Husband/Mother-in-law Make Decisions Concerning Kids Summer Vacation W/o Me

Sounds like they are planning something nice and special for you. A whole summer just you and your husband, sounds great. I would relax and enjoy the time, be with him and enjoy not being mommy for a little while.

they're your kids too! Who on earth does he think he is making a decision like that for the entire family? I would tell him that you're putting your foot down. The kids can for a certain amount of time and that's it. End of the story. No arguing, no haggling. Period! 3 months away from mom and dad is WAY too long, especially for your younger ones. I just can't believe he would plan your kids ENTIRE summer with out any input from you! You really need to stand up to him. If you need to, call his mother and explain that you are incredibly uncomfortable with your kids being gone for that long. Explain that you want the kids to go see her, but only for 2 weeks max. If you don't do something, you're going to be miserable all summer long.

Wow, I would be so P-O'd if I were in your shoes! It seems like you have been married a while from the ages of your kids, has hubby always thought he was the sole decision maker? If yes, then it will be a lot harder for you to try and have a say now; if no, then what gives?

Ask hubby who he thinks he is to send your kids away without even asking you! I would explain to him that is was very hurtful of him to exclude you from his plans, and put my foot down saying that they can only go for two weeks, which happen to include the time of your mission trip! Problem solved! Of course, it probably won't work out too well if he is used to you always 'giving in' even if you are upset.

I know sometimes in marraige, we do things we don't really want to, or parhaps miss out on things we might like to do, but your feelings are just as important as his, if he doesn't realize that, I'm really sorry and there is nothing I (or anyone) can say to help you in this situation

I am in a similar situation as far as your husband throwing a fit about what you want to do. I haven't quite figured out how to handle the situation yet, but I have figured out that we have to make them understand that it is something that is really important to us. I feel like I have to deal with it a little more because I am a stay at home mom, but I see that you are a full time working mom, so you contribute to the money coming into the household. You have a right to do something that is important to you. I think you just have to put your foot down with your kids. You are there mother and you have a right to have a say in that. Have you thought of telling your husband that you can turn his solo trip into your honeymoon trip? I don't think it is fair that he gets to go some where on his own especially if he is going to throw a fit about you going some where. My husband has taken a few trips solo, mostly because of his job, but still. I have to look at pictures of him on a beach when I am at home with the kids. I wish you luck on this matter. Men can be selfish and I think it is just built into their brains that they are ok to be that way.
Put your foot down concerning your kids.
Good luck

I think you should stand up to him. I know first hand that it is easier said than done but you need to if you ever want a say in any decision. If you don't stand up and say something then it will eat at you for who knows how long. Let your kids go for a couple of weeks and then you and your husband go together to get them. Leave a few days early to stop off some where and have that honeymoon. This way your kids get to see their grandparents, you and your husband get your honeymoon and noone misses the graduation party. It should be a win win situation. Good luck!!!

T.,

I feel for you. I sense that you and your husband are not seeing eye to eye spiritually and I will be praying for you guys. All I can say to you is to wait on the Lord and submit to what He would want you to do. Would pleasing your husband and sacrificing your will be the best as well as the hardest? Only you can answer. You can read my own testimony of my struggle here if it is any help: http://therealdeel.blogspot.com/2008/02/as-i-wait.html

God has done amazing things in our marriage and is leading our family back on course.

V.