Hi all. I am a 29 year old mom with 4 daughters, ages 2,6,8,and 9. I am starting to get a little bit stressed out about the fact that my 26 month old daughter will not even make an attempt at potty training. I know all kids are differant but all three of my other daughters were completly trained by now. I feel like I all of a sudden am doing something wrong. Like maybe I am not spending enough time trying. I really do try, we wake up and go on the potty and I try over and over again all day. I am begining to think she will never train. If anyone can offer any advice please do. I am willing to try anything. Thank you all in advance.
Hi I am a mom with 3 year old twin boys. When they were just under 2 a friend of mine told me her brother potty trained his son by letting him walk arounbd the house with just a shirt or naked and the boy was potty trained quickly. I did that 1 sunday and that same day my boys started using the potty and have continued ever since. I know it's a little unconventional but it worked for us.
Hi C.,
I am a 27 yr old working mom of a 22month old boy & 3 1/2 year old daughter. I was in the same position as yourself, about to give up! I kept asking our caretaker to keep taking her to the potty and be consistent and one day she will do it!
Well after a few tries and a couple wet spots on the carpet, we decided to give my daughter a break!
I asked her why she did not want to us the potty and she told me that "panties are ugly and she wants Cars panties". Well like any mom, I ran to the stores and searched for Cars panties! They did not have any but I found Cars briefs! As soon as my daughter saw them she said that's what she wants. I looked at my husband and was like oh no & he said lets try!
It worked!!! She was too excited to wear her briefs and use the potty!!! :-) Now after months in briefs she now loves her princess panties and is fully potty trained!!!! It was worth the try!
It's not you,don't feel down.I have only one son he is now 5 yrs old, he'll be 6 next week.He did not start going too much until he was about 4yrs old & he still has issues I dont' think it's going tp be a problem.She has a mind of her own remember that & none of your girls are going to be like each other.I am also a former preschool teacher & I've seen it all I think,I had 3 yrs olds still have accidents.It also will come a time when she will learn to potty & still have accidents also.Here's a tip:while you are at home put regular underwear on her instead of pullups(diaper),it is easier to clean up because you are at home & she will get practice wearing them & training.If she goes to daycare.let her go to school in them & practice there also if you send her to a dayare that trains.During naptime they can put the diaper on.The regular undies also help her to feel the difference and show her that her big sisters are wearing them (big girl underwear).I hope I was of some help to you. I too will have to soon do this again, I am trying for the next one currently,LOL!Have a great day,don't worry everything will be OK.
Be patient. Both my boys didn't sit on the potty until 3 yrs and 1 month. I didn't push them. Remember there is a wide range of what is normal.
Pam
I think you should just hang it up for a few months.. im sure you have heard each child is different. I didnt even TRY the potty until she was a few mnths shy of 3, and she got it in 1 weekend! Poops took another month or so.. But if i tried it any time sooner, im sure it woudl have taken lots longer.
Hi C.. My daughter will be 3 at the end of next month and isnt fully trained. My first daughter was completely trained by the age of 2, and I was very upset and thought that my little one would be starting kindergarten in diapers, lol. I tried everything! Trying every hour on the hour, rewards, treats, the sticker chart, musical potty, nothing worked. About a month or so ago, out of nowhere, she told me she wanted to go to the potty. She didnt do anything on the potty for the first few times, but finally she did. My point in all of this is that she will do it in her own time. She may feel to forced right now, and I strongly feel that this is something that they should not be forced into. It shouldnt be a stressful situation for them ( even though it is very stressful for us ). Hang in there, mom. She'll get it.
