K.D. asks from Cary, NC on June 13, 2008
Do You Let Your Teenager Stay up Later During the Summer School Break?
If you do, how much later and why? If you don't, please tell me what bedtime is and what your reasoning is for not letting them stay up later.
As you can probably tell, I am torn on this one and wanted some input. He has driver's ed one week this summer and a camp one week, but other than that it is hard for me (in my mind) to argue against letting him stay up late to play online video games. But then I wonder, how late is late enough and how do I enforce that because I am already in bed.
A.R. answers from Chattanooga on June 14, 2008
I don't have kids that age, but I was always allowed to stay up as late as I wanted and I don't see any reason why he wouldn't be able to. It's vacation, that's a part of the fun! I mean... he's old enough. If he did well in school, why not trust him? Especially if all he is doing is sitting on the computer. It's one of the best things about having no responsibilities yet. I think they deserve to have it, really. I mean, I miss it! Heh. We only get one chance to be young, and staying up late is not harmful at all. Give him that, at least.
J.D. answers from Raleigh on June 14, 2008
Yes, but if there is any attitude the next day he goes to bed at the same time as his younger siblings. We do not try to keep anything quiet for him to sleep in and if he needs to do some chores we make him do them as well. Also if he wakes us up he knows that he is in trouble. Summer time is the one time of the year kids are able to be kids still. From the sounds of it, this may be the last summer that he has to relax before getting into the grind of the work force even if it is just part time.
S.D. answers from Nashville on June 14, 2008
We have a midnight curfew for being home in the summer and on weekends during the school year. We let our 16 year old stay up as late as he wants to and sleep in until noon in the summer. After 10 p.m. he has to be quiet because our 11 year old and 3 year old are asleep. The 16 year old has to be up by noon to feed his younger siblings lunch. Our 18 year old has a summer job and works 1 a.m. to 1 p.m. loading semi trucks. Teenagers need more sleep because their bodies are still growing. Summer time is a good time for them to get extra sleep. My kids grow a lot during the summer. During the school year our teenagers have too much homework. They are in honors and AP classes. They get home from ball practice about 6:30 p.m. and are up until midnight some nights getting their homework done.
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B.D. answers from Greensboro on June 14, 2008
I am one of five children and my parents never set a bedtime for us growing up (during the summer). We had a curfew when we all got our licenses (10 p.m. or else!). Now that mine are teenagers (14 & 17) they have no set time during the summer either.....it's one of the pleasures of summertime (for them and me).
Enjoy your summer !
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A.L. answers from Clarksville on June 14, 2008
Yes, I let my almost 14 year old stay up as long as he wants. Of course, I have a few rules to go with this PRIVILEGE. When I get up in the morning, all lights, radio/TV must be turned off. Anything left on means he will not get to stay up the next night (he hates that rule). Also, there is NO raiding the kitchen at night(he hates that one, too, and probably sneaks). We hide all the sugary snacks because he gets to stay up!! I look at it this way, since you work, he'll sleep most of the morning and maybe into noon and stay out of trouble. Now, if my son has something to do the next morning, then he doesn't get to stay up and goes to bed when we go to bed. That goes for the 2 weeks you have plans for your son!! Anyway, that's my story. Good luck and remember that your kids are different personalities and will go through life differently. You're just liking you daughters choices of going to bed at a decent hour!!
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I.N. answers from Raleigh on June 13, 2008
I let my teenager go to bed when he wants- starting when he was about 16. I figured he needed to learn responsibility for himself.
A.D. answers from Austin on June 14, 2008
Well I can tell you from experience: When my husband and i were dating through high school he stayed up every nite and played video games online especially during the summer. That was what he was about. He never went and drank, hes never smoked, hes never been into any trouble. He went to school and is now a game programmer. They just had a press release on the newest game. (http://www.360sync.com/2008/06/11/the-maw-announced-for-xbla) When i married him, i joined the gamming. I had a baby and i was breast feeding and playing games at the same time. My husband and I still play games.. its just what we do for fun. We would rather spend $15/month on a game subscription then spend $15+/person for one date nite. Anyways i'm just saying that your son will turn out just fine playing some games. who knows we might be playing the same game! (by the way.. most of the good games you get in groups with other players and play together.. well these groups dont really form until nite time. Its a lot of fun.) You could still say he has to be up by 10 or something and even if he didnt get off the games til 12 or 1 hes still would get over 8hrs of sleep. Sorry i have to side with your son on this one!
T.G. answers from Louisville on June 16, 2008
Yes, I do let my teenage daughter stay up late. In fact, I let her stay up as long as she wants. This only happens if she doesn't have to get up early the next day and do anything. I figure it is the summer time and she should enjoy her days out of school while she can. But, I do not let her talk on the phone pass 10:00 pm.
What I normally do is around two weeks before school starts, I make her go to bed early ever night and get up early so she can get back into the routine of her school schedule.
W.M. answers from Nashville on June 16, 2008
I would let him stay up one hour later. Why not, I am sure you would have wanted to as a kid. I would not go more than one hour though, the later he stays up, the later he sleeps and the more his schedule gets off. I would not want my kid up late playing video games anyway, but that is just my opinion. If you stay up and read or do anything after his normal bedtime, you could still be up to tell him it is time for bed. If he normally went at 9pm, you could read, get ready for bed, etc and then at 10pm, go tell him it is time for bed. I would not go to bed first or he may stay up way too late. Also, you could tell him that rules will go with this being able to stay up late...for example, you can stay up an hour later but if I see you sleeping all day, not getting your chores done, etc....you will go right back to your normal bedtime.
D.B. answers from Memphis on June 15, 2008
I have a high school daughter and during the summer I usually let her stay up till between 11-midnight. I see no point in later than that. Next year will be different as she is required to take summer school due to school course changes in the program she's involved in at school. There are programs you can get (not sure where) where the internet goes off at certain times. I don't see ANY reason for them to be online past midnight.
It also depends on what is getting done during the day. Time off from school is not time off from life/responsibilities. If they can't help around the house/yard, then that time is pulled back in 1/2 hour intervals till they get a clue.
Best of luck to you. Try & encourage more interaction with real people rather than online ones, IMHO, it's much healthier for them.