Naming Baby After M.

No, it's not weird - men do it all the time :-)

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It's obviously a personal choice, but I don't like it. I think kids deserve their own name and identity. :)
I can see naming after a grandparent or distant relative, but not after yourself.

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My husbands aunt is named Anneleise and so is her daughter, but they call her Liese, I do think it is a little wierd, but seriously, who cares, if it is what you like and want to do, than go with it :)

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If you choose to name your child after yourself, please give yourself the nickname.

Please name your child what you are going to call her. My husband was named after his father but they called him by his middle name. This has screwed us up to this day. All his dcuments have different names on them which are now alias.

Also, being in HR, I hate when I see people have their name on top of their resume with a nick name in quotes. It looks very unprofessional.

My friend named her baby after her MIL- whom they live with. To keep the distiction between the two they call the little one by her middle name. there are many people that co by a nickname, shortened version of their name (ie: Jon for Jonathan, or even their middle name. My grandmother goes by her middle name and always has (I;m not sure why though). So, my vote is not wierd at all!
Just make sure when it comes to legel documents, school registration,mail, things like that it had her "real" name on it.

I know of several women who have done this. My best friend in high school was Kathy after her M. and my aunt also named her daughter Diane after herself, and the list goes on.

My name is Jaclyn (J.) Lillian, my son is Jack and my daughter is Lillian (Lilly)...so I did it too if you think about it.

Oh my goodness!! Bet your weren't expecting this many replys. I just had to chime in. No I don't think it is weird at all BUT there can be complications. I am the youngest of 6 children in my family. The first born son -named after dad. the first born daughter- named after M.. as they grew older and phone calls came in for them we had to ask " are you looking for jr. or sr? mother or daughter?" then there are the legal confusions. Like that's not MY bill that's my M.'s....check the date of birth or the social security number. You will surprised as to how often there will be a mistaken identity on paper. Just my two sense -good luck.

I have a friend and her and her sister have the same middle name as their M.. I thought that was kinda strange but hey, if that's what you want then go for it!

I think that it is fine...guys do it all of the time. My great-grandma and grandma's names are Elizabeth but my grandma has always gone by Betty (an older nickname of Elizabeth). I also had a friend who's name was the same as her M.'s. When her M. cam over she called her by her middle name, but otherwise she went by her first name. That's a really cool thing to do.

In some cultures this is common, not so much in ours. I suppose there is a psychological aspect to it. I think she will be more identified with you, which she may like, or may rebel against. You could give her a different middle name and call her by that...but it could be confusing for school.

No weirder than naming after dad? More power to you.

I think a name is just a name. Pick something you like the sound of, whether thats your name or another doesn't matter IMHO. My daughter was named for a close relative who passed soon after I found out I was pregnant. Not my favorite name by any means, but it honors the person, so to me it wouldn't have mattered if it was "Pink Water Buffalo". I don't think identity and names are directly related, so that wouldn't be a concern for me. Your kid will be their own person, no matter what you call her. Giving her your name honors you,(and really who better to honor than the woman who gave her life?)and using the nickname for ease of use seems fine. It can get a bit annoying when you call out "Mary come here"....and a few people in the house turn their heads. =)

I don't think it's weird naming a girl after her mother, but I do think it's weird when a child is given a name and then called something else on a regular basis. If you don't want to call her your name, why not give her it as her middle name?

If it's ok to name a boy baby after dad, I don't see why it would be weird to name a girl after M.. I actually know a couple of women named for their mothers.

my grandmother is Rachel and she named one of her daughters Rachel. to avoid confusion they just called my aunt "little Rachel".

