My nephew is being harrassed on a daily basis in high school. Many comments seems to be involving his sexuality. I consider this sexual harrassment but don't want to mislead my sister. Everyday this poor kid is bullied and made fun of in ways that are too explicit to write. He is constantly being punished as these bullies turn on him, lie and manipulate the situation to get him in trouble. He has always had trouble socially but every child is entitled to an education without this constant torment. Anyone out there dealing with this on a daily basis?
contact the guidance counselor and the police.....file a report and a complaint against these bullies......my 12 yr old niece is at her friend/schoolmates awake this evening because she committed suicide.....please dont wait another minute
I am so sorry to hear this. I am a high school teacher and, unfortunately am all too aware of the fact that we are woefully unaware of what really goes on during unstructured time. In addition to the other good advice, I would recommend calling his teachers to alert them to the situation, they can subtly look out for him and possibly collect evidence. With any charge or accusation, evidence and documentation become very important. Your sister should also be sure to contact the school Principal...that person is ultimately responsible that all children are safe in the school at all times. If the harassment occurs most frequently at certain time or locations, extra security can be placed there...just their presence may make a difference. I would add that if your nephews sexual orientation is the cause of the harassment, he should probably be involved with some gay community groups or support groups...our school has an active club.
I went through something similar with my daughter for years. The only way I got results was my husband got involved. Other then that I was portrayed as an overprotective neurotic mother. When it was so bad that I was afraid for my daughters safety my husband went into the principal and then to the superintendent. The girls involved were suspended and were told they would be expelled if it continued. It stopped. You are right every child has a right to go to school and not be harassed. There are laws against this that were not in place when my daughter was going through this. Tell your sister to fight for her child. Bullying can lead to suicide, depression, etc. It is up to her to be an advocate for her child. She may be thinking she will make it worse, but in my opinion it won't get better unless we make someone do something. This was such a difficult time for my daughter and I felt at times so helpless. Good luck!!
Have your sister contact the principal immediately and request a meeting involving the principal, school guidance counselor and school psychologist. This is bullying at its worst and the individuals involved need to be dealt with.
If that doesn't work, go to the Superintendent. Make sure that she documents each phone call, returned call and meeting. Have your nephew keep a journal with dates and individuals. The odds are really good that these kids are harassing others.
Your nephew is entitled to a safe learning environment and your sister should be meeting with anyone who will listen. Start with the building administration and work your way up until it is addressed. I can only speak for my district, but this would be handled swiftly and with significant recourse.
