been in a room that she shares with her younger sister for about 1 1/2 years now. It was rough but she grew out of wanting to be in our bed.

I know I responded before. My son ws the same way. He went through teething, colic and eczema and used to scream for HOURS. We kept putting him in the crib for countless nights but it is finally paying off. I used to hang over the crib and pat his back until he went off to sleep. I also established a consistent bedtime. Does she respond to music? My son is very receptive to the baby einstein musical CDs. I pop it in before he goes to bed each night and he falls asleep right away. You may have to sacrifice and hear her scream for a few nights to get the long term benefit. Good Luck

It sounds like you really need to help her transition to sleeping on her own.

If you can somehow work on transitioning her slowly to her own room. Some different ideas (please read them all to see what might help most... the website link should be most helpful) are:

-put her crib in your room for awhile... however long it takes for her to get comfortable in it.
-have her play in her crib once a day to get more comfortable with it. stay in the room next to her... and just sing with her or read a book... but insist that she stay in her crib for maybe 10-15 minutes.
-introduce a "lovey"-- an object (stuffed animal, blankie, etc.) that you always keep with her when you are putting her to sleep/ nursing... and lay her down with it when she goes to sleep.
-I think getting her to sleep naps in her crib is the first step.
- you could try letting her sleep on the floor in your room.... and see if it helps.
-YOU could sleep in her room for awhile, until she gets used to it. Put her to bed in her crib and you sleep on the floor or something in her room for awhile... and when she wakes just reassure her that you are there... but don't get her out of her crib. there is a link to suggestions that might work http://www.drjaygordon.com/development/ap/sleep.asp (this website REALLY helped us get our dd to sleep longer in her crib)

-no matter what you try she will fight it... but if her sleeping with you is messing up your family... you NEED to insist on her sleeping in her own bed (or somewhere NOT your bed!)

Hope that helps!

if you try the one suggestion on putting her in the crib for a little play time, i would suggest to also have some tv time in the crib. i do that with my daughter. she has her educational tv time, and care bears tv time. and now at 1 1/2, she actually asks for her "me" time by going in the room, and calling us in, pointing to the tv and trying to climb IN her crib. and SOMETIMES she gets 20-30 min wind-down time with tv time in her bed right before bedtime. this way she's ALREADY in her bed and all i have to do is give her her milk, and turn off the tv and light, put on the music, sometimes read a book, and she's out within 5-10 minutes (usually without a problem). but she just started this routine about 2 months ago, and has only been sleeping in the crib through the night for about 6 months. so it DOES get better. good luck again.