she is two don't worry she will learn it's not like she will be in diapers forever have you ever met a grown person that is in diapers
I want you to know that this is the first time I have ever responded to one of these - but felt very strongly that i needed to. I was going thru the same struggles as you with my daughter who is currenlty 3 1/2 years old - absolutely NO INTEREST with my daughter. She was my first, so i turned to my sister who had successfully potty trained 4 children. She told me she had learned the hard way to not push it. When they're ready - it would come easy. So i waited & waited, periodically trying. Now, this week for the first time my daughter decided to go on the potty for the first time. I did just take off her diaper (no panties - nothing) and she ran to the potty when "the pee pee was coming". And she just keeps doing this - including poop - very little effort on my part - i just brought the potty out to the front room, took off her panties and every once in a while ask if she needs to go - which I've done before, and has never worked. I have discovered I dont' even need to ask her, she just runs to tell me either it's coming or that she's done it - of course i'm making a HUGE deal out of it and she is responding. It's been three days of only one accident (when i put panties on her - she still has that false sense of security - but totally gets what she's supposed to do). Right now I'm holding my breath because I don't know if it will continue, but I just wanted to let you know what my sister told me & which made me feel better and made me know it was OK to wait until it's easy - which is when they're ready. Oh & one more thing, my daughter attends a preschool 3 days a week with kids who's mothers stay at home & just want their kids to have some play time (without mom around) & a little fun learning - these moms are on top of their kids and their development. This is a class of 12 3-4 year olds - 50% are potty trained. Hope this makes you feel better, know it's not you and unless you NEED for her to be potty trained (i.e. daycare requires it or something) don't push it - she'll come around...at least that's what worked for me.
Hi, I would not worry if i were you. I know so many kids at 3+ yrs old and they are still either in diapers or in pull ups. I don't know how you do it with 4 children (you definitely have my admiration!) but if you are really into accomplishing this sooner than later I would take a couple of days to be just with my 2 year old and stay in doors only. i would take the potty and constantly go to it with her and pretend i'm doing either #1 or #2. I know this sounds ridiculous but i'd even make the sounds to #1 and #2. in a couple of days (max 3 days) she should know what the process is. i did this for my daughter and it worked in 48 hours. She learned the idea of it when she was exactly 24 months. She had it all down pat when she was 2 years+ 2 days old. i shut the world out and completely dedicated myself to accomplishing this and it worked! this may be too far fetched for you esp. bc you have 3 other girls and you must have a million other things to do...but i am just letting you know how i made it work for my now 3+ yr old daughter. i only have her so it worked conveniently for me. if it doesn't for you, than i would advise not to stress about it...like i said i know many many 3+ yr olds that are still in diapers! much luck to you! V.
Hi C.,
It been along time since I potty trained my son (22yrs), but I remember I would watch for him to squt down like he was going potty, and run him to the bathroom, I also would watch for him to remove his diaper, and run him to the bathroom. Also sometimes it helps if they see someone else using the bathroom. Maybe if there's a Mom's day out at your church, you could sign her up for that, seeing someone her own size using the potty might help.
R. B
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I have a 28mo son, a few mo ago it seemed like things were on there way to him being pt'ed but now he wont even get on the potty. I have backe dway off about it. from what I have heard, when you back off and let them get it themselves one day it will just click and they will be done in a few days. So it may take longer but will happen quicker.
Good luck, we'e both in the same boat! I sure am tired of changing/buying diapers!
Hi C.,
Our daughter would not potty train either and we were told to back off. We did. It took a while but she is finally there now and she's 3 1/2. I was talking to my Mom about it and her comment was that she never saw a kid not potty trained when they started to school, so relax. Point is, we backed off. Our daughter is our third child. Her brothers are 23 and 25.
D.
I agree. Don't push her. I found it helpful to get potty training books, either from the library or the store. There's "once upon a potty" and several others that are great. Sometimes, when you talk about and read about the process without pressuring them to do it themselves, they'll catch on.
Things can happen that will make them regress after they've been near to being trained. Maybe a bout of diarrhea will make them wary of going without a diaper (this happened with my son, soon turning three) or maybe a new sibling was born (happened with my daughter, now 8). Regressions are normal. But sooner or later, the kids will *WANT* to be big kids and they'll decide to go on the toilet. I just wouldn't stress about it.
