Lazy House

I really dont know what to say, maybe you could suggest going for a walk with the baby for 15-20 mins. or chase each other around the house with water guns, I love playing with my husband we both workl and 4 kids so we are always runnig around the house with the kids it is fun and we get to spend family time together. let me know if i can be of any help. my email is ____@____.com

My advice is to start doing more for yourself and maybe he will follow. I am a personal trainer and I know that sometimes couples can get in a rut but sometimes if one takes the initiative to get moving the other will follow. It's like living with someone with poor eating habits, it's very hard to eat well yourself if you are around someone eating takeout and sweets all the time. It's the same thing with exercise and being active. Maybe if you make healthier choices he will follow. Another option is to take fitness classes as a family. There is a program called Baby Boot Camp, it is a stroller fitness program but they also have indoor classes that don't involve the stroller. Even if you start out with just you and the baby, your husband may see that you enjoy it and tag along. The classes are for families so it would be perfect for you. You can get exercise and support from other moms while spending time with your baby and hopefully your husband.

I know it's getting colder now, but why don't the three of you go for walks together when it's nicer out? Not only are you exercising but you're talking the whole time. My fiance and I watch our fair share of TV at night but we each have our own hobbies to keep active. We also both have roller blades and blade right out in the driveway. It's fun and we talk about our days. It's ok to have things that you do without your husband, it doesn't mean you don't want to be with him. It's not a trade off when you get married, you're still an individual with your own likes and dislikes. Do what you want to do and if he wants to partake in some of those things, great. Just always give him the option and you shouldn't feel guilty about it. Hope something I said helps:)
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its sounds like during the course of your marriage and your baby u have lost YOU> You need to re evaluate yourself and rekindle u that is on the inside and bring it to the outside. When you are at home by yourself take the baby and go for a walk. Take the baby to the park. Discover what u like doing by writing it down and evalating it. When your husband comes home surprise him with soemthing romantic. Cook dinner for him/ Plat the question and answer game. Try to rekindle what made u crazy about him in the first place. But very important/Turn the t.v. off. Turn your favorite music on and talk.

I know that you love him so much and want to spend all your time with him, what if you take a walk after work with the baby and ask him to join you. Maybe you can start small like that and it can grow from there.

Honey, you can't take care on anyone else if you don't take care of yourself. You are feeling like a big old blob...it's ok. Do something "active and cool" for YOU...it is not only good for you, but your marriage and makes you a better mom! I've been where you are at. I gained 70lbs while pregnant!! And was a SAHM with nothing but baby and house. 4 years later...most of it is off...though not all, I admit. AND I am fitter than ever. Yoga did it for me. Sign up for some kind of class...ANYTHING that strikes your fancy. How much "quality" time are you really having with your husband anyway if it is in front of the TV? You will be more interesting to talk with if you have something new to discuss, yes? Let us know what you do!

im dealing with somewhat of the same issue.i have been wit my bf for 6 yrs and we have a 4 yr old together. when we first got together it was all about drugs drinkin and sex lol..not the best way to start a relationship but we never knew wed make it this far. things were so different then. i was never really active tho. i now struggle with our relationship...we do absolutely nothing together.he always blames it on money and such but even when i offer to treat he still refuses. i dont work either i stay home with my daughter and ive actually become depressed becuz i have no friends either. i depend on my bf for my happiness and stuff and its just not working out. sometimes i have chances to do things but id rather do them with my bf and in the end i suffer becuz things never work out the way i planned. i always get excited but my bf always lets me down.all we do is sit in front of the tv once he gets home from work and i hate it. we barely conversate. if u feel u need to get out and do things then do it even if it is by urself or wit some friends. its no fun sittin home by urself all day and night.

Hi L., I was always a pretty active person. I can't say i've gained a lot of pounds, but when i got married 7 years ago my husband and I turned into couch potatos. Finally about 5 years ago I quite smoking and joined the gym, besides when i had my 2 boys, i was always at the gym. To this day I got 3-4 times per week. It helps me with daily stress and also helps to be a better mother. My going to the gym got my husband back into, although he does not go often, he does go occasionally, which is better then nothing. My point is that if you initiate a healthy and active lifestyle your husband my want to do the same. Besides, it gives you energy to be able to chase the little one. You will need it. Lots of luck!

We are exactly the same way! Both my husband and I work full time and we have 2 kids and you would think with 2 kids I would be running constantly. My only advice to you is to take 1/2 hour to yourself a day or in the evening and go for a brisk walk. I have been watching what I eat and going for a 30 min walk a day and hoping that since I am still young it won't be too hard to lose the weight, Wishful thinking right! Good luck!

My family joined the YMCA, at first it was just for the child care. Then my husband and I actually started to go work out together. It's been great for my whole family. They offer drop-in child care during gym hours so you can go together without having to find a baby-sitter.

If you are looking for a friend to lose some pounds and you are from the Reading area let me know.