No Sex Drive! - Pocatello,ID

Can't say if it's medical or not, but try reading the Twilight books - no joke. They work great, even if you weren't feeling it before, they seem to do the trick and I know I'm not the only mom who's thought that. If you haven't read them, then do, and if you have then read them again. It's very cleanly written, no smut, but let's just say that most husbands really like it when their wives read these books. Good luck!

I hope it's normal, cause same thing here. I think it's hard to switch from mommy/caregiver mode to sexy lover. Also being tired all the time does not help. I find if I take a nap in the afternoon (if both kids nap at the same time LOL) and drink some caffeen in the late afternoon I'm a little more responsive. I also find if I take a walk or get some sort of exercise and shower right befor going to bed it seems to help. I read blood circulation and rest are big factors in a womans sex drive so I'm working on that, but still struggling.

Breastfeeding releases hormones that suppress your sex drive. When you daughter starts eating solids and you start feeding her less if you don't get more of a sex drive back you might want to see your doctor about it. I'm almost done weaning my 13 month old and my sex drive is almost back on track. Good luck to you!

Breastfeeding can lower your sex drive, as well as cause you to need more lubricant. It is normal with such a small baby and so many demands on your time to lose interest in sex, but its great that once you do it you still enjoy it, I get to be the same way spometimes. One thing that helps is just making time to talk and cuddle and really connect with your husband, then you will feel more receptive to hainvg sex. Sex can be seen as a way to show your husband that you love and appriciate him, I know that sounds weird but for men that is a common way that sex is percieved. So sometimes I just do it even when I don't really feel like it that much because I just want him to know how great I think he is and how much I appriciate all that he does for me, and it turns out that I have as much fun as he does!

Hi,
After I had the twins I had and sometimes still have the same issue. I went to my doctor and he said that my adrenal glands were week and trying to take care of my entire body. He started me one some natural medicine that really gave me a boost and I started feeling great. I went off the medicine, due to finances, just as they were starting to heal and messed everything up. I am getting back on the medicine now and staying. A lot of MD docs don't think about the adrenal glands and how they keep everything in your body regulated. I try to go to a DO (difference: a DO goes to more school than an MD) so that they will look at the entire body instead of a piece.

Hope this helps. Just make sure you get lots of rest and drink lots of water in the meantime.

totally and completely normal. your sex drive may not return until your period does, or maybe not even until you stop nursing. breastfeeding tends to dry one out in the nether regions and with two kiddos, one can also feel "touched out" at day's end and just not want anymore touching going on. this too shall pass, and certainly i would never advise giving up nursing for the return of the sex drive. . . . but maybe share some of the info you find with your hubby and help him to understand, but when you feel the slightest twinge of a sex drive. . ATTACK!

It is totally normal, hormones will breastfeeding are the culprit. My daughter is 3 months and I feel exactley the same way... word for word!!! I don't know anything about it, but I've heard the herb Damiana is good for that. Otherwise, just do the best you can, try to turn off mommy mode and concentrate on each other, and really talk with your husband about what's going on and what you need.
S.

I had the same problem when my 2 close kids were younger. I think it has something to do with having little to no "personal time" and space. Think about it you are hugging, kissing, consoling, changing, feeding, cleaning, all day....You are tired and the idea of making love goes way down on the list of priorities, especially when just taking a walk takes 10 to 20 minutes to get out the door and may only last 10 minutes. Taking more time (a scheduled time each day) for yourself may help dramatically. Stress will also cause similar problems so if you have both the 2 young kids and stress it is little wonder you aren't jumping up and down on a regular basis for a little Sex. Once the baby is sleeping throught the night and the younger one is in preschool things should get much much better. Also once they are both in preschool *if you don't take on too much extra stuff, you should feel a resurgence too.
Hang in there, it should change in the next few months...But give yourself time to recover.
R.

I experienced this with all 3 of my kiddos. I nursed all of them and didn't have a period (or a sex drive!) for about 15 months after giving birth. As soon as my period returned, so did my libido, practically overnight. Even though I was still nursing, as long as I was ovulating, it was all good again. Your estrogen levels generally stay low while nursing, and it is an important hormone for your sex drive. Low estrogen = Low sex drive. Be patient with yourself. Make sure your husband knows you still find him attractive and it is all the hormones fault! (and that you will be back to normal soon!)

There are definitely some herbs that can help, like Dr. Christopher's Libido formula. Exercise helps, because it helps circulation and helps those endorphines. Spicy foods, like chicken wings and salsa are a good option too. Be careful about getting too many peppers or vitamin C. Enough is good, but too much makes it hard for your body to produce the fluids that help make it enjoyable. Lastly, a don't say no policy really helps. You may not feel in the mood, but by the time he (how do I say this?), anyhow, you get the idea. Lastly, get yourself some lingerie and make sure the bedroom is a romantic domain - lose the kids toys and such. Best of luck probably isn't the best thing to say here, lol.

After having my first and well second twin boys I still had a sex drive. After my daughter was born nothing at all. I could still O but I didnt want to have sex at all. I did still because my husband did and it wasnt fair to him I had something going on. He didnt push me heck I dont even think I told him for the longest time. For me it took about two years before it came back. I also nursed my daughter for 13 months so I thought that might have something to do with it. So for me and a few other mommy's I know its normal.

It's not necessarily the breastfeeding, but it is hard to switch back and forth from being a mommy to just a woman, so to speak. Hormones can be an issue, too. Not to mention the pressure of one more person depending on you. There are some vitamins that you can get at health food stores that are supposed to help your libido, but I haven't tried them. There are also some creams that you can apply to help you get in the mood - try slumberparties.com or a similar site. Also, if you spend all your times with the kids, try to find some alone time for yourself. It's hard to feel like a woman when you play mommy all day.

This is very likely hormonal, and also very likely related toyour breastfeeding. Nursing can (but doesn't always) suppress ovulation. For some, that doesn't change anything. For me personally, no ovulation=no sex drive. When I was postpartum I always struggled with this until my kids went on solids. Although still nursing, it changed things just enough that my periods would resume and so would my libido! This will be challenging for me as I am approaching menopause. But hopefully for you, you will see the light at the end of the tunnel! Good luck!

My GF's and I have been talking about this recently. I don't know if you are taking a nursing safe form of Birth Control, but I have discovered that when I am on any BC anymore, I have no "get up and go" if you will. Begin exploring other BC options that are hormone free. I was on BC for 15 plus years but now being off since January, I feel like a whole new person..and my husband is thankful too :)

hormonal, phase, breastfeeding definitely a factor - plus, it's your second so obviously you're not getting much rest. Give it a few months, it will return.

I totally had the same problem after my son. I went to the doctor and we played around with my birth control to get my hormones more normal, but there are other things they can do too. I know how frustrating it is. I would definitely ask your doctor (I talked to my OB and they said they help a lot of people with that) Good luck!

Hang in there girl! I feel you on this one. I had my first this past Oct. and until just recently, I had no drive what so ever! It was horrible. I felt like I was just going through the motions everytime my husband wanted to make love. Good news, within the last month (8 months since baby) I have a drive again and it is even stronger than before. I hope this will be the same case for you. Good luck and have fun with your babies!

Ah yes, I was worried about this too! I asked my OB who I have been seeing for years at my last check up if this was normal and she said yes, that the average couple does it once a month! I don't know about you but I just love to sleep when I am in my bed! Sometimes I just have to get myself psyched about it during the day, and I try to do it once a week! Maybe a little glass of wine. Also I know when my husband does thing's to lighten my load it makes thing's better in that area! Is your husband helpful with the kids and your worklaod around the house? Hang in there, this is so normal!