I Want a Baby Girl

Thank you for posting this, because I've been feeling the exact same way. I love my son to pieces and am SO thankful that I had a boy first, but lately I've been trying hard to have a girl, and dreaming about what that will be like. Only right now after reading all of these replies (Thank you, wickerparkgirl!) am I realizing that I was very much romanticizing the idea. When I think about all the hormones, attitudes, and everything that I put my own mother through, it scares me to think about having a daughter!! If I have another boy, great! I have 4 brothers and a son already, I'll know exactly what to do/expect. I still have a bit of me that would love to have a girl, just to experience it, but for the first time since my son was born, I think I'll be perfectly ok at having another boy. So thanks again for posting this, and I hope you found some helping words as well!

just to level set.....

last night my 11 year old daughter broke into tears because she checked out the wrong book at the library. Then giddiness ensued when this boy she thought was cute texted her.... followed 30 seconds later by absolute hysterics when he asked if a friend of hers has ever said anything about him because he thought this friend was cute. Followed by a scowl and sneer of "stop it M." when I told her "this, too... shall pass". When I laughed she stomped to her room and spent the rest of the night there iPod in her ears, nose in a book. Until she came out to tell me she was out of tampons and I needed to get some of her kind from the store..... like right then.

This morning I wasn't sure what would come out of her room.... a 2 headed 8-eyed serpent or a cute little fluffy yorkie. She can be either.... sometimes both in alternating seconds.

Goodness I wish sometimes I could just give her a bat and a ball and tell her to go play in the yard.

What's my point? well.... you get what you get and you don't throw a fit.

What's my other point?
I know you want a girl. But sometimes we romanticize what it means to have something that we don't have. So, I'm not lecturing and I do understand (I cried at the ultrasound when they told me I was having a frufie girl) but make sure that in between those day dreams of lunches, shopping and mani-pedi's you add in some nightmares of hormones, periods and dating teenage boys.

I have 3 boys--when I was pregnant my 3rd, every fiber of my being hoped and believed he'd be a girl. I couldn't even fathom NOT having a girl, so imagine how shocked I was when at the 20 wk ultrasound they told me it was a boy and I WASN'T devastated about it! I was actually kinda relieved because I KNOW boys, have tons of boy clothes/toys, etc.

So yes, now I have 3 boys, and I think we might be done with having kids--or at least on hiatus. If we try to have another baby a few years down the line, I would like to have a girl, but realize that it won't be the end of the world if we have all boys. (Actually, my s/n "queen of the castle" was adopted after I had my u/s for BB#3 and another mama said, "oh, you'll get to be the queen of your castle." It was a great way to look at it :)

For now, I've been getting my girl fix by buying outfits for my niece and some extended cousins. I am close with my niece (she's only 2) and plan on developing a strong bond with her as she grows up.

I love Wickerparkgirl's answer to you! I have a daughter. She is the light of my life and the thorn in my side!

However, I completely remember when they put her in my arms and told me I had a girl. My thought was "oh thank god I'm done"! I had wanted a little girl so badly, someone to dress up, paint toes, have tea, dolls and barbies. Yes, I'm girlie and so is she!!!!

Then, the teenage years. OMG!! The hormones, the drama, the cattiness with other girls, backstabbing and the squeeling! And BOYS! Be careful what you wish for, you just might get it!!!! :)

My best friend in the world always wanted a little girl--and luck would have it she had 3 boys. She was devastated, but once the little guy was here she wouldn't have had it any other way.

Her only hope was that my 3rd would be a little girl, the one that she could finally spoil and embrace the mother daughter/auntie thing. To her disappointment, but my joy and wish, my 3rd is also going to be another boy. I, unlike everyone else in my family, was praying earnestly for another boy. It would make my life so much easier--but also I never identified with my mother or 'girls' in general so I'm sure that's where my fears came from.

I'm resting in the assurance that I will have a lot of grand daughters to nurture and do all those mother/daughter things with, and then I get to graciously hand them back to their M./dad. I just couldn't fathom the teenage years with a daughter. I'm obviously disappointed in not having that daughterly bond when she becomes a mother herself, but I'm hoping I can have a close enough bond with my boys where it won't be missed terribly.

Wishing you all the best.

Google "the Billings Methhod" It is a theory on how to make a girl and how to make a boy based off of knowing when you are ovulating to increase your chance of having the sex you desire. It can't hurt.
And yes I can relate to how you feel. I always felt I was meant to be the mother of girls. I wanted my first born to be a girl and was secretly relieved when she was. We then used the Billing method to have a boy and I have to admit when the ultrasound tech confirmed it was a boy I little part of me thought aww, it is not a girl. We used the Billings method again and it worked...my third was a girl. Yeah!

I have O. child. A boy. I was sure I was having a girl.
I was afraid I wouldn't relate to a boy.
Guess what? I feel like you do. I'd be lost without HIM!
Maybe you'll get a girl. Maybe you won't.
But I'll bet if you DO feel disappointed, it will be short lived. After all, you already know boys ROCK, right?
And if you DO get a girl? A whole new adventure!
Win-Win!

The easiest way to ensure you'll have a baby girl?

Adopt.

There's plenty of baby girls out there who need loving homes.

