C.W. asks from Phoenix, AZ on July 06, 2010
Increasingly Weighty Chest
I could use some suggestions on this problem I am attempting to have some humor about.
I was big to begin with but as my pregnancy advances so is my cup size. Pre-pregnancy I was a 34F and now at 3 months I am spilling out of my 36 G's. It seems as if nearly all of my weight gain is up top. If the women in my family are an indication my size will increase through my pregnancy although my my size was much larger to begin with than theirs.
I moved up to a 36 because I figured I'd need it sooner or later. I can't wear a 38, things go out the bottom! Unfortunately once you go beyond everyday cup sizes, manufacturers think your band size goes up too. I am lost. I loathe buying clothing, especially bras by catalogue as I waste SO much money on return postage. I did break down and get one 36G by catalogue and three weeks in it broke.
At first I thought it was defective, now I see the other 36G's I bought at the department store straps are also coming lose. Not only are these big they are HEAVY. The lady at Motherhood just looked at me like a deer in the headlights and suggested Lane Bryant. BTW the ladies at the plus size stores I have tried have been the sweetest but can't help someone who usually wears a 6 out too much.
So, I have some Wild Kingdom action going on. Its only going to get worse. Sears, Target, Victoria's Secret and Penney's carry nothing approaching my size, Dillards tops out at G in 36's, Frederick's of Hollywood quits at F and Macy's, along with Dillards no longer carry maternity bras so most of their things for bigger cups sizes don't even have underwires. >.<
Currently I am too sensitive to use ductape and my experiments into altering a larger band size bra are not having usable outcomes.
It took me some courage to go to Macy's, that is generally beyond what I can spend on myself, especially on item that I have no idea how much use I will get out of. So sending me to Nordstrom's, Neiman Marcus and the like are not helpful. Is there a secret store I am overlooking? A more granola approach to support than underwires?
Thank you for thinking on it!
So What Happened?™
Thank you thank you for all the encouragement and ideas!
Since I look back on old questions for info...
JennaLynn: That is an area I had no considered but will now.
Riley J.: While Nordstrom's will require a hunt through my wardrobe to find something I can shop there in, getting to try on things before I buy them on-line for less is a KICK BUTT motivator!
Mitzi: They could end up smaller? Excellent!
Denise: Good luck on the swimwear, maybe when I conquer this hurdle I'll launch on that one.
Sarah C.: Thanks for the perspective. I was focusing on needing to keep buying sizes and maybe only getting to wear each a few weeks. But I want to have more kids and nurse them so there will be ups and downs to wear them through and get more bang for the buck.
Elizabeth R.: I have wanted a reduction for years but hey, I haven't been hauling these suckers around my whole life not to be able to feed my kids:) Thank you for posting your experience, the slice and dice is on my drawing board.
Valerie: I did go to C.'s a few days ago but it is a plus size store for those who might be reading this. Had some great prices while I was there!
Thank you to all the mamas who took the time to respond. I will go through each of the on-line suggestions you gave me. I am much more comfortable buying from a retailer someone has used with success.
L.D. answers from Phoenix on July 07, 2010
There is a breast feeding store at Southern and Gilbert on the SE corner. I don't remember the name but my DIL was able to get a 34 J there. They even have people come in to help with breast feeding. The guy that owned the store took one look at my DIL and said she was in the wrong size bra. He's the one that helped her get in the right size. Before that she was just using the biggest one she could find in the department stores. I hope you can find the store.
J.L. answers from Los Angeles on July 06, 2010
I used to have a student that was huge up top. All natural too. Yes I couldn't help it I had to ask. My friends think I have a large chest at an E, but I just felt bad for this girl. So I asked her where on earth can you buy a bra. She told me she had to go get them spcially made. She said usually around 80 bucks a bra, but she said they held up for a super long time. Thats my only piece of advice is to try to find a store that actually makes them. I don't think department stores bra's will ever fit you properly because of your body size to breast size ratio. I hope you find something. Hang in there! (no pun intended) =)
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M.R. answers from Rochester on July 06, 2010
I ended up in soft-cup nursing bras my second time around (I did end up in 38G, so not quite as bad, but did have to special order), and am now/normally a 34D. 34 is a nightmare to find in anything over a C cup, I agree! If you are able to find anything in a cup size that fits there are back extenders you can buy, but it sounds like the problem is the opposite. Definitely look into soft-cup options, sleep bras, and hang around the house in sports bras and shelf-tanks if you have to. Perhaps as a word of encouragement, I always wanted a breast reduction but after nursing for a total of about 2 years and being at my smallest adults size, my breasts are actually smaller than ever, too (larger cup size, but smaller overall). You might have luck in a small, local specialty store--some are tailored to surgical/special needs and might be able to alter something properly for you. Good luck!!! :(
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D.P. answers from Pittsburgh on July 06, 2010
Wow! What an appropriate question after spending about 2 hours in a dressing room last night trying to find a bathing suit that won't scare people away! LOL It's like the manufacturers think that even if you wear a larger size, you still have little bitty boobs.
