My Hubby, Daughter Going on Trip, Me & My Son at Home

Hi SH:
Us Mothers think of EVERYTHING don't we? lol. We try to cover all the bases.All the little WHAT IFS.This sounds like its going to be quite the adventure for your daughter.Tell your hubby,to be prepared,as she will go through some home sickness in that time.She will probably get a little teary eyed,for you and her brother.It will be A time she won't soon forget. It's going to be wonderful for bonding with her daddy.It's my thought,that shes to mature to take in the mens restroom.It would be one thing,if she were 2 or 3,or if the mens restrooms all had stall doors,but I couldn't subject her to a row of men,with their penises hanging out of their pants in front of her.She's now old enough to notice the difference,and she doesn't want to be embarrassed.They will be on the plane for several hours,and only one can fit in that bathroom.There your husband can walk her,instruct her,and wait outside the door.I would have him make sure BOTH use the restroom,just before landing,so they won't have to worry about going at the airport.I'm assuming,that once they get to where family is,there will be some female relatives.I'd simply make sure, that he took one of them with them,when sight-seeing,or going out to eat.Maybe pick someone your daughter has warmed up to,in a short time,and trusts.She can keep an eye on your daughter,while your hubby uses the restroom,and take her in the ladies as well.If he times things right, when he is out alone with her,he shouldn't have to worry.If he gets stuck,in the airport or cafe,ask A stewardess,or waitress to take her and wait outside the bathroom door for her.Your son will miss his sister,so I wouldn't tell him to far in advance,as this will make him fret,before she's even absent.The day before or day of,I'd let him know, that you and he are going to do some special things together,and sis and daddy are to.I'd let him talk to her via phone calls,while shes gone. This will make it easier for both,and they can share all their tales of fun times with each other. I know this is difficult for you.I use to bawl every time I sent my sons to their dads,two weeks out of the summer.Our children are most precious,and we take such comfort,in having them close to us.Say A little prayer for their safe return back to you.I'll say a little one here for them to.God will watch over them for you. :) Take care,and have A wonderful time with your darlin son. J. M

Hi Susan!

It's not at all silly to worry! We are moms - that's our job! hehe

As for your first question concerning the bathrooms; I was thinking - maybe right before your hubby walks in a bathroom, she could kind of "hide/bury" her face in his back (like, kinda grab on to his t-shirt on the back, eyes closed or looking ONLY at the t-shirt that is inches away from her face, and following him in like that. I know it will probably look silly - your hubby peeing with a child "attached to his back", but WHO CARES what people think of it! lol That way: 1-she won't "see" anything, 2-men won't be able to see HER face either, 3-your hubby will immediately feel it if she lets go or is grabbed. Ok, so maybe its not the best solution in the world - but it could work! LOL Just an idea ;)

Second, I think you should explain to your son that daddy and sister will be gone for a little while, so that you and him can have "special time" together. And be sure to do "special" things once in a while - just the two of you. Maybe putting it that way will make him feel better then if he thinks he's been "left out" of the trip...

Third, I think your daughter will do fine! Tell her that you're always just a phone call away - day or night. At least she'll have her daddy with her - and again, this is "special" time for just her and daddy to bond together.

Good luck, and don't stress too much! ;)

i think that its perfectly ok for her to be in the bathroom with your husband. i know my daughter is only 2 but when my husband has to take her in the bathrrom with him he always gets a stall so shes limited to seeing other people and when shes old enough to understand she will be asked to turn around while daddy goes potty. i am just as worried about wierdos out there because my daughter like yours gets a lot of attention esspecially at her pageants when shes dressed up or crowning.
as for your son maybe make a chart and say daddy and sissy are going on a trip on this day. use stickers to mark the days. then while they are gone you can use different stickers to mark the days till they come home.
i think your daughter will be ok leaving you because she is with daddy. the first couple days after she gets there will be hard. she will be sooo excited to go that it will mask any fear leaving (well maybe until its time to say good bye). maybe write her a special note and put it in her carry on and put a picture of you and her brother in it so when she ever feels home sick she can look at the picture. i assume you will be in contact with them while they are gone so she can call you and you call her. just take it easy the day they leave. i know its hard to say good bye even when you know they are comming back. if you are an emotional person with saying bye just tell her that its a happy cry because you get to go on a awesome adventure with daddy.
i hope this helps you im sure youll get a lot of great feed back!