My Ex Wants to See My Daughter

sometimes as long as its being done in a safe way its better for the child to know their father with my childrens father i have made him do supervised visists where myyself or another trusted adult has been with them while they are together but that aslo depends on if he has ever hurt her my kids father has shown voilance towards me and his current girlfriend but never not once has he showen that side to his daughters by all means i dont intend to give him that chance by letting him be alone with them but they do enjoy their time with him so as long as he plays by my rules i allow him to see them i know either way this is not an easy choice to make i hope everything works out for you and ur daughter but when it comes down to it you are her mother and as some one else said its your job to protect her what has worked for me may not be a workablr option for you or some one else in this spot i would def. agree that he should not be alone with her at all becareful going to court if he dont have proof of the voilent behavior they may grant him visits unsupervised only you now how voilent this man is so just know i'm sure others will agree regaurdless of what anyone says you know the right choice for your daughter good luck

when you went to court, was there a paternity test done? what were the results?

I would take him to court also. if he is abusive, you can get court supervised. when you say almost nothing to do with her, what does that mean. after a certain amount of time, you can see about getting him with abandoment. then you can have his rights taken. has he been paying child support? this complicates things. get a good family attorney (understand that means high expenses) and see what your rights are and what you can do to protect your daughter.

Dear D., For what its worth I agree with you. Maybe your ex's urge to see YOUR daughter will only be a phase and the court process will discourage him and if it doesn't then at least you'll know he is serious. and have more time to prepare. My thoughts will be with you! Good Luck Peace&Love, A.

He was stupid enough to say in court infront of the judge that she was not his. All that should be documented in court papers. So if he tries to take you to court to get visitation, the judge will see that, and deny him. If it is a different judge, all you have to do is prove he is a unfit father, and the judge will deny him any rights he might or could of had.

Let him take you to court. You are doing the right thing.

protect your child at any cost. but be careful not to become the one to blame when she is older. i am the child of a dangerous man or so i was told constantly. my mom often claimed me. just as you have claimed your daughter. as a teen i was very angry at her for claiming me like an object i blamed her, for him not being in my life and i applied every ill spoken word about my father to my discription. whats worse is i never said a word. i internilized every thought and emotion and to this day i have never told her.
to this day i still see myself as the worst of him and i believe my mothers life would have been better if i were never born.

As someone who was that child, I would say no. During my parent's divorce my father decided to say that my borther and I were not his children. We had to take blood tests, and he said they were fixed. Let your daughter see her when she is old enough to decide on her own that she wants to see him. Fifteen years later, I finally went to visit him last year. I was not ready before that, and resented anyone that tried to tell me I should see him.

I understand your concerns. You sound like a good mother who is trying to protect your daughter. I would suggest supervised visits and some couseling for him. Let him know that you would love for you and your daughter to have a healthy loving relationship (afterall the best way to teach your daughter to have healthy loving relationships is by example) but that you are concerned about his past problems. Tell you want to work through it together and start off slowly. There are lots of family counseling programs out there - and some great free ones that churches and other organizations provide. Keep being the great Mom that is sounds like you are. Good luck with it all and God Bless you and your family.

YOU GO GIRL!!!! Let him take you to court and make documentaion and anything and everything he has said and done for the past 2 years. I think you will have no problems with this one!!!
Good Luck and keep us posted:)