Changes in Strategy/ Products?

Swaddling is still in. And are you talking about the Bumbo? Yes, there was a safety recall (I think because there was no safety belt), but it's back on the market. I didn't use it when my 3 year old was a baby, but I used it with my 10 month old when he was a few months old (without strapping him in!).

The only thing I know that changed from 5 years ago is when to offer peanut butter. Before I think APA said wait until the child is 3 years old. Now, APA is saying that you should give it earlier.

I can't think of anything else. If I remember, I'll come back and add more.

What do you remember using the most with your first child? That will probably what you use with the second. Osohapi stated the basics are what you need if you don't have them stored anywhere. I recall hearing about people who would use a dresser drawer for a bed until they could get a crib for a baby to sleep in.

You need diapers, some outer clothing and winter coverage (NY state), food, place to sleep and love. The rest should fall into place. Go with what you know and consider the new and choose your wants over needs.

Congrats on the new baby. When are you due?

My kids had old I mean old style car seats that were tubes of metal shaped into a seat and a snap strap to keep them in with shoulder straps. The tubes were inserted under the seat and buckled in. To look at that seat now and what is out, it looked archaic and medieval. They were fine. Remember manufacturers are out there to make money off of the expectant new and old mom for the "latest" and "greatest" thing to come down the pike since sliced bread.

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no clue what a bumps seat is, but meh to the fads. to swaddle or not to swaddle- why not wait and see if you have a baby who enjoys being swaddled? seriously- the fads are just that. parent your baby sensibly, with methods that make good sense to you, to which THIS particular baby responds well.
no need to jump on the fad bandwagon. it'll change as soon as the next It Book is written.
khairete
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They change the guidelines every couple of years, and flip flop back and forth. Whatever worked with your first, just do that :)

Honestly - not trying to sound rude - but I'm a little surprised that you're buying into any of it.
Apart from something having proven blatantly dangerous and taken off the market....
Some people swaddled kids, some didn't. The kids turned out just fine.
Some people used those seats, some didn't. The kids turned out just fine.
I didn't have a carseat growing up, and while I wouldn't dispute that one today, I turned out just fine.

By the time #2 rolls around, mama, just go with your instincts and what you know.
Kiddo will be just fine.

Congratulations! Another regular here who is expecting! So exciting!

I realize that there are always going to be "new ideas", but that doesn't mean that ALL the old ways are bad. People fuss about bumper pads in cribs, but when little arms go in between the slats, it can hurt them. There are plenty of babies who did just fine in their cribs using bumper pads.

I don't know what you mean by bump seats - I'd comment on it if I knew. Honestly, I think that common sense is what's important. In the news lately, they have been talking about not allowing a baby to fall asleep in a car seat unless it's strapped in a car. They talked about the car seat moving into a different position and baby's head dropping down, and baby suffocating. When my kids had colds and were so stuffed up that they couldn't sleep, I'd put them in the car seat and put it on something to keep it stationary. That way it couldn't rock forward OR backwards. We never had any trouble. Why that doesn't occur to people to take this SIMPLE precaution, I don't understand.

If I were you, I would trust your judgment and trust yourself to take care of that little bundle of yours. Don't let a bunch of "new rules" run your life!

Congratulations on baby #2!!

I can honestly say there are a few things I see that would have been convenient when mine were little, but none of them are necessary. With the second, it will be completely different! This one will be allowed to eat scraps from the floor, roll around in the dirt, and even hug people who have colds. Haha! I'm basically saying as a mom the second time around a lot of the stressors no longer matter. So sit back, relax, and enjoy!!

Common sense never goes out of style!
Common sense: do not put your child in a seat to keep them upright if they cannot keep themselves upright on their own. Do not set a chair on a table or counter. Simple.
(I never used the Bumbo seats and find them far inferior to giving a child a safe place on a clean floor to exercise those muscles or a safe pack and play if the floor is too busy with pets, sibs, etc. They should be allowed to sit up without being propped up unless they are in a bucket-type carrier or something made for infants.)

hey pregnancy buddy! my #2 is due in Feb - but it's been 9 1/2 years for me. I was somewhat wondering the same thing, like is "back to sleep" still the thing? I think it is. Anyway, my cousin just had hers 2 months ago and I have found a lot of reassurance in seeing that it all comes back to us. I feel so much calmer and wiser than I did with #1!

I've been going to parenting websites ("What to Expect" and "Parents" or whatever) and that also helps allay the fears. *The More You Know* lol. Congrats!

when you are told ''rule'' do a google search for ''scientific study about '' and what ever it is, swaddling is fine until they are too big to swaddle, I just researched this and it is ONE doctor who just gave her opinion that swaddling is unsafe if they can turