With all these questions about in-laws and the ensuing holiday drama, I started wondering . . .do men have as much trouble with their in-laws as we women seem to? Are your husbands/SOs generally pretty easy-going about your family or do you think they are just better at hiding their annoyance? What's their relationship like with your family?
My husband, for the most part, likes my family and enjoys spending time with them. When we were dating and he first had Thanksgiving with us he told me that he knew right then and there that he wanted to part of my family. He grew up a child of divorce and his parents are not really affectionate people and he felt my family was so warm and inviting and just felt like home to him. Of course, now that he knows them better, they do some things that drive him crazy!!
My in-laws are COUNTRY, cattle, horses, etc (that's not bad, I'm just saying) and I'm CITY. They can't comprehend, not even fathom that I'm a stay at home dad. They consider me a HUGE waste of their daughters life. And on the otherhand, I can't comprehend sticking my arm up a cow's a** to pull out a calf.
That being said, we tolerate each other and it's known that it is just that.
My husband gets along very well with "my side" of the family. He golfs with my brothers, and has even taken my mom out to a concert she really wanted to see--with dinner out together first!
We don't have these in-law dramas for the most part. We've been married a long time, and of course, nothing is perfect and once in a while there's a misunderstanding or something, but 99% of the time, everything is good. My mom considers my husband to be the son she never had, and loves him a great deal. And my husband loves her. When we all get together, we have a good time. His family is different from my family, but that's a good thing, because too much of the same thing would be boring!!
Dawn
They get along just fine. In fact my husband gets along with my brother in law (sisters husband) better than me. My dad and my husband are more in tuned than my BIL and my dad, so that's good. My mom can drive anyone crazy.
For the most part though, my family is easier to get along with. Most of my family is do anything for you type people, and his family is I'll do stuff for you but will make you feel like a complete loser for it, even though we fully expect you to do things for us. With the exception of his parents which have been a blessing. Luckily most of the rest of his family simply can't be bothered with us, so it works out. Wait.... I think I may have just turned this into a rant. Sorry.
Yes, my husband gets along with my family.
I always joke that if we ever divorced, my husband would want visitation with my family! We have been together since we were 17 (25 years) so he literally grew up with my family. He even calls my brother his brother, not brother-in-law. My parents treat him as one of their own.
I think my husband gets along with my family better than I do! lol
Generally he laughs at my mom because she's nuts and he likes my dad a lot but can't understand WHY they are STILL married.
He's been around for 25 years and has tolerated some REALLY bad behavior over the years and hasn't killed anyone yet. I've been close so I give him a LOT of credit to have so much restraint! I wouldn't condone it but I'd UNDERSTAND! (yes, I stole that from Chris Rock!)
I love my MIL, I tolerate my FIL. Hubby gets along well with my parents. He is not a super huge fan of my brother but that's a different story!
I can't get my husband and dad to SHUT UP!! Oh my goodness - lol. But I'll take that over what it was years ago. My mom is quick to speak (like I can be) and so my mom and husband have butted heads in the past, but that's when my husband wasn't doing right by anyone.
Now my family gets along really well with him and everyone likes him, and he likes them. Of course he has his comments, most of which are the same as mine, but it's a good relationship.
I also think if his mom lived near us, my relationship with her would be much different.
My hubby gets along really well with my brothers (partly because he only has a sister and really enjoyes having someone to play video games with and goof of with). My parents are so laid back and easy going that my hubby also gets along with them well. My family is very well family oriented, the chores can wait if we are hanging out together, we help each other in the kitchen and do not get upset that so and so does mash potatoes different or whatever.
I get along with my in-laws well, for the most part. Sometimes his mom is a little over the top but she never imposses her way of life on us outside of her home (OCD cleaning, nagging, super advanced planning for holidays when I do not even have my monthly work schedule yet) ... she even says she stresses out and cleans when she should be spending time with family. In the past year she has gotten become more relaxed but no one can help her in the kitchen because A) she does not want help B) we would do it "wrong" so we just let her be even though she complains about the amount of alone time spent in the kitchen.
Either my hubby is good at hiding it or he really is fine with my family. I usually do not complain about his family unless his mom is not giving me space like figureing out what we are doing for Easter when Christmas has not even come yet.
