A.P. asks from Janesville, MN on April 11, 2008
How to Tell Chatty MIL That During Labor She Needs to Be Quite
First I have to say that I have a wonderful MIL. However when my first child was born my intention was to only have my mom and my husband in for the delivery. My mom was the one that had asked me to let her stay in the room, since she has never experienced a delivery before or had to give birth before, as she adopted her children. I allowed her, thinking that she would be very low key and understand that it needed to be quite and it was not a time to be chatting with everyone that came into the room. As this was a very intense labor and very painful, having her there was great, but she never shut up the whole time. It got so bad I had told my husband that he needed to shut up and be quite, hoping she would stop talking. Any way this continued with my second child and now that I am pregnant with number #3 how do I go about telling her that if she cant be quite during this time than she is not allowed in there. I am affraid that being pregnant and somewhat hormonal I might go off the deep end and have a bad situation on my hands?? Any suggestions on what to say or things that I can do?? I have thought about making a sign to put on the delivery room door and in the room but not sure about how and what to say?? And how to say it polietly!! Any suggestions are really appreciated!! Thanks
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A.G. answers from Lincoln on April 11, 2008
Tell you nurses that she is a chatter box and that during delivery and stuff that you want it quiet and tell them that if she gets to chatty that you want her to leave the room till she can be quiet
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M.C. answers from Minneapolis on April 11, 2008
I wouldn't allow her in. My Grandma arrived without me knowing and she was annoying to me and my husband. She gave us opinons and wanted to watch the ball game while I was waiting to be prepped for my c-section. The second time around we just told her that we didn't want anybody there until the baby was born. It's your right to have this time alone with your husband.
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J.H. answers from Minneapolis on April 11, 2008
I'd simply tell her that she experienced the birth of #1 and #2 and that you'd like #3 to be with just you and your husband. Don't even give her the option of being there in the room with you. If that doesn't work, put it on the nurses (as another poster said). Have a list of who your are comfortable with and the nurses can be the bad guys to not allow people in the room. As a nurse myself, I can tell you we do that kind of stuff every day!
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C.K. answers from Minneapolis on April 11, 2008
If this was me, I wouldn't even let her in there this time. She's been to 2 of your children's births--that's plenty.
Maybe she can watch your 2 kids while you are at the hospital?
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L.B. answers from Sioux Falls on April 11, 2008
If you have a great relationship with your MIL, then you should be able to be honest with her. Tell her its hard to concentrate with her there. And if you do go off on her, tell her your sorry and that you cant control the hormones, I can almost bet she will understand that. I have gone off on people pregnant, then said im sorry right away, blaming hormones. You have the best excuse now, have fun with it!! Good Luck and Congrats.
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