E.C. asks from Rockwall, TX on September 23, 2008
Need to Transition Toddler to Big Girl Room
My husband I just had a new baby. Unfortunatly, my almost 21 month old is still using the crib. We have our 11 week old still sleeping in our room for this reason. We are really ready to move our baby to the nursery and our toddler to her new room upstairs. I need to get some sleep b/c I start work next week. I am a little nervous about this transition from a safety perspective. We have an adult size bed (full) and we bought side rails to keep her from falling out. Plus she will be upstairs with the rest of us downstairs. Has anyone been in a similar situation? How did the toddler do in the adult size bed?? Any issues with being upstairs?
So What Happened?™
I got a lot of great advice which I decided to use when she turns two or a little closer to two. I am going to take some time of work in November to get her "big girl" room ready so that it can be a BIG surprise for Christmas. She will be a little older by then and I may feel a little more comfortable by then as well. I am still just nervous about her being in the full bed and upstairs. The reason we want to still use our full bed is b/c we get a lot of company and we also want her to be able to use it through H.S. I just don't see a good reason to purchase a toddler bed that would only be used for a year or less. As for the little one, I tried putting her bassinet in our Master Bedroom Closet (it is quite big) with the door open so that I can hear her cry. That has worked out great so far! I know that it sounds really crazy and my husband jokes that I should hang a nursery picture in there. However, she has been sleeping better and so have we. She only woke up once last night at 3:30am to be fed. Then slept until 6:45am this morning!!! Obviously, this is a short term solution. However, I am going to get my toddler's room ready upstairs in November and put a gate at the door. We already have gates at the staircase. I most likely will just sleep on the floor for a few days to see how it goes. Based on a lot of the comments; I feel pretty confident that it will work out fine. Thank you so much for all of the great advice!!!!
E.S. answers from Dallas on September 24, 2008
No issues of being upstairs verses down stairs, but I did just convert my toddler to his own bed so that the crib can be freed up. It was suggested that we do it before the baby came so the toddler didn't feel like the baby was taking his stuff. Man he was quite proud of the fact that he had his own bed and that he could get in and out of anytime he feels like it so I don't think he will have a problem with the baby having the crib. Before you give the crib to the baby, you should give the toddler a since of ownership to the bigger bed so that they will not feel like they are being replaced by the baby. Otherwise you can potentially have two babies to deal with instead of a new born and a toddler.
E.B. answers from Dallas on September 23, 2008
I would highly recommend putting a babygate in your daughter's new bedroom doorway to keep her from being able to leave her room at night. Also, of course a babygate at teh top of the stairs. Just be sure you still have a monitor in there and that she understands if she needs you she can jsut call out your name and you can come get her. That way she won't try to go down the stairs by herself in the middle of the night if she's scared or anything.
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D.D. answers from Dallas on September 24, 2008
While you are still at home start to transition her into the big girl bed at nap time. This way you can get an idea of how she is going to sleep in the big bed. Another thing that will help YOU sleep is to get a second baby monitor and place it in her room. Our youngest now about to be 5yrs sleeps on the other end of the house from us. We went from a crib to a toddler bed (at almost 2) and then a twin bed at almost 4yrs. The toddler size bed was great for two reasons. 1)It gave her a since of this is HER room because everything is on her level. 2)If she needed to get up in the night for the potty, she could easily get in and out of the bed without fear of injury.
Mom of 2 (18 and almost 5)
A.C. answers from Dallas on September 24, 2008
I completely understand your situation. We are expecting our second child in the next few weeks and we needed to transition our 17 month old son into a full size bed. He now sleeps upstairs in his big bed with no problems. The first night we moved him to his big bed, my husband slept with him because our son is a crazy sleepter. Then the next night I slept on the floor in his room, just for my own peace of mind. He has done great. He has never fallen off or anything and he is still a crazy sleeper. He has been in the bed now since he was 15 months old.
B.U. answers from Dallas on September 24, 2008
We had a very similar situation and the transition went very smoothly.
My oldest was 21 months when we had our 2nd child. We read that we should complete the transition before the baby was born so there weren't so many changes happening at once. When we moved her to the big bed, she wanted her crib back. I left her crib in her bedroom with the big bed and that was a big mistake. In the begining, we would put her in her bed and she would climb back out and run towards the door. Once I moved the crib out it was only a few days before she would climb into her big bed and go to sleep. There were a few days when naps were excrutiating, but I was really impressed that the whole transition took less than a week.
I suggest letting her play on the big bed at first to become familiar. We covered our child's bed in stuffed animals and let her play up there during the day before we ever associated it with sleeping. Starting out with just naps in the big bed for a few days was also suggested to us. Oh, and it's definitely worth noting that we have a safety gate at the top of the stairs so she doesn't come downstairs on her own while we are sleeping and when she first started sleeping in her big girl bed I put a gate in her doorway as well for added protection.
S.K. answers from Dallas on September 24, 2008
i'm not sure if this is something you can or want to try but this worked for my husbands aunt and uncle with a similar situation. They had double glass sliding doors on their closet which was pretty big. They put their daughters toddler bed in there for a bit until she got used to sleeping in her own bed. Of course they took the doors off and moved the clothes out from that side of the closet. BUT..that would mean your daugher would be in your room although not in your bed. I know this isn't really a GREAT suggestion, but it did work for them and it made the transition easier on mom and daughter both. I have a son who is 16 months old and i wonder how i will handle this same situation when the time comes so good luck to you; i'm sure i'll be checking out your responses!!! :)
V.S. answers from Abilene on September 24, 2008
I would just add to the suggestion of getting a toddler bed for her. We got ours at Wal-Mart for around 50-60 I think. At age two we moved our daughter from the crib into the toddler bed b/c the bed in her room is queen size. I just think they need the security of a smaller sleep space for a while longer.
As for being upstairs alone, it isn't something I would be comfortable with personally, but if you are then I would heed every single one of the safety suggestions that others have already given. If you are not comfortable with it but are doing it b/c you feel that you have to or you don't have another choice, maybe the toddler bed could go in the nursery downstairs with you guys? Or is there a second guest room upstairs, maybe you guys could sleep up there? Tough decision.
Back to work in one week? wow! You have your work cut out for you this week, our sleep transitions always took longer than that, I will pray yours will be quicker!
A.L. answers from Dallas on September 24, 2008
I was in that situation last year. My daughter went to a full size bed and never fell out of it. She was that exact same age. Her bedroom is upstairs next to the babies. I put a baby gate at her door so she could not get out of her room. I still to this day have a monitor in her room so I can hear her. Good luck with your decision and I hope this helps.
J.R. answers from Dallas on September 24, 2008
Have you thought about buying a daybed and having them share a room? This is what I did for my 2yr old son when my daughter was ready to transition (she was sleeping through the night). Also with the daybed and bedrail, it looks like a giant crib.
My mother thought I was crazy, but I think it was comforting to both of them, and they shared a room until she was two. To get your 21month old out of the crib, I would let him/her pick out her own bedding.
Hope this helps!