Is There a "Viagra" for Women??

you can buy maca root at walmart in the vitamin section..... it may be called horny goat weed but it says on the bottle to intensify desire! Believe me it works by the second day I was darn near uncontrollable and practically attacked my husband and he was quite happy himself.

I don't really know anything about it, but I was told by an herbalist and friend that Damiana, and herb can be used to make a tea, and works well. I would just research it or go to a health food store and ask about it.
Just be aware that most of the info on the internet is very negative regarding herbs.

There is something called maca that is supposed to help increase the sex drive of both men and women. You could try that. It is very common to lose your sex drive after a hysterectomy and having children. If your doctor is doing nothing to help you with your sex drive, I would see another doctor. You could give your husband sex even if you are not in the mood. You might want to use lube if you do though, you may be drier if you are not aroused. Try doing some of the things that used to get you in the mood. Sensual massages by your husband could also help.
Stephanie L

Hi L.
wouldnt that just be so great...! unfortunately, it turns out that our female sex drives are mainly psychologically driven, viagra is purely physiological fix for men.

here is some recent info i came across online: http://health.discovery.com/centers/womens/viagra/viagra....

there is a testosterone patch available for women. doesnt sound too intiscing to me, but if it works it may be worth it. check with your OB for more info there.
http://health.discovery.com/centers/womens/testosterone/t...

have you thought about a visit with a therapist? i am thinking of trying that soon. i will be watching this string for more advice!

good luck to you and be well.

Hi L.,

I have woman ask me similar questions all the time. I'm an RN and have been teaching about Natural Progesterone and hormone balance (without drugs) for years now. There are many factors for what you are going through, and it is usually a combination of things. I recorded an informational teleseminar on hormone balance. I really encourage you to listen, (it is available 24/7), hopefully it will help. I'm also happy to answer your questions if you want to contact me.

What you and your mother, daughters, sisters and friends need to know...
Women's Health and Hormone Balance Presentation
Free Teleconference Playback Number: ###-###-####. Access code: 28954#
Press "1" to rewind 30 seconds. Press "2" to fast forward 30 seconds. Press "5" to pause/resume.

Blessings,
J. B.

You need to get your hormones in balance and yes there is - it's called Natural Progesterone Cream. I am hosting educational classes regarding this in Johnstown and in Loveland in Jan. Keep an eye on my calendar for a date and location near you.

www.upwithwellness.myarbonne.com

natural Progestrone cream I got at Vitamine Cottage works loike a charm. I might take about a month but rub it on twice a day for a month. ( on the wrist and abdomin) It should help.
C. B

L.,
Is there a possibility that your lack of interest has nothing to do with your physical body? Does it have anything to do with having children?
Perhaps it is time for some real soul searching for what is behind how you are feeling about sex.
Wishing all the best, C.

I had the problem of no drive when I was your age also. I also found out about estrogen dominance. This happens when we eat foods like beef and drink cows milk that has been shot up with estrogen to make them fat. This gets in our body and makes us either fat, or gives us the extra hormones we don't need and it plays havac on our bodies. So what I found out is, there is a special cream with Mexican wild Yam in it that helps our body make progesterine naturally. For mentrating women it cleans up their systems and they start cycling again normally. Women who have other problems are also helped. Usually if women find this cream in time it can save them from having a hysterectomy. My suggestion would be, 1. Do your research 2. Give up hormonme laced milk and beef, even chicken and turkey can be quite bad. If you eat meat, make sure is is free range. You can buy milk hormone free at Costco or a health food store. Winder Dairy is also a good choice. You will find that within 4 or 5 moinths your sex drive will return and your husband will have to fight you off! LOL

L.: I have just started investigating this myself. You know one of the things you might talk to your dr about is hormone replacement (or looking at natural hormone replacements yourself) I found out that having a hysterectomy really messes with your hormones and it won't get any better. the first thing almost all my reading has recommended is to get your hormones back under control and then see what happens from there.

I found a great website called womentowomen.com. they have a "test" you can take that tells you a little about yourself and gives you things to check into. Good luck!

