J.G. asks from West Granby, CT on May 07, 2008
Infant My Baby Won't Sleep!
Since my baby turned 9 months she fights naps and going to sleep like crazy! She wriggles and squirms and shakes her head to keep herself awake. She is definately tired (eye rubbing, yawns) and I space the naps apropriately but she just wants to play all the time. If we go on a car ride that will knock her out, but I don't want to form bad habbits. She used to be a great sleeper and was on a good schedule. She gets 10-11 hours sleep at night and is supposed to get 3 more hours in the day to get enough for her age. She will tale 20-30 min. cat naps on my lap as well, but I need her to take long naps in her crib so I can rest! I even tried lying down with her but she just tries to crawl away, also tired letting her cry in her crib for a 1/2 hour and she just got all worked up. I have read "Healthy Sleep Habbits Happy Child" which is what I have tried to follow-anyone else read it and what do you think?? Thank you in advance for your help! Oh yeah and one more thing, now she is doing frequent night awakenings for no reason, not hungry or teething, just wants to play....ahhhhh! ;)
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S.P. answers from Bangor on May 08, 2008
This sounds very familiar. I have an 11 mo. old boy and he did the same thing at 9mo. I also read that book. He is doing better now, but still fights naps at times and usually only gets one nap (usually 45 min-2 hrs.) in in a day instaed of two naps. I think it is a stage that they go through when they start to want to walk. They want to be up more. My son had some night waking too, but it passed after a couple of weeks. I don't have any great answer for you, but a warm bottle of breast milk or formula helped calm him and also reading to him at the same time helped calm him down enough to go to sleep (with me right by him). I wouldn't even try and put him to sleep if he didn't seem tired, but sometimes he was over tired and then we went through the same thing.
J.C. answers from Boston on May 08, 2008
My girl s 14 mo.old and I remember when she was about 9 or 10 mo. she was doing similar things. Looking back, I think she was so excited about her milestones in general that she never wanted to sleep! I changed her over to one nap too and that really made all the difference in her going down for naps and sleeping through the night. she is tired!! So, she would take an hour or 1.5 nap around 10:30 and that's it! It kinda stinks because I don't have time do do things, but it was the right thing to do I think. For awhile she was tired all the time, but eventually got used to her new schedule.
B.G. answers from Barnstable on May 07, 2008
I had a similar issue when my lil girl was 9 months... her napping with me wasnt so much the problem but napping at daycare.... actually same thing just happened yesterday and she is 15 mos.... She would rather play than sleep.. makes ya crazy!
I know you dont want to start the bad habit of taking her for car rides - but if she is anything like my dd - get her in the car - let her fall asleep then after 15 mins or so... go back home and carry her inside. Lay her down with you. its not a bad habit if it works and you keep it as a temporary situation. I'm not saying to do it forever, but as a parent it is nice to have a moment of piece and quiet - you worry less when your baby sleeps well.
At nine mos she should be going through a growth spurt and teething - which can take forever, whether there are signs of it or not. The night time/ play time - I went throught it but only briefly.... so no real advice on that. I just kept it dark, no tv, no nothing. I let her play but ensured that it was night time and night time was for sleep and eventually she got it (although still wakes once a night to nurse).
Rememeber - every kid is different and they dont all need to take a nap at 10 and 2 (although ideal)... let her have her way - give her one nap... middle of the day (its what I have had to do with my daughter since 9 mos), she will sleep for a few hrs. My daughter would refuse a nap and then I started letting her have 1 nap a day and it seemed to work for her - she eventually went back to TWO NAPS A DAY and now at 15 mos is back to one nap from 11:30 - 2 pm! She gets up at 6 am and goes to bed at 8 pm. Occasionally I give her a car ride nap if she refuses to go downa nd I know she is exhausted but like I said - I return home shortly afterwards and put her down for a real nap in her bed.
Good luck, I hope this is a short experience and someone can give you better advice than my "I can relate speech" :)
B.S. answers from Boston on May 08, 2008
Some great advice! I too recommend the No Cry book. My 9-month-old is doing the same thing.
K.M. answers from Providence on May 08, 2008
Try giving her a bath with lavendar wash or use a lavendar scented baby lotion on her before nap time. Good Luck
M.K. answers from Boston on May 08, 2008
It is probably just a normal sleep strike! Just in case, though, I thought I'd write. Does your daughter have any eczema or constipation (or other poop troubles?) If so, the frequent waking could be due to food allergies, even if she seems completely happy when she wakes up. If she doesn't have a rash or poopy problems, I wouldn't worry about it. When she wakes up, just keep it dark, try not to engage in play and be patient. I know it's tough to be up several times a night and not get that nap the next day!! Best of luck!
J.M. answers from Providence on May 08, 2008
This not easy, but in order for it to work, you have to be consistent:
Put your child in the crib at the same time each day for naps.
As much as it hurts, if she fed, and her diaper is dry, let her cry it out.
Every 10 min or so, if she is crying, calmly walk in (be matter of fact), don't talk to her, nothing to rouse her attention, just gently lay her back down, give her her pacifier (if she has one) or snuggly blankie, and quietly walk back out.
It might take you weeks, but if you are consistent she will get the message. You need your breaks. Even if she doesn't sleep, that is still "alone" time for both of you.
Good luck to you!!
She will stop when you walk in, and I guarantee she will cry again the second you walk out, but eventually she will get the message.
A.M. answers from Hartford on May 07, 2008
First, it couldn't hurt to check with your pedi (does she have a 9-month check up?) and see if there are any signs of ear infections. Laying down can really hurt those tender ears if they are infected. Or, you could just try contacting the pedi for any advice on the situation.
Otherwise, she could be in the process of changing her nap schedule. Try to keep some type of schedule--if you know that she is tired, let her cry it out. My kids sometimes needed an hour alone. Obviously, she is getting over stimulated. Try putting her down shortly before you think she might start yawning and rubbing her eyes.
She may be testing you because she knows that you'll come to her if she continues.
If all else fails..... if you know that she will fall asleep when you drive her, go for it. You may be in a cycle where no sleep begets no sleep; similarly, sleep begets sleep. At this point, give her the sleep any way you can to get her back to sleeping.
Night awakenings--sounds like a continuation of not napping (the whole sleep begets sleep thing). Have you tried putting a few quiet toys/stuffed animals or the like in her crib to entertain her if she wakes? It's worth the try.
Since you are home with her, now that we are getting some nicer weather, take her for walks in the stroller--maybe that will get her to sleep.
These are my best guesses. Hope they help to some degree.
R.S. answers from Providence on May 08, 2008
Just wanted to say that not all babies sleep as much as they say they should in the books. Actually most babies I know don't sleep that much at all. I have a 5 yo who sleeps 9 hours a night & a 2yo that sleeps about 10 hours a night (usually waking once). And neither naps whatsoever. My oldest stopped napping at 2 1/2 & my youngest used to take random cat naps (never would nap on a schedule)& stopped that around 2 1/2. My only suggestion would be to have your daughter go in her room at nap time to quietly play (or watch TV if you allow that). Give her quiet time instead of trying to force a nap. That way you'll get the break you need. Good luck!