My Daughter is named after my Mother and Father.
Her name is V. Rae, my name is also V..
I love to call her by her full name, I don't however feel that she is named after me at all, she is definately named after and for my M. & Dad.
It's your child pick the name you like/want, whatever you are comfortable with. I will tell you my Daughter is 5 now and loves the fact that part of her name is the same as mine, she also loves the fact that she is named for her Grandme & Grandpa (whom she does not know they have passed away).
I also don't think you should call her by a nickname, give your child the name she will carry through her life, it will mean so much more to her, also wont be confusing growing up one name then changing in school.
I very much so believe names give you your identity, make it strong from the begining. I always tell my Daughter your name means something, it stands for who you are, always believe in who you are.
Best Wishes on your decision

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My aunt named her daughter after herself, and she was called Little Ev. My husband's sister named her daughter the same as well and they don't have a nickname. When my first were born, I was met with a little surprise-though never really understood why since it is not a family thing-when one was not named after myself. I did name one after my M. and sister though. I don't think there is anything wrong with it. Boys are named after the dad all the time, though I don;t think I would be comfortabel calling a female "junior".

Hi M. B,

I think it is okay to do this. I haven't actually thought about it much before to be quite honest, but since you bring it up, it is a good thing to ask.
One of my aunts sort of named one of their three daughters after herself. My uncle & her have 7 children, and this was the 6th one. The thing was, my uncle had chosen pretty much all of the other kids' names himself, and really made it clear that his wishes were paramount. (Their first son was named directly after him, a "Jr.", plus all the other kids' names either start with the same letter as my uncle's nickname, and/or were his picks). Anyway, my aunt finally said enough was enough & and put her foot down. My aunt's name is Sharon, middle name Lee, so she named their daughter Sharolee (with no middle name). Her name seemed to be quite a hit with everyone in our large family (she's now 16).
I hope this may help you in some way with your decision. Best wishes!

I don't think it's weird at all! My M. gave me her middle name as my middle name (not quite the same, I know). Then she passed away when I was six years old. Having her middle name gives me a bond with her I am very thankful for. If I'm ever blessed enough to have a daughter, I'm going to give her the same middle name to honor my M. and hopefully start a family tradition. I'm not saying something bad is going to happen to you; I'm just trying point out naming your baby after yourself will develop a unique bond between the two of you that time and distance have no effect on.

No. My grandma's name was Catherine and one of my aunts in named Catherine, they have always called her Cat. They loved the name Catherine but did not want confusion. I think it is fine.

Hi M. B No I don't think that is weird. Give her a middle name and call her by that.

I don't think it is weird. If you are comfortable with it, go for it.

I am not a fan of men doing it. And I do think it is weird for a women to do it. I have a sister in law who gave her daughter her name for a middle name and I think even that is weird.

Whether you are a male or female every person deserves to have their own identity.

Im sorry I never understood when people give one name but always call by a nick name. Then just give them the nick name.

There are so many names out there to chose from you should be able to find something you like.

Good Luck!

I do not think it is weird my cousin did the same thing and her and her daughter are close.

It worked for The Gilmore Girls. Also, as a Rebecca who prefers B., it's really not all that confusing.

It's not weird at all. As lots of people have said, men have done it for centuries and still do, and no one bats an eye. I know several people who have done this for females, too. My mother-in-law is called Pat and my sister-on-law is Patty. Or you could have your daughter go both first and middle if it's not too long (the Irish do this all the time--most everyone in my family in Ireland goes by two names, boys and girls.) My grandmother was Mary and my aunt (her daughter) is Mary Therese or "Mary T." A friend of mine named her daughter Aura just like her own name, but they call her Ellie for her middle name. I know of other people (without matching names) who, at home, call their child by their middle name, but at school go by their first name, and the children are just fine with this. No identity crisis. No big deal. It's just a formal name, and a family name.

In the end, it's whatever you like!!! It's not weird to me, but really, who cares what any of us think. It's what name feels right to you. :-)

Good luck!

I named my daughter after my M. and my great-grandmother. When I told my M. of the name we'd chosed if baby was a girl, she said, "Why would you do THAT?" Guess she never liked that her name is Cora. So, I said we'd call the baby Coco. Well, baby was a girl and she has been called Coco since day 1 and her given name is Cora. She will be 4 in a week and now understands that her given name is Cora, just like Mimi's. (She only recently has understood this.) Not a whole lot of confusion. She started a new school and on her paper work I put her given name and that she goes by the nickname Coco. No big deal. To the extent anyone thinks this is bizarre or that I've confused my child with this, no one has said a word. And that hasn't been our experience. Really, it's just not that big of a deal.