I have 1 boy and I want the next one to be a girl. I know I won't be having more than two , so I hope I get a girl. It will be so nice to have one of each. I always wanted my first born to be a boy - I didn;t have a older brother growing up , so i wanted a older brother for my daughter if I have one . I agree with you boys rock! I am so happy with my little guy but hope the next one is a girl because I have heard girls are amazing too. :)
I think that's the dream for most parents - to have atleast one of each. We just have to wiat and see what god has in store for us :) I hope you get your girl next time. let's keep fingers crossed !

I felt exactly as you do. With my twins I thought for sure one would be a girl. Both were boys. While I love them very much, I felt incomplete. I now have a six month old baby girl, so don't give up yet!

You're right, we're all lucky to have our children. However, many people have a gender preference. You can't help that, and as long as you are not having a third baby just to "try" for a girl, your disappointment if you have a boy will likely be short lived.
I like to think we get the kids we are supposed to have. If I could have chosen, I'd have wanted all girls, no matter how many kids I had. My dream family was three girls. I had a girl, then I had a boy. That's what I've got. If I never had a boy, I wouldn't have felt like I missed anything, but if I never had a girl, I would have felt that I missed out on something huge. Yet one of my sisters has three boys and feels she missed nothing. When she had the third boy, 26 years ago, a friend who also had only boys said to her, "Just think, in 15 years your house will be FULL of girls!" My sister now has two lovely daughters in law and a precious granddaughter.
I got the kids I was supposed to. While I would have chosen a girl, a sister for my daughter, when I was pregnant with the second one, I can't imagine life without my son, a very interesting person. Good luck!

I firmly believe you are given the children you are meant to have whether they are boys or girls. I always imagine myself with 3 kids: 2 girls, then a boy. I had the names of the 2 girls picked out long ago. My firstborn was indeed a girl and I was over the moon. So I was in complete shock when the u/s showed a boy the second time. I quickly grew accustomed to the idea and fell in love with my baby boy the second I saw him. So...when #3 came along, I was so sure I was having a girl. I'd still have my 2 girls and a boy, just in the wrong order...Nope, it was another boy and I couldn't be happier with my family just the way it is! He was definitely the child we were meant to have and couldn't be more of a blessing!

I am due with my second in 7 weeks and it is another girl and Im pretty sure we are done after this baby so that means I will have 2 girls and thats it. I honestly felt a bit of relief when I went for the ultrasound to determine the gender of this new baby because I was scared that I didnt know what to do with boys LOL - I know it sounds crazy but I was honestly nervous for a boy. I feel a bit guilty for the fact that my husband wont get his boy but he loves his kids so much that I dont think he cares much. I too am just thankful everyday that I was able to have children and dont try to dwell on what I cant/couldnt change. Im sorry I dont have the feelings that you do but at least you have a 50/50 chance of having a girl and if it happens to turn out another boy I think you and I both know you will that boy just the same
Good Luck and baby GIRL dust all over you! =)

I also have two perfect wonderful boys. Two of my close friends just had baby girls, and my sister is expecting a girl in April. I also would LOVE to have a girl.

I want to experience all the girl stuff. Hair, clothes, makeup and manicures when she's older. I want to see my daughter all grown up, giving birth, being a mother herself. I have an amazing relationship with my M., and I'd love to experience that with my own daughter.

I think its natural for a woman to want a daughter :-)

I think it is normal to want a girl when you have two boys. When I really wanted a girl, I made sure to know the sex of my child before I gave birth, so that I had time to adjust. If it was going to be a boy I didn't want to feel disappointment upon giving birth. But I got my girl!

Good luck, I hope you get your girl. But if you don't, you will love your son just as much.

Oh it's normal I think.

My first was a girl and then two boys. I always wanted another girl but now I thank God I only have one. She is definitely more work than my boys put together :). But I love them all equally!!

Have fun and try to read up on your chances of increasing a girl. Has to do with timing....but alas it really is a 50/50 toss up. I can understand how you feel. I am glad that i got the girl first because I had two boys after that :)

here's something to think about in the "I want a girl to do all the girly stuff with" ... what if your girl isn't girly? what if she HATES pink? what if she'd rather play in the mud? what if she'd rather fix a car? and would rather die that learn the "homemaking arts" (really? UGH)? what then?

I wanted all boys. I'm a girl ... I KNOW what we're like as teenagers. Yeah that was such a FUN time in my life ... NOT. GAH ... hormones, drama, tears, anger, joy, PERIODS, attitude, etc etc etc ... thanks but NO. I love my daughter ... but man there are days I REALLY wish she'd been a boy LOL

I think it is completely natural to want a daughter. It has nothing to do with your sons. Our girls have added so much to our family. Before we had our three girls, we had three boys. The boys are great. I'm so thankful to the Lord for giving them to us. But, I sure cannot imagine our family without our girls! They add such a sweet softness to our home. They give me the opportunity to teach the homemaking arts to them. We get the softness of skirts and bows and giggles. The boys are our muscles, the rougher edges, the building, energy, dirt. Such a great mix. Of course, things aren't always found along the traditional gender roles. My oldest daughter is just as likely to be found in a tree as in the kitchen. LOL