I Had My First Miscarriage.what Do I Do

My dr said that you are usually most fertile right after having a miscarriage so if I were you, I would try right away. I had a miscarriage with my third pregnancy and got pg two weeks after it was over. It really helped with the healing process. I was sad about the miscarriage but what I really wanted was a baby and that is what I ended up having. Good luck!

I waited one cycle after my first miscarriage. I ended up pregnant again 2 months later with full term baby. Best of luck to you! It took us 3.5 years to get pregnant with first, then easy for second.

M.,
You do whatever you want to do. Whatever feels right to you.

Best wishes

i had a miscarriage in october of 2007. It broke my heart. i found out on december 1 that i was pregnant again and i worried all throughout my pregnancy. i gave birth to the most beautiful healthy little girl in july. all i can tell you is that you will never get over your loss but try again and try not to stress so much because whats meant to be will be. ill pray for you.

Hi M.:

I'm so very sorry for your loss. From the medical aspect I think your doctor is right and you should wait one menstrual cycle before trying again. Give your body a few weeks to heal from the miscarriage and the hormones to go back to normal. The chances for another miscarriage are higher if you get pregnant too soon again. Even though it might be tough, listen to your doctor's recommendation. And try to stay positive, as hard as it may seem right now. Your chances to get pregnant are higher now within the next 3-4 months!

The best of luck to you! S.

I've miscarried twice. Both times, I was told to wait until after 2 normal cycles. I now have two wonderful kids. The order for us went: miscarriage, healthy baby, miscarriage, healthy baby.

Trying again too soon increases your risk of a repeat miscarriage. Follow the advice of your doctor and wait. It feels like forever, but it really isn't that long.

I would wait until you feel ready. Give your body some time to adjust. I waited at least 3 mo, but that was just me. I'm so sorry about your miscarriage! *hug* Most of us have been there. You're not alone. :D

I'm so sorry for your loss, and pray that you will have peace.

Well, you don't really have a choice because you only get one fertile period per cycle. So if this cycle is over, you HAVE to wait for the next before it being possible to conceive. Just wait for the next time your cervical mucous is fertile and go for it... Or did I misunderstand the question?

You need to wait until you have a full cycle with no abnormal bleeding. If you aren't doing so already, track your cycles along with other fertility signs (cervical mucus, position, opening and basal body temperature). Tracking makes it much much easier to pin point when you are fertile and to see if there are any problems or reasons why it took you 3 years to become pregnant. I had a miscarriage in the beginning of November of '08 then conceived my now 4 1/2 month old son in late December of '08. I waited 1 full cycle, didn't have any abnormal bleeding (following a D&C) and became pregnant the second cycle after the miscarriage. I used the information in "Taking Charge of your Fertility" to track my cycles.

When I had my miscarriage the dr told me to wait at least 3 months because he said your body goes through trama as it would in delivering a baby and that it needs a little time to heal and that your chances in carrying one without a miscarriage is greater if you let your body heal.
So I did, waited EXACTLY 3 months and then I was pregnant. Carried this one just fine and it went great.
I am sorry you had a miscarriage. I know how disappointing it is and how badly it hurts to be so excited about a baby then all of the sudden there is no baby. All sorts of things go through your head wondering if you will ever get to be a mom, maybe for some reason you won't ever get this experience that you want so badly. But the worse thing you can do is worry. It will happen. Actually we should really thank God for miscarriages sometimes. I think God takes care of malformations or wrong things. Maybe he didn't think you were strong enough to handle a child with something wrong. I am definitely one of those that wouldn't be able to handle something wrong. I commend those that are... they are wonderful, exceptional people. But God knows all of us. The best advice I can give you that helped me is, everytime you start thinking about it, do something that will take your mind off of it. Try not to be alone for a while. You and your hubby do more things together, spend more time with each other and try keeping busy. Time does heal and time takes the pain and uncertainty away, then one day when you least expect it, you realized that you haven't started your period and it is time. Then another week goes by and still no period then you begin to think: "could you" so you go to the drug store, get a test and it is possitive. So you call your dr and because of the earlier miscarriage he sees you earlier than normally so he gets you in pretty quickly and does an ultrasound and woe and behold..... you see the blood flow already and everything is fine. I worried the entire time I was pregnant and said over and over: "what if" but my husband was so sure everything was fine. He never worried the second time. He did the first time and I didn't. I guess you can say he had more of a mother instinct than I did.
Make sure you take a vitamin every day getting ready for the new conception.
Hope this helps from someone that has walked in your shoes.