My two cents is that ONE GOOD EXPENSIVE bra is better than a drawer full of less expensive ill-fitting ones, even if you need to hand wash it every (or every other) night. You get what you pay for so invest in one that fits and will last.....
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E.R. answers from Chicago on July 06, 2010
When I was nursing my son, I was an H cup. I had always been big chested, but it was just painful- my breasts hung below my navel, even when full. I could not carry my son in a front-carrier and had trouble lifting groceries, etc. just because my boobs were in the way! I could not take the post-natal yoga mommy and baby class I had signed up for- you guessed it!- because my boobs were so in the way that I could not maintain the proper positions and hold my son on my chest!
I just bought every cheap bra or jog-bra I could find that I could manage to fit my chest in. And- once I was done nursing, a year later I had a breast reduction on my doctor's advice. The weight of my chest was pulling my whole backbone and shoulders out of alignment and I was building up calcium deposits between my shoulder blades- setting myself up for a 'hump' when I was old.
I have to say, for me, it was the best decision I EVER made. It was not very painful, my mom came and stayed with us for 2 weeks because I could not lift things, - and now I am a C cup. I lost weight, exercised and just felt 100% better and happier.
So I know you don't want to do this just now, but keep it in mind for later. Having a breast reduction truly changed my life :)
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P.C. answers from Spartanburg on July 06, 2010
Sports bras with extra support. Look in athletic supply. They hurt less and give extra support. Washable and in different colors they can make a nice addition to a wardrobe.
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D.P. answers from Raleigh on July 06, 2010
I am 33 weeks pregnant and currently wear a 36/38 H cup.I am really a 34 or 36 band but have managed with a 38 OK in some soft cup sizes. I am a pre-pregnancy size 4 with 34DDD. I understand your frustration. Unfortunately, you are going to have to order your bras online. As a large chested woman/small banded woman, I have never had much luck walking into a store and taking what's on the rack. I have been getting by with Playtex 18 hour bra in 38 G. I am not falling out the bottom either (which I ordered from the onehanesplace website). I think the bands are generally a little smaller and the cups a little larger with this style- it doesn't "fit" perfectly (the "girls" are in there and it's a tight squeeze), but, like I said, I can get by and they have generally good support.
You can also try figleaves.com. There is a nursing bra on there I am considering buying: Jasmine nursing bra (Royce).
Goddess and Fancee Free make small band large cup maternity/nursing bras. Take a look at http://www.herroom.com/ for some options.
Sure there will be some trial and error (and return postage), but I have finally come to accept that this is the way it's going to be.
Hope this helps!
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S.C. answers from Minneapolis on July 06, 2010
I was a 32 F by the end of my pregnancy, also not a standard bra size. I ended up buying one good nursing bra each trimester (I went up a cup each trimester with both my pregnancies, but only went down two cup sizes after my first and still haven't finished weaning on the second). I bought mine online as there is no where near where I live that carries anything close to that (I can't even find my non-pregnant size around here). I wasted some money, but ended up really liking Elle McPherson Intimates (available through Nordstroms online). They were expensive, but I wore them a lot. I wore them while I was pregnant, going up a size as needed, and while nursing, going down a size as needed. Then I wore them again through my second pregnancy and while nursing. So, I've ended up getting a lot of wear out of them over the course of two pregnancies and nursing. I have to do more washing (only hand wash or delicate because I don't want to risk damaging them). It was an investment, but worth it as it is so much more comfortable and I feel so much better about how I look to wear a bra that fits. Oh, and none of mine had underwire. My first time without them since I quit wearing training bras, but I liked it and will look for no underwire whenever I buy a non-nursing bra again. Good luck!
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V.J. answers from Phoenix on July 06, 2010
My mother-in-law is quite large chested and I recall her saying that she shops for bras at C.'s. Not sure what sizes they carry but there is one at 51st Ave/Bell so at least you could go to a store and try something on rather than paying to ship an online purchase.