My friend's M. is Alice, and named my friend Alice Elizabeth, but we call her Abby. I think both are nice names.

I do not at all find it to be odd. In the Arab culture both the sons and daughters take their father's first name as a middle name, and their grandfather's first name as a last name. I think taking a form of a mother's name is just fine.

Just call her Junior.
;-)

I guess it's like, when dads name the boys after them and call them "Junior". I really don't see a problem. Just my thoughts.

It's funny you mention this. I was just talking to someone about the concept of a female "junior", when a woman names her daughter after herself. There really is such a thing! Famed designer Carolina Herrera named her daughter Carolina and she is known as Carolina Jr.

I also have a male friend who is married to a woman named Laura and their daughter is named Laurie.

With my daughter, we used my name as her middle name.

So there are lots of ways to do this...I say go with whatever makes most sense for you!

My middle name is Jo'Le, which combined both of my Grandmothers names. (Josephine & Leonna) When I had my last baby, I had been in the hospital with her on bedrest, and she still ended up being delivered very premature. I felt like we had bonded through that whole "lying in a hospital bed for days on end while on a monitor" experience, and gave her my middle name as her middle name,so she is my little miracle, "Mia Jo'Le". I am glad I did it, not that it is as noticeable as doing it with a first name. Do what you feel you'll both be happy with.

I don't think it is strange at all. There are plenty of "Juniors" out there; so why can't you do the same with your daughter? If you really like the name and it would mean something special for you, then go for it. I am due with my third son this winter and (even though I've never been a fan)I've finally given into the "Junior" naming. Agreeing on names has always proven very difficult for us. To ease the confusion I am changing one letter of his name and we will be addressing the baby with a shortened version of his dad's name. For example: Dad - Charles. Son - Charlie.

Hi, I don't find it weird that you want to name your daughter after you! My daughter has my middle name, and my son has my hubby's middle name - I love it! BUT, I don't know why you want to name her after you, but then have a nickname (unless it is as simple as Jaclyn and call her Jackie, but if it is Jaclyn and you are going to call her Marie, what is the point! Just name her the nickname, and put your name in the middle! I think that is the only thing that drives me crazy - I have a friend named Jack, but everyone calls him John....why didn't they call him John in the first place?! ha!

BUT that said, it is YOUR baby, and you have to live with it, and if you like your name, and naming the nickname, GO FOR IT, so you don't regret it!!!!!

SOOOOOO, what is your name and the nickname you are thinking of - tell us!!!!! I am sure it is AWESOME!

Wow you got a lot of responses. I only read a couple. Well one more thing to thing about. I have been in the mortgage industry for 19 years now. When a parent & child have the same name it can & usually does really affect your credit report. It can take forever to get everything straightened out. Especially if there is bad credit involved or too much credit. It can really screw up buying a home,buying a car, interest rates, etc. Good luck with your decision.

My best friend was named after her MOTHER. (Men, can do it why is it weird and strange when women do it?) Her full name is Diane Patricia but we all call her PATTY. Kids will form their own personalities which is not based on a name. I dont get why some people think that naming a child after someone automaticaly means the child wont have their own personalities or identity LOL... (P.S) My best friend has never had any issues because of this in fact all thru jr high & high school & now a married woman she goes by her middle name.

IMHO, and based upon family experince, GIVE YOUR CHILD THE NAME THAT HE / SHE WILL BE CALLED. Do not name them one thing and call them another different name. It is very confusing for the child when they begin school, and could be a nightmare for their official paperwork if the legal documents are not kept straight as they get older. I have lived this and it is not what I would ever do to my own kids. They have names that we don't change. John can be Johnny or Susan can be Susie, but I would not deviate from those given names. I also see it at school where kids do not understand why their official name is written down, but they are called by a different name.