How Do I Get Back on the Date Horse?

Hi A.,

I can definately relate to you. After living with my son's father for about a year I decided to move on to bigger and better things. I was then single for 3 years. I was dating a lot. It's really not something that you plan. Atleast i didnt. I would go out with the girls or just meet friends and through them I would meet people. I will agree that some guys dont like dating ladies who had kids but some dont mind. Actually nowadays they rarely do. So dont worry it will happen.

Go on to dating websites...you might bump into an old classmate or someone in your neighborhood. migente/blackplanet/myspace...

Just jump rite back in to it. I find it's easier to date men that have children casue they already know what to expect and are not as upset when your child comes first. My son is five and being a single mother I can not always have a babysitter so if he is around and men I may be dating, to my son, they are just friends. THat way there are no explantions to my son when they leave or just remain friends. Go to places that you find interesting to meet new people or try the internet, it can't hurt just to chat!

Hi,i feel the same way im 27 and i was in a three year relationship but at the 2 yr it felt like i was by myself any way. Some one mad a comment that i think you should date someone with kids that way they are kind of understanding... Go for it because my question is how lone should you wait before dating after you got out of one that didnt go well?

i can relate to you and understand the concearns you have being that you have a girl. i have a girl too and 2 boys. don't think that because you have a child a guy won't want you if he really likes you he won't mind. something me and my couise did was we went out with dates for awhile but never brought them around the kids because kids do get attach and if it doesn't work the kid gets hurt so don't let him met your girl till you feel sure about the relationship and see that things are good and even then just still be carefull. and when he meets your daughter see how he is with her and remaind him that she comes first not him and that if he doesn't accept her or in the long run treat her as him that he is not worth it.