It really depends on the day and what is going on. Hubs grew up in a very fair home - if you do for one you do the same for all. My parents, well, they just don't. My neice if favored and my sister is babied. My brother doesn't get the same that my sister would and I have stepped back from all that and don't ask and therefore don't receive. I can forgive easier than my husband because they are mine and I still love them all. I just make sure that hubs realizes where my parent came from and how they were raised and that answers a lot of questions. He is never rude to them and is always polite, but sometimes just goes to bed early when they visit. But truth be known, my brother and sister claim I am their favorite...... Don't know why, maybe because I do not need nor ask for anything from them therefore they have made me executor of their estate.
For the most part, we both get along with our in-laws. I think his brother is best taken in little doses, but so does he.
He doesn't care to engage them. He shows up to family stuff. He's polite. He participates, but that's about it. He doesn't call any of my family or have anything to do with them any other time. He doesn't dislike anyone and has no problems like women have with in-laws. I dont think the men have drama, because they dont seem to care what the in-laws think of them and dont get caught up in the family drama on either side. They usually just sit onthe couch and watch football. It's woman that are busy getting offended because somebody said something backhanded and now they are going to analyze it all night. Men dont even notice that stuff.
My husband gets along very well with my family. He has even invited my dad out to do guy stuff on a couple of occasions.
He has had a strained relationship with his own family, since basically his teen years, which is sad.
Loves them and adores them. We all have a blast together. He wishes they would come around more. My family seems to always be full of issues due to a devastating divorce...our parent's divorce. There is always some drama. But...he loves being around everyone in my family. Some members within my own family can't stand to be in the same room with each other...but my hubby gets along with everyone. He is wonderful!!
Good luck and best wishes!!
My husband gets along with everyone, even his in-laws. My step-dad is his best friend (that's how we met) and he and my brother are really good friends too. He adores my sister and would do anything for her and her boys. He and my Mom get along and he does go to her house and help with things she can't do on her own (she lives alone, her and my step-dad are divorced). He also gets along better with my Dad than I do.
I love my mil and fil (except fil passed away a few years ago). One bil I get along with as well as my husband does, and the other bil.....BAH! I don't like him because he is pompous and treats my husband badly (they don't get along either).
My husband likes my mom, and he actually has more understanding and patience with her than I do (we love each other, we are close, but we clash pretty easily). He has a calming affect on her....and me. He gets along great with my brother, they are friends. He loves my grandparents and my great aunts are tickled pink anytime he comes around, they love him so. BUT he does not even pretend to want to be ''friends'' with my dad. Dad and I were estranged for years, and made up over time. Jeremy didn't believe me really on some things, he thought I was doing the "girl thing" and exaggerating, but when he went to dad's house and SAW some stuff, he became pretty angry and lost all respect for dad. He is always polite, civil, and above reproach with dad, but it is clear that they are not going to be friends. When we're visiting, he stays in the guest room or the library to read...he doesn't really come down to hang out or watch TV or whatever...really only comes down to go to the library, office, or dinner, unless we're leaving the house to visit other family members. They have good talks about history, science, and politics in the library, but that's about it. Dad is a little wary of him since he doesn't try to do the son in law thing, but he knows that the boys and I are in good hands. It's a strained relationship, and Jeremy did tell him politely before we got married that it WOULD be.....that he could not, as a man, respect my dad's decisions or actions on HOW he left us and HOW he did not provide for his family, only to be a multi-millionare and retired at 45. So, at least he was honest.
My husband gets along with everyone in my family. Even if they do drive him a little nutty at times, he's very patient. He respects their home, and their intentions. Even my other brothers-in-law. My dad tries very hard to please them, and they see it. They're very good with my parents. But, we'ere also far away from them and don't get to see them as much as we'd like. The distance is 1000's of miles away, so you see why. Generally though, he has good relations with everyone. I'm the difficult one I think.
dh and dad have breakfast together frequently...overall mom, dad, and hubby do great
For the most part we both get along with our inlaws, except for those that we mutually can't take large doses of .
My hubby LOVES my family! My family is loud and weird and crazy and sarcastic...and fun! When holidays come around we make a quick appearance to his family so that we can get back to all of the fun. My hubby always says that he doesn't want to miss anything going on at my mom's house and that his family is boring (They are...nice, very nice, but boring!).
My hubby adores my grandma as if she were his own. Grandma loves sports (something I don't care a lick about) and we don't have cable. We only live a block away from my mom and Grandma so when there's a game on my hubby will tell me, "I'm going to your mom's house tonight to snuggle with your Grandma!" Okay, weirdo ;)
We're actually reversed. I think my parents-in-law are great - I really love them. My husband and my mother DO NOT get along.
