Meeting New Friends - Dracut,MA

I swore I was not going to be one of those people that stopped hanging out with their friends the minute they had a kid. As it turns out, there was a mutual drifting apart from friends that I thought I'd be close to forever. I completely understand the feeling. I'm sorry to hear about your friend, she may not even realize she's being a bad friend with everything she's got going on. I agree with Michele B.- stick with the play group. I joined a group that had been together for about a year before I joined them and over the past year or so, I've grown much closer with the other moms. One thing that could help build the bonds faster - suggest a moms night out. We did a few girls nights at the wine bar and between not focusing on your child so much and the wine as a social lubricant, we learned a little more about each other. I think its harder to make friends as adults. Its not like school or work where you are all kind of tossed together in the same dorm or office for hours at a time. I always feel like "I used to be good at this, now its like asking another woman on a date!" Good luck!

I'm sorry that sucks about losing touch with your old friend! It's very hard when your lives go down a different road. Sometimes it gets to a point where she hasn't contacted you in so long she may feel akward about reconnecting out of guilt. I would stop making comments on her pics and stuff on FB. Maybe just send her a quck note about how you miss your friendship and leave it at that. Then move on with your new M. friends. The more you hang out with them the sooner you will be "one" of them. I went thru the same thing when I first joined my moms club.

I feel your pain -- social patterns change and it can be really disappointing. But it sounds like you've found a good group of people in the playgroup. Maybe you could let them know that you are in need of more social outings and give it some time to gel. It's possible the other mom's are not aware of how you are feeling.

I'd say let's do lunch but I work full time - so I'm probably not much help to you! Good luck.

Hang in there...it gets easier. With the new group of moms, give it time and continue to participate in the group. Once your kids go to elementary school, you will meet tons of people. Join the PTO, volunteer at the school, and participate in other functions. I'm sorry about your friend. It sounds like she has a lot on her plate and doesn't have much time for friends. I have a friend exactly like yours. In fact, recently, she started contacting me again after 15 years. There will come a day when your friend will have time and contact you. It may take years, but unless you had a major falling out, she'll more than likely rekindle the friendship. Just keep the door open.

Wow. A lot of moms are in your situation.
I am so glad you found a playgroup. Where I used to live they had a family magazine. It listed special things at the library, nature reserve, mall, and such that were FREE and during the day when hubby worked.

New friendships take time. I recently joined a similar group where the core 5 (or so) women are very close. The first few times it was a little awkward, but just a few weeks later I'm fairly comfortable around them and are moving past the inital 'who are you' conversations. Stick with it, be yourself and try to relax :)

As for your former friend, I'd say just move on. You've made numerous attempts at connecting with her just to be ignored. She knows how to get ahold of you if she so chooses, but she may not. Don't stress about it.

I am in the same boat with you! I was super close with a friend of 18 years that in the last year just drifted away. I was always calling/texting her. She just joined Facebook and we say chitty chatty things back and forth. Here lately I will comment and then she won't even acknowledge that, but comment to someone else comment. No texts, nothing. I still send her birthday cards, her kids cards, etc. and I get nothing in return. I have decided it is time to move on. It makes me very sad, but what to do?? The worst one is that we live in separate states. She lives where my family does and when I go back I always make time to see her and her family. She has a brother in the same city I am in and she has been here to visit many times in 5 years and I have seen her ONCE!!! She tells me when she is coming and then doesn't make time to have even a quick lunch. Even worse... her brother lives 3 miles from me!!!

Just keep going to the moms group and you will get to know people. I am going to join another mom's group just to try and meet more people that live around me.