High Cholesterol.....Grrrrr

Buy hubby a couple of new cookbooks, maybe a vegetarian one and another for heart healthy recipes... And let him know that food is wonderful but you need to exercise some of the calories off otherwise you will be in a world of hurt. No time like the present to get healthy. If he doesnt want to be the leader then you need to do it without him. Get a blender and start making yourself fruit and veggie smoothies throughout the day, when you start looking good he'll get the message. Men can lose weight so much quicker than we can, so get a headstart on him and he'll catch up I betcha anything :)

Truly, I am very sorry for your loss.
We have a similar dynamic here. I have found that my husband will NOT change his diet at my request- even if I am gentle and tell him I want him to be healthy for our family and that we love him.
That being said, I just try to be a good example and keep my face out of the junk he brings home. This method has him coming around little by little. I don't believe he will ever feel the same way that I do about health and nutrition but I am happy about the steps he is taking.
How does Giada DeLaurentiis stay so thin!?! I think she pretends to taste those yummy dishes then spits while off camera!! :- o
In all seriousness though, I can sure understand if your husband is comforting himself with the foods he creates. Maybe his grief will last a bit longer than yours. Women process emotions faster, don't you think?

First of all..please except my sincere sympathy for the loss of your twins...I can only imagine how your heart must be breaking.
You might talk to you husband about how health conscious everyone is becoming and see if he thinks it might be "pro-active" to start coming up with some new great "healthy choices" for his cooking.
You might also just start introducing exercise opportunities for all of the family...make it fun and a family event. Do you do the cooking at home or does your husband? If you are the cook at home then you can start changing the things you cook to be more heart healthy...if it is him...you just need to talk to him about healthy choices...and that you want to live a long and happy life with him and your children...and you need to start taking the steps to make sure that happens.
Good luck...I know how difficult it can be!!

Get the book, "Fabulous Fat-Free Cooking" by Lynn Fischer. It explains all about how to lower your cholesterol and still eat good. Then just cook great low-fat meals from this book and he'll never know.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm not sure the best way to motivate your husband besides being honest about your feelings.

I wanted to ask have you been screened for hypothyrodism? Besides diet, it is a common cause of high cholesterol.

J.,

I am so sorry for the loss of your twins.
Yes, it sounds like you are coming out of your grieving. I think the best thing to do right now is to make the changes in your own life. Yes his health is really important, but I find it is harder to work on myself than on someone else :) So, give him another six months and then, after a nice dinner and your son is asleep, talk about your concerns. By then, he will have seen a change in you - with better exercise and eating you will sleep better, feel lighter and more energetic.