Since becoming a mother (a single mom at that) I have really realized how few friends I have. Most of my friends do not have kids and they live in the Minneapolis area (60 miles away), plus I don't have a partner so, I rely heavily on my parents and sister for friendship and I HATE that!! I really need to meet some people. I also find myself missing my ex, but I really think that is just because I am lonely ): I don't want to be needy...but I really need some friends. Please help! How does one meet people as a single mom in her thirties with a job at a small business with only 3 people??? Does anyone else feel the same way? Anyone else looking for friends?? I think this will be a really long fall/winter if I don't make some changes soon (: So Private message me or reply here if you want to hangout or chat online or whatever (: By the way I live in Saint Cloud, MN.
I have tried meet-up and there is nothing going on in my town, but there are some great groups in Minneapolis and hour away, which doesn't make a lot of sense.
Find a play group. Join a class at the Y. I've bugun meeting a lot of friends when my child started school. Most of the parents are looking for the same thing as me.
Hey! I'm not far from you (15 miles from St Cloud), if you want to message me. :)
Are your kids in school or daycare? Maybe pick a mom you think you'd like and invite her and her kids over for a playdate, or a free local event like a library story time. Even if your kid is really little you could ask someone to go mall-walking with you (w/strollers).
Get a hobby! Join meetup.com and you will likely find a mom's group or hobby group in your area that you are interested in. Anywho, I'm always up for chatting
Hi! I am near St. Cloud, about 20-25 minutes away. I lived in St. Paul and moved to "small" town five years ago with a 18 month old and newborn so I understand your situation a bit! I was able to meet a lot of other mom's though community ed. I started doing infant classes with my first child and have met some great mom's though that and now we have all had more kids and done more classes together. That was a great way to meet a lot of other mom's with kids with similar ages. I am not sure if St. Cloud has something similar to that, but we had evening classes too so working mom's could make it there. Feel free to send me a message, I am not far away!
I moved from the big city to a "small" town, too. Here's what I did to make friends.
Kids and dogs are great social icebreakers. Assuming you have kids (you're on Mamapedia, right?) get active and outdoors with your kids and/or dog if you have one.The more you're outside, the more your neighbors might venture outside with their kids. Just make yourself visible.
I also renovated my FRONT yard to be really welcoming, with a patio, table, chairs, garden. I sit out there like it's my living room (with kids playing around). First, kids started stopping by, then their parents. Last summer, I was the "freezie pop" mom. This time of year, I have a bunch of apples at the ready for anyone who stops by.
Then I volunteered to do some work for the city park board. Not that I'm an park expert, but as a resident who enjoys being outside, they really valued my input. Together, we started a community garden and that really introduced me to some awesome families (who also have single friends).
Maybe the outside thing isn't your deal. Keep an open eye for community organizations (Lions Club, JayCees, etc.).
I recommend checking out meetup.com for a local moms or single parents group. I've found it great and you can search by location.
I was 39 when I had my son, so my friends were in two camps: childless by choice and middle school parents!
Some of the first mom-friends I met were moms of kids in my son's nursery school. Does your son go to Pre-K?
(Sometimes being a mom is a lonely job!)
Good luck!
