Husband Grew a Beard!

Does your husband at least know about how you feel about facial hair? I actually like a beard, so sometimes my husband will grow one out to please me. I'm sure that your husband would do the same if he knew how you feel. I think it's fair to mention your preference once, without any nagging or rude comments.

However, I wouldn't really push the issue if he's being a great dad and husband. Hardly anyone feels sexy for a while after having a baby anyway (beard or not). Be pleased that he's so helpful. Good luck!

You could just say that it scratches you, tickles you, or soemthing else. Maybe say the baby might not like it. I'm sure he'll shave it off if you say nicely that it bothers you in some other way, not the way it looks :) I'm thankful that my husbands' comes in sparsely, and looks funny, so he shaves every day.

I think you should be able to say that you prefer the clean shaven look, without hurting his feeling. You don't have to say "you look silly with the beard" or " you are not the man I married" or "This is affecting our love life".
How about " honey, you know I love you and adore you, but I prefer the clean shaven look".
Marriage itself changes and with 2 very small children. Your relationship can't be quite the same and how you spend your preciously small time together will change.

Hi, I have had this same conversation with my husband. I will ask his opinion on my haircuts and in turn I will give mine on his facial style :)
I won't come out and say "i don't like that" I will simply suggest "hey, you know what might look good, is a goatee"
or if he lets it go to a beard (which I also do not like) I will just tell him that I love to kiss him but don't like the rug burn I get from the beard.
I really just try and keep it light hearted so no feelings are hurt. I hope this helps a little.

M.,

I can relate. My husband stopped shaving almost a year ago now. Sometimes he will trim up, but most times he reminds me of Grizzly Adams from that old TV show!! :P

I have adjusted for the most part. I am not overly fond of it at this length, but I do like him with a closer trimmed beard. Now, we have a joke that he will trim when I get a job...I stay at home with the kids!!

I am having fun telling him that he can powder and be Santa next Christmas. I am also starting to enjoy combing it with my fingers or a small brush. He lets me for a minute or two...it is how I feel more connectd.

I have also offered to attempt a braid--of course I tell him as soon as I can get a good one, I am cutting it off! I am not sure how serious I am with this.

Just take time to try and adjust. When he asks, be honest about not having joyous feelings over the beard. Always leave it to him since that is what they do for us on our haircuts.

Good luck,
T.

If he's your best friend...and say he had a booger in his nose...you would tell him, wouldn't you? Same goes with loss of attraction through facial hair growth. It is his face, but I'll bet he's still very motivated to keep you interested in him. TELL HIM. Staying attracted to each other and in love with each other is important. Marriage is hard. Sometimes we have to deliver messages that are a little awkward, but you just have to do it. And based on the way you wrote your question, I know you respect him and that you'll be gentle in your approach.

Wishing you many happy evenings with your hubby....

M.

Lots of advice from people already. Of course, it always helps to gently let him know how you feel....wait for the right moment. Also, as far as the lack-of-attraction thing...that's normal and definitely comes with the territory....lack of sleep, your feelings of unsexiness, you both seeing yourselves as parents instead of lovers. I guess, be patient with that.
I actually prefer my husband's face with his goatee and moustache (can't grow a full beard), but for our daughter's sake (for kissing and snuggling) he shaves. There may be a happy medium....perhaps it's the way he keeps the beard. Goatees are nice, but any facial hair, if not washed can get pretty gross. That's my complaint about facial hair...must wash so it doesn't smell like lunch or dinner. The other complaint is when it looks scraggly...so keeping it trimmed is a request I make if my husband has facial hair. That also helps with the smelliness:-)
Hope you find a good place with this!

We should trade LOL My husband just got rid of his an I loved it!!! He will shave it in due time!

Hi M. C,

My name is K., aka Reverend On The Run, Spiritual Psychotherapist. Like you, my family and I are originally from Wisconsin. I moved from Scottsdale/Phoenix area 5 years ago, and I live in Beaverton Oregon.

In regards to you and your husbands 'new' look. When you fell in love with him, I'm sure it was more than his physical attributes that made you decide to marry him? Think back to all the other wonderful qualities he has that did attract you and see how you feel.

Growing a beard shouldn't be considered a 'problem' but lack of communication in a marriage is. Tell him you love him and let him know you like the beard but prefer seeing his beautiful face. Unless he grew it for change, or new look for a job, using children as an excuse for not shaving is not good. Shaving a beard takes less than 5 minutes and is routine for most men, we women have 2 legs and 2 underarms to shave. Besides taking care of the children, we have all the other duties that go along with being a wife and mother too.

Both of you are suffering from what's called situational depression, don't worry, pray about it together. The Lord commands we pray, and forbids us to worry.

Is there anything else you or he aren't doing since the birth of your second child? Email me at ____@____.com and let me know how both of you are doing.

Take care, and God Bless you, love

K.

I bet you that your husband will not be offended in the least if you said something lighthearted, like, I miss your sexy smooth face...I love that look on you, verses I wish you would shave, I don't find you attractive anymore. But speaking from experience, I think for the sake of your marriage, it is better to let him know what you think. Something so small can eventually turn into something big if you are not honest from the get go. Besides, most guys don't take these things to heart like we do!