What kind of hair do you have?
I use pretty much the same one each time.
I use, Frederic Fekkai shampoo and conditioner, which I got as a gift. Awesome stuff.
Then I use cheapo Suave shampoo. Its good!
I don't condition each time I wash.
I also use Garnier Fructis leave in hair smoother conditioner. Its light. Never weighs down my hair.
I have thick hair.
I never use clarifying shampoos. I don't have too.
There is such a thing as over shampooing.... shampooing too much which then leaves the hair dry.
Conditioner, I use maybe once a week.
For split ends... just trim you ends regularly. Once you have split-ends....no conditioner is going to 'fix' it. You have to cut it off.
I think, just stick to basics. Maybe you are using too much stuff.
all the best,