M.~ I am so sorry about your miscarriage! I had one back in May, so I understand how difficult it is! I did get pregnant again two months later, though, and this pregnancy appears to be normal and healthy. I hope that is encouraging to you. As a midwife, the general rule of thumb is that you should wait for as long as you were pregnant before losing the baby. So, if you were six weeks pregnant when you miscarried, it is best to wait six weeks before trying again. If you were 12 weeks pregnant, you should try to wait 12 weeks, etc. That's not set in stone . . . it's just considered prudent to allow your body to recover that long from the stress of the previous pregnancy before subjecting it to pregnancy, again. Your goal is to do everything possible to increase your chances of a healthy pregnancy! All the best to you. O.

M. look at your diet to see if it suits your blood type. Then eat those foods. You are more likely to implant a healthy zygote that turns into a healthy fetus and a very healthy baby.
No theories work here you must know your blood type. You can buy Dr. Adamo's book to read up on this method for optimal health.

We only get diseases when we buy into theories about how to eat that do not suit our blood group.

Hi M.,
I am so sorry for your loss. I was told to wait 3 months before I started trying again. It took about 3 months for my period to get back to normal and I could figure out when I was ovulating I started acupuncture and herbs and got pregnant 3 months later and now have a healthy 16 month old.

So sorry to hear about your miscarriage. After I had my miscarriage, my midwife suggested waiting about 3 months to give my body a chance to recover. I was feeling good and only waited until I had a period, which was about a month. I got pregnant right away and had a very uncomplicated pregnancy, resulting in a healthy full term baby boy. I would say listen to your body and do what feels right for you. Best wishes to you.

M.,
Hi. I have to tell you I went through a similiar experience last year. November 2008 was my last menstrual period or so I thought. Well December came around, and I was so excited. Thinking my hubby & I were going to have our second child together. We went through Christmas. Even got gifts for the baby, made a stocking and everything. Our step son (11), and son (3) at the time, were excited to be having a new sibiling. I don't exactly remember the dates now. But one day I started bleeding, no cramps though. So I scheduled an appt. to go into my OB, they did an ultrasound and told me I had miscarried. Needless to say I wasn't convinced. But I went in to the ER the morning of the New Years Eve, and the dr. confirmed it there, the embryo had dissolved back into my body, it never did come out. Well January I had a regular period. Then February I missed my period again. Not sure if I was really ready to face it one way or another I waited. Well my 3 yr. old come up to me one day, and said "Mommy the baby in your tummy is ok". Just like that out of the blue. Well I believe it was another missed period before we acted on it, and took a home test, and then had it confirmed by the clinic. It wasn't until my 3rd missed period that I seen my OB. Well I have to tell you now that I hold my now almost 2 month old baby boy in my arms. I knew I was ready to be a mom again. Hope this helps.

So sorry you have to go through this, I also had a miscarriage and know how difficult it is. However, I now have a healthy, happy 10 month old, although it took a lot of patience on our part. Anyway, we only waited a few weeks after the miscarriage to start trying again and I was pregnant within 3 months. I've heard you are more fertile after a miscarriage, but I'm not sure if that is true or not. Good luck!

Hi M.,
I am very sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I was off the pill and kind of trying for about 2 years before I got pregnant the first time, and had a miscarriage. Without using any protection and without really trying I got pregnant again 6 months later, and miscarried again (both around 8 weeks). After the second one I got pregnant again right away before I had my next cycle. It took me by surprise that it happened so quickly, but believe me, I was happy! The 3rd pregnancy ended up a healthy one.

My doctor said it is best to wait for your next cycle because it makes the pregnancy easier to "date" (ie, when you got pregnant), but if your body gets pregnant then it is "ready".

I know as sad as I was after my miscarriages I also felt a little relief that I knew I could get pregnant. I have some friends that were not that lucky and had to try IVF which is very expensive.

Good luck!!!

I'm so sorry for your loss but I won't dwell on that, instead I'll answer your question. I was anxious for a baby so as soon as I miscarried (I let it happen naturally instead of a DNC) I waited for one period to happen (took one month) and the next time I was ovulating I got pregnant. I now have a perfectly healthy 2 yr old.
My Dr. was conservative and told me to wait 3 months but I didn't want to wait.

I am so sorry M.. I have had two miscarriages and know what you are going through. I would listen to your doctor - your body needs time to recover from this, as does your heart. Did it happen on its own or did you need a D&C? I think if it happened on its own you can try sooner. For me, I had to have a D&C both times, and so I had to wait two cycles.

I just had my second baby on Friday. Take comfort in knowing that if you got pregnant once, you can get pregnant again. My best wishes to you.