My Son Won't Sleep Without Me.. HELP!!

Updated on March 03, 2008
K.F. asks from Indianapolis, IN
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Hi. I am a mother of 3 beautiful kids, I have a 7 month old son who i recently had let sleep with me because he was very sick. Now that he isn't sick anymore, i try to put him in his own bed. He is also a bed hog!! lol He does not like this at all. He screams at the top of his lungs until i take him out. He just recently has begun to cry when i leave the room and even his Daddy can't console him. What can i do to get him to sleep on his own? I've also tried letting him fall asleep with me and put him in his own bed and he wakes up immediately and starts crying again.... Help me please!!

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Hi. Thank you all for your help. I have only been able to get my son to sleep in his bassinet (which is WAY to little for him) although I'm slowly trying to convert him to the big boy bed, it's taking much longer than expected :) He screams until he gags and I can't be mean like that lol.. I think I'm to much of a push over for him lol... Does anyone know how that happens? We are so strong but our babies turn us to mush.. :)

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Y.M.

answers from Cleveland on

I had/ have the same problems with my 4 year old girl.
What has helped with her she has a cd player in her room and she has 3 or 4 sleepytime cd's she can pick from and they are on repeat play all night, it is important that they are on repeat, because otherwise the child will wake up when the cd ends, because it is too quiet.
The other thing is a sweater that I have worn for a day and it is put on one of her larege stuffed animals. It comforts her to have my smell close to her and she is convinced that nightmares are afraid of mommy and they are tricked buy the bunny in moms sweater. In that case, if it works for her it works for me...LOL
Hope this helps.

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K.R.

answers from Dayton on

I think we have all been there. I tried just leaving him in and crying too but you can only take so much. My husband was getting upset that it would take me so long to come to bed too. Finally after rocking my son and singing to him I began to put him in his bed while still singing and rubbing his back. He cried but after a little while he calmed down. I would stand by his crib until he was about to sleep and then I would leave. I also had a CD playing continuously all night. I think with him I used Sleep Sound in Jesus. His favorite song is still one from that CD. It is going to take a while, but honestly do it now. My neighbors kids are 8 and 7 I think and still sleeping with their parents. Mom and dad want their bed back now.

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H.I.

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My son used to do the same thing. I know it may be h*** o* you but in your situation I would put him in his room and stay in his room with him for a while until he goes to sleep. Then if he wakes up you can check to see if he needs diaper change, fed, etc. If he continue s to cry just to have you in the room. I would each day start leaving the room and allow him to cry it out. Sometimes I know it may seem sad to do that but it helped my son. He will now sleep in his room. He did that to my husband and I. We can also pray about this... Jesus I pray Lord that you would help K. s 7 month old son to sleep. I pray that you would help him not to be afraid. I pray that you would protect him and keep him safe. I pray that you would surround all of your angels around him always.I thank you Jesus that from this moment forward he will sleep in his room and that he will not cry or be afraid to sleep in his own room. IN Jesus name I pray amen.

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K.B.

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Ah, the days of getting them BACK to their own bed. I've been through it so many times--sinus infections, ear infections sleeping in a proped up position (or ANY PLACE that gets you sleep) then TRYING to get back on the regular schedule. I ALWAYS did a very slow method because I cant handle the cry it out method. (I would lay there and cry too--Not fair to torture us both- not even one of us!) Anyways, I would start by sitting by his bed with a hand on him. Each night the pressure got less and less. Adventually I could sit by his bed til he fell asleep, each night moving further and further way from the bed. Then I would be outside the room, each night the door would close just a little more than the night before. AND FINALLY I would be able to close the door and walk away and he would fall asleep. It normally took a good two weeks to get him on track this way...where was the one time I stuck to the cry it out it was 3 days. Don't talk, ignor him talking to you, and try to not even make eye contact. This will let him know you are there for him, BUT it's bedtime. This is also when I gave him something special to sleep with (a special blanket or stuffed animal). So he had something to hold on to when I wasn't there. Best of luck! Hang in there!

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N.S.

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I feel for you. My son will not be consoled by anybody but me - not even his Daddy. Anyway, when it was time for him to adjust to his crib, we did it very slowly. First of all, I put up a pack&play right next to my bed and I started to put him in there for naps. He didn't like it but as long as he knew I was next to him, he was okay. We did that for a few days, then I was able to put him into his crib with no fussing. It was amazing. I did give him a plush animal which helped him to soothe himself tremendously. He still has not outgrown his separation anxiety when he is upset and all he wants is me. But I'm fine with that. Good luck to you. This is a tough one.

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D.T.

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This worked for me.

Hold him until he falls asleep. Don't lay down with him sit up and hold him. It helps if you have a chair in his room so you are less likely to wake him by moving him too much. It should take only 15-20 minutes. Once he's asleep move him to his bed. If he wakes you'll have to do it again, if so, wait a little while after he's asleep, just hold him for 5 minutes then lay him down again. It might take a few tries, just extend the wait by another 5 and try again. A few nights and he should get the idea that you'll be there for him if he needs you but that he needs to sleep in his bed.

Good luck.

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