Moms Who Love Having 2 Kids? Kids Grow Too Fast!

Updated on August 20, 2010
C.H. asks from Freehold, NJ
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Hi ladies,
I've posted many times before. I have 2 kids, one 6 and one soon to be 4. I had a miscarriage last year and recently found out that I may have trouble conceiving. I've been so upset. I can resort to fertlitiy or stop at 2. I am so sad that they're growing too fast and my dream to have 3 is difficult to achieve. Is there anyone out there that can give me insight as to why they love having just 2 kids?

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L.C.

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I have 2 kids - one boy and one girl. They are 2.5 years apart and are now teens.
2 hands - 2 kids.
3 bedroom house - 2 kids - each has own room. :-)
They get more expensive as they get older -- I can do far more for the 2 I have than I could for 3.
Theme Parks - rides are made for 4 not 5
Cars - seat 4 much easier than 5
Ditto for hotel rooms
I really enjoy my two. I wouldn't trade them for the world!! They have an excellent relationship...
Enjoy what you have.
Savor every moment.
LBC

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M.K.

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I loved having two until I had three (boys) and now that my little guy is five months, I find my self wondering if I should try for the all elusive girl. I think you will love having however many you are able to have (good luck). My girlfriend, however, chose to stop at her two boys and these are the reasons she gave me.....

1) She didn't have to buy a bigger vehicle to accomodate the car/booster seats.
2) There was never the odd ball out at the amusement park.
3) She would save money in food (I'm shuddering to think what three boys will cost me in a few years!).
4) She wanted to go back to school sooner rather than later.
5) She loved the sleep she was starting to get.
5.5) She loved having her boobs back (and so did her hubby).
6) She felt like she didn't have the patience.
7) She (at 25) felt like she was too old (Geez, I'm thiry and just had one!)

But.....to each their own. As long as you are really happy with whatever you decide.....

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C.T.

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I have 2 girls 9 and 11. I did want another at first but, I feel my family is complete. How do you feel? Yes kids grow fast, but at some point they need to grow up, and we need to grow old.

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B.H.

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My kids are about the same age as yours (6 and 4). I would have had three kids also but I loss my first son when I was 5 months preg. so technically I should at least three kids. Both my son's are happy with each other and they are like best friends. I feel as though I'm done having kids. I don't have that longing feeling to be pregnant again. I've lost all the baby weight and feeling real good about my body for the frist time in a long time.

I think you will feel it when your done. But if you are not at that point yet I would say try for a third.

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A.L.

answers from Las Vegas on

hello
in my opinion, this is too personal of a choice to leave it up to others and have them give you insight into why two are enough. Albeit, if one if lucky enough to have children, you feel so grateful of course, I know I do. however, IF you truly think you want more kids and can afford fertility treatments and of course know EXACTLY what that means in terms of it doesn't always work but in some cases it does, I say go for it. WHY?? because if you truly are longing to have more kids and also in my opinion, are young enough to still conceive (I say young enough) because in terms of fertility, you can overcome many obstacles, but sadly..... AGE isn't always one of them, even if some are having babies past 40.... many aren't... so if AGE isn't one of the conceiving issues and there are no other LIFE threatening issues, you may want to sit down with a specialist or whomever you are discussing this matter with, get ALL the facts and then make a decision. I just think that when one has this inner feeling of wanting kids, that feeling is hard to let go of.. oh sure... at some point we all have to be content, but if this is a situation for you that could mean more kids or not.. then , might be worth looking into...

C.M.

answers from Johnson City on

I am so sorry to hear about your troubles. I guess you just have to ask yourself how badly you want another child? If you really want another one and think you will always regret not trying, then I say go for it. As PP said, maybe you could check into adoption?

I have 2 kids, a boy and a girl.

I like having just two because you can handle them on your own. You aren't too outnumbered if you take them somewhere, kwim?

The financial obligation of a third, WOW! Three college tuitions, eek!

I have a boy and a girl, so I don't have to worry about trying to get that girl or boy,. (not sure if this applies to the 2 you have or not)

They will always have that special bond with each other without having a favorite brother of sister and leaving one sibling out of things.

I cannot imagine imagine juggling more stuff--tee ball, soccer, gymastics, etc.

I feel like I get to spend quality time with both of them without having to divide my attention any further.

I am TOO OLD and tired to have any more kids. lol

Whatever, your decison I wish you luck and peace with it.

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S.S.

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Hi, I have two kids myself actually the same ages as yours. I don't know what sex yours are, but I have two girls and I love it. They have each other as a playmate, I get to hand down clothes and toys and they are very close so far. I toy with the idea of having another one because I've always wanted to try for a boy, but the twosome that they share is just adorable to me. And since yours are close in age, they will grow up together and share so many experiences and memories of their childhood together. If you happen to have another baby, that's a blessing, and I can understand why you are upset after your miscarriage. I look at my soon to be 4 yr old and wanna hold her like a baby, but those days are gone, and I just try to enjoy this next stage in our lives, which is great too. Take care!

Y.C.

answers from New York on

I have 2 kids now, and there are many things I love about it. However I understand why you are feeling upset and I am sorry, it must be hard.
I know maybe is not a good time to think about this but maybe in a future either you can have another baby or adopt. My aunt never had kids on her own but she adopt my cousin more then 10 years ago and you should see those 2, they love each other soooooooooooo much.
Thinks I love about my 2:
They are 10 years apart but they play together great, I guess part because they don't have to fight for the same toy, lol.
I can go back to school.
I feel less pressure about the economic part of having kids.
My husband sometimes want another baby, and sometimes he tells me that he doesn't know if he can do that to the ones we already have. Meaning that, they are so use to have our attention that he feels worry to bring one more and make them feel jealous. While I don't agree 100% I can understand what he is feeling.
Even if this is not the reason why I had 2, I like that they are growing a amazing relation ship that will hopefully will continuing far after I die. I am not so sure (since I only have sister) but maybe with more kids they could grow more bound with one and leave the other sibbling feel left out? I am not so sure about this but sometimes it cross my mind that the little one would have a different realtionship with another sibbling closer to her age.
Enjoy your 2 little ones, who knows what destiny have for you in a future.
Yes, they grow fast, but I still found amazing things about my 12 year old.
I finally

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