I love in Australia now and I think the dentists think a little differently here.
Firstly, my daughter is 3years old now and still can't go to sleep without feeding and also wants it during the night. I was worried when I found a cavity that this was the cause and felt terrible that I could have done such a thing to my child. When I raised this with her pediatric dentist he said it made no difference whether she was feeding or not and the cavities were due to the fact that the enamel on her teeth had not formed properly in the womb and prior to her teeth coming through. That was a relief for me.
Secondly, here they will only do work on a child's teeth under general anasthetic and so my choice was no work and risk future problems, the back teeth having to come out prematurely and then the spacing of her adult teeth to me affected and thus possible future major work; or go under general in a hospital. I chose the general....
In the xrays my dentist found additional holes and weaknesses in the enamel of all her teeth so he filled what needed filling and put a protective coating on all other teeth so she should not have to have anything like this again with her baby teeth.
The experience is a little scary, but when you are prepared for this it is OK.
She was holding my hand when she went to sleep and then I left while she had the IV inserted. when she first started coming round she started screaming for me and they finally called me back in. It was scary to see her so disoriented and out of it, but I took her in my arms and breastfed her. She settled quicly in my arms and went back to sleep after a feed.
When she woke up she was in my arms and not at all afraid. She has always been very articulte and the next day when we talked about her experience she told me that she woke up in my arms (she doesn't remember the whole screaming episode and having a breastfeed). So the fact that she is still breastfed was a really good thing - in the end.
This all happened when she was 2 1/2 and now when you ask her if she likes her dentist she says - yes and wants me to take her back to the same dentist for a check-up (normally she will not let doctors, nurses etc touch her) and if you ask her what she wants to do when she grows up (this question is asked seperately to the previous one) she will say - a dentist.
Having had the work done while under general anasthic means she is not afraid of dentists which is a good thing for kids.
I would not wait and would get the fillings done and the rest of the teeth coated so you don't have to do it continuously.
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