Getting My Daughter to Sleep in Her Own Bed!

I can totally relate to this post. I am in the same boat with my daughter who is 28 months. She hated the crib so i bought a toddler bed. That was ok for about 2 wks., but then she would wake up to come in to my bed. She clings to me when she sleeps and i sleep terrible. I i just bought a Dora sofa and slumber. IT's a cute little sofa that unfolds into a little bed. No luck yet but she did nap in it yesterday so my fingers are crossed. Good luck and if you come up with a solution before me, please let me in on it. :)

You could try like the Nanny does on ABC and tell her it is time for bed pick her up calm her down then back she goes. Give it a few mintues, go back pat her on the back and leave again until she hopefully gives up. My daughter was like that but I did would go back in pat on the back lay her back down. It took a week, a long week, but it worked for me.

I am having a similar problem with my 9 month old. I do have a 21 month old daughter as well and thank God, she sleeps OK in her crib. Have you tried to let her cry? My daughter (21 months old) was waking up for nothing, just to be held up until she was 6 months old. By then I was already pregnant with my son, so we decided that it was time for her to learn to go back to sleep on her own. We led her cry the first night for 50 min, the next night she cried for 40 min, the next for 34 min and by the end of that week she was waking up fuzz a little and back to sleep. It is heart braking but I do believe it's the only way. My son is a different story...they have to share a room for now so we cannot let him cry too long because then my daughther will wake up and we don't want to babies up in the middle of the night...we both work. So we put the pack & play in our bedroom and as soon as he gets over a little cold he has now, we will start trainning him...I hate it, but it works. Hope this helps! Good luck!!

She cries to get you to put her in your bed.

It works everytime so she'll continue to do it. She's more comfortable there and feels secure.

You can teach her to be secure in her own bed and to soothe herself. You'll just have to endure a few nights of crying but it will stop and she will learn that her bed is for her and your bed is for you, except for those beautiful Sunday aftertnoon naps. LOL.

Your daughter is not dumb. She knows what she's doing. And, she's getting over on you. That's okay though, but if you want nice rest one of these days, you'll have to gently put your foot down. If she gets her way with this, she'll be running circles around you when she's 16.

hi
im a mom of a 30 month old boy who this last week i have had trouble with putting him down for a nap and to sleep at nite. he has climbed out of his crib at every chance he has gotten. to climb in bed with my husband and i. which results of us getting no sleep,and being cranky with one another. so yesterday while struggling with putting him down for his nap and ready to loose my mind i took his crib matterss out of the crib and put it on the floor of his room. i told him this is where mamas big boy will be sleeping and belive it or not he took his 2 hour nap. yes..lol...a little mama time .and last nite i laid him down for bed (and yes i did have to lay with him for 5 minunts )and out like a light, he slept from 8:00 pm till 7:30 this morning. i think that my son saw us sleeping and wanted to be a big boy maybe your daughter is trying for her independence also. it might be time to switch to a toddler bed for her. if i knew what i know today i would have put he in a bed sooner. looking back the signs were there but being a first time mommy i didnt want to think he was growing up...lol...i hope that this helped a little
good luck and wishing you a restful nite of sleep
J. from cromwell connecticut

have her use one of your pillows and covers that have your sent on it and lay down with her for a little while in her bed.

I had the same problem with my now 17 month old baby girl. She hated her crib from 6 months on. She learned to climb out so we made it a toddler bed(it was the convertable kind). Since then there has not been one tear when it was time for bed. She climbs in it and puts her head down right away. She used to scream and vomit everytime we put her in the crib. I hope this works for you like it has for me. I know how you feel and wish you the BEST!!!

D.

It will take more than one night to get her to sleep in her own bed. Your going to have to just let her go. When you are putting her to bed, make the biggest deal of her going to her own bed. When she wakes up, if you know she is safe and ok, just let her cry. If she gets out of bed, just get up, and lay her back down, tell her you love her, and walk out. If you need to do it 20 times, do it 20 times!! I know that sounds horrible, but the more you coddle her, the more she is going to wake up and want to come in your bed. My cousin has twins, and they are 6, and because she never made them sleep in their own bed, especially before they could get out on their own, they still end up in her bed every night. They are 6, going to be 7 next month. How sad is that?? Yeah you may not get sleep for a few nights, but in the long run, you will get more full nights of sleep. I am a single mom too, and trust me, I had a hard time for a short time, but now my daughter goes right to bed when I say so, she will sit and amuse herself for about 1/2 hour and she sleeps at least 10 hours without waking up. Good luck!!

My 14 month old daughter has the same problem, but I came up with a solution that is actually working now. Besides the music playing and the ticking of a clock (sound mimics the heartbeat of mom in the womb)I put a shirt that I wore all day in her crib on a little pillow (or you can put in on a stuffed animal). It has the smell of you, where she cuddles up to it and feels secure with it. Try it and let me know. Good luck. Kairi L.

My daughter is 25mo & I put her in the bed right around 23mo she sometimes still will get up or cry when it's bedtime but we've found we do a normal routine with her everynight we have some family playtime & read books or whatever then we give her her vitamins, brush teeth & let her know it's almost time for bed (even though she knows because sometimes she'll grab all her animals & head for her room). We sit with her for a minute give hugs kisses sometimes she needs 5 :-) then we just tell her to rest & see you in the morning. If she gets up one of us goes back in tucks her in & does the same ...see you in the morning it's time for bed speech. It's all about consistency at this age & they test you every bit of the way! Good luck hope this helps!

Hi!! My daughter is 17 months and she always slept in her crib. But a few months ago she started getting up screaming and wanted to sleep with us. As you have all said that results in a poor night of sleep for the adults! So I started telling her before bed that she was going to sleep in her crib that night. She would of course tell me, "no." but I just kept explaining it to her. When she did wake up I would tell her that I would rub her back for a minute but she was to stay in her crib. Some nights she cries for a minute or two but so far it has seemed to work. I wish you the best!

I was just there 6 months ago. My daughter had night terrors and the only way for her to sleep was with me. What I did was I took the front bar off of her crib and moved it next to my bed. I put her in her crib, but still next to me. Week after week I would move her crib away little by little. Now she sleeps in her own bed. Now, she's only 6 feet away from my bed but I no longer have her toes in my spine. We're still working on getting her in her room but we'll get there. I hope this works for you.

When you get some help would you please share the advice with we cause I have the same problem.

Thanks,
A. G

It's wonderful that she wants to be with you.....that's the safest place to be! =) They grow up so soon, that she will not want to be in there with you. This precious time to cuddle your little one will pass, way too quickly. So what I've done with my youngest is to have a crib right next to my bed, so he had his wiggle room with the one side off, so it's just extra room for him to sleep. I hope you can get something so your daughter has her own space in your bed, or right next to your bed. So she feels secure and loved. that's why she wants to be there with you...it's not because she needs that sleep training stuff. She needs to be with you. At her age, it might even work, if you take the crib and just push it right up to your bed? So she can hold your hand while she falls asleep next to you?

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Holly V.