Look for phytoestrogens in Chinese Yam, NOT Mexican Yams. You need to get your hormones in balance, since your body is not going to produce all that you need with a full hysterectomy. Look for good plant sources that don't have the side affects of animal substitutions, like cancer.

I recently asked my OBGYN this same question. To reiterate AT's response, there is no such thing as Viagra for women - Viagra addresses erectile dysfuntion, but it doesn't do anything for libido. A man on Viagra may have an erection but may not be in the mood (yeah, right). She said our sex drive is related to our emotional health - your relationship with your husband, your self esteem, etc. If these things have been compromised recently you may need to see a therapist. If it's just because you're always tired from raising 2 kids, you might want to think about a weekend away without them so you 2 can reconnect on your terms and schedule. Good luck!

Sometimes faking it until you make it works best...now before I get shot, let me explain more...

No, I'm not talking orgasms or things like that. I'm saying take time for yourself (I know that is few and far between with kids, but it helps). Take a bath or put on a sweet smelling lotion, purdy yourself up...just for your husband. He will notice, I promise! Try to drop the kids at a friend's house for a few hours or overnight and have a "date night" just the two of you! The more effort you put into the night, perhaps the more interested you will be in completing the night romantically!

You could schedule a movie at home with a "picnic" dinner on the floor, then a bath or shower together or something quite romantic like that that isn't going to be interrupted by little knocks on the door since the kiddos will be elsewhere! My husband and I have even bought a fun, sexy game that we pull out occassionally when our love life needs a pick-me-up (or there is always the classic strip-poker or checkers or whatever you have around the house!!!)! Even if the night doesn't end in the S-word, you will show your husband that you are making an effort and he will feel special and appreciated rather than taking it personally!

Also, I am very dry "down there", so sex is often VERY uncomfortable for me (except when I'm pregnant...yea!!!) so I always make sure to have LOTS of lubricants around...that might help you too! The best type is one without (I think it is) Glycol in it which tends to burn. The off-brand at Walmart doesn't have it in there and is great...though I'll often try others just for something new! Sometimes just going together and buying something sexy helps too!

Think of things that you did together when you were dating, before marriage and kids and tap into some of those ideas!!! But be honest with your husband about what is going on with you and your body.

The idea is effort though. I try to do something special for my husband at least once a month and he does the same for me, so it is not just one sided! And find another couple with kids that you can switch off with for the "date night" babysitting. It will be free and I can guarantee the other couple will be appreciative as well to have an excuse to go out! Hope some of these ideas help and good luck!

S., 26, married for almost 5 years and have a 1-year-old and another on the way!

Okay...as weird as this sounds the medications they make for the men actually do work on the women as well. They have not approved it through the FDA yet and insurances won't pay for you to get it prescribed for yourself but if your husband is willing to tell the doctor he needs it then he can bring it home (paid by insurance) and you can be the one to actually take it. My doctor has told me that Cialis is a better choice for me at least than Viagra and he had his reasons but I can't remember what they were. I know it had something to do with a spike of something (perhaps blood pressure) with Viagra, but that Cialis wouldn't do the same thing.

I am 45, used to be very active sexually and in the last several years (3-4) I could care less if I ever got it. I will be honest we haven't tried the Cialis for me yet, but the fact that my doctor says it won't hurt me makes me feel better. I guess I just have to be willing to expend the energy (for sex) and then I will take the medication. Who knows. His birthday is coming up. Maybe I will rent a hotel room or do something special for him and agree to take it then.

Hope this information helps you.

Are you taking any medications? birth control? anti-depressants? Have you had your thyroid checked? Any of these things can affect one's 'drive'.

You were given a lot of great advice... I would start with checking hormone levels and then asses your stress level. If those are ok.. there are enhansment creams that will draw blood flow to the vaginal area. This will get the "juices flowing". I have a company that sells these creams. If you would like to contact me I would be happy to help you. I would check with your dr first with the hormones. Lots of women go through this with kids. I was one of them.