Help! I Need Some Sleep!

Hi J.,

I know how this goes, when my son was that age he literally slept only 3 hours at night. He was taking two naps also. at 11 and again at 4. I found that when I changed his naps it helped.. instead of him going down at 11am I put him down at 1:30. then he didnt want the afternoon nap. He did fight it the first couple weeks, but now he sleeps so well.
He goes down at 7pm, wakes up at 7am and only takes one nap during the day.

I promise it will pass.. your lil one is probably growing also. and that will keep them up. well i hope this helps a lil.

oh also something you could try. tea. Chamomille tea. it helps them sleep. my son loves it.

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I had this problem as well and was stunned to discover that moving nap time and an earlier bedtime solved the issue. My son was becoming overly stimulated and, for some weird reason, it meant waking up sometime up to four times a night!!! I was soooo tired and I snapped at everyone all the time. His bed time was anywhere from 9:30-10 and he'd wake up at 6 on the dot. So he went to a single nap at noon and a 7 bedtime. It took a week of fighting with him, but he went from noon - 2 for a nap and from 7-7 for night. I hear your pain and I hope something works out soon for you.

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J.,

I agree with the other Moms. Try eliminating the morning nap, any moving his bed time earlier.

My daughter is 22 months and has a similar problem. Her bed time is 8pm. She'll wake up anywhere between 5 and 7 am. Usually I can bring her in bed with me and she'll go back to sleep (she's a Mommy's Girl to the bone). On the days that she takes an "early" nap, around 10 am or so she's a nightmare by 3pm. If I can hold her off until 11 or later she does lots better. If she just completely skips the nap all together she's usually asleep just after 7 and sleeps.

Hope this helps,
M.

BTW, GO JR!!!!

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If you think this is still teething related, I am wondering if you have tried giving him motrin/tylenol. You can even use both at the same time (talk to your dr/nurse about how to do it). I find that that is helpful because then I know whether my child is waking up due to pain, or if she just "wants" me. If she just wants me, I try to do the cry it out thing to get them back to a schedule. If your kids/husband need to sleep, try giving them earplugs when they go to sleep. One or two nights of crying may help you get back to where you were before.

I do agree with the other postings that 10pm bedtime seems late for most kids his age, but you know him better than I do!! :-)

Most of all - good luck and get some sleep! I feel for you!! The good news is that this WILL pass and not last forever - it just seems like it right now!

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I agree with the earlier bed time. My first child at that age went to bed around 7pm and slept til around 6 or so. My two year old likes to stay up til mom and dad go to sleep, but at least she sleeps all night.

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Hi J.,
Your son may actually need more, not less, sleep. At 14 months of age he should be getting somewhere between 12-15 hours of sleep per day. Try putting your son to bed early. Also I would recommend liquid Ibuprofen before bedtime to help with teething pain. Make bedtime consistent & stick to your routine. He should be going to bed at about the same time every day. If he goes to bed at 8 pm & wakes up again at 11 or midnight, keep the room dark & don't talk. Just use the same techniques you used to put him to bed at 8 pm to help him fall back to sleep. You may want to try running a white noise machine at night. Hope this helps.

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Hi,

Just because he is awake, you don't have to be. Let him know he has to be quiet because everyone is sleeping- it's night time. I told my daughter she didn't have to sleep, but she had to be quiet! Then, give him headphones with music to listen to and/or books to look at. You go back to bed and eventually he will fall asleep again too. If you are there with him, you are keeping him awake because he wants to interact.

I would still push getting rid of the afternoon nap. It takes a while to start a different routine, but he will get there. If he is super grouchy, give him his bath at that time- most kids love the water and he will not be so grumpy.

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Hi J.,
I agree with the one mom, that he probably needs an earlier bed time. At this age, if he is taking his 2 naps fine, I would keep them if that works for you. My daughter goes down at night at 7:00-7:15 and sleeps until 6:00ish (I would love for her to sleep until 7:00). I think he needs to be in bed sooner.
good luck! Sleep deprivation can take its toll on us!
C.

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He could still be hurting from his teething or not feeling well yet. Yes, it's frustrating getting up in the middle of the night. Don't let him cry it out. You're not spoiling him to go in and pick him up, snuggle him, rock him to sleep. You'll sleep better, he'll be a happier, healthier baby. You're developing a sense of reliability and trust... that if he hurts, if he needs you, you'll be there. 14 months is too early to expect him to be in control of his surroundings and body. Many adults aren't at 40 yrs of age.... they need to talk to someone at 2 am in the morning when things are hurting them, either physically or emotionally. Don't keep him up in the afternoon, let him have his nap if he's up until 10 pm to sleep thru the night. Sweet dreams!!!

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My daughter did the same thing right after she turned one. I too tried everything that i I could possibly think of to get her back to sleep and not wake the rest of the house. Though her bedtime has always been around 8, and she would wake about 4ish. I would bring her out in the livingroom and keep all the lights off (left the bathroom light on so I could see a little). I would let her play but ignore her when she would come up to me (I would lay on the couch and pretend to sleep). After 2 or 3 days of this she stopped. She realized that mommy wasnt going to play and it was sleep time.

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Maybe try an earlier bedtime? 10 seems kinda late and he may not be getting enough sleep. Maybe he wakes up when you guys go to bed, because he hasn't been asleep for very long. I would try putting him down at 7:30-8:00. You will be surprised how much sleep they need at this stage. And if he is teething, you could always try rubbing orajel on his gums when he wakes up, but don't give him the bottle, it is only starting a bad habit! Good luck to you. This too shall pass. Instead of taking his afternoon nap away, let him nap, and nap with him!

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try taking away the morning nap...keep him up for about 5-6 hrs, milk...then he will nap longer, and go to bed early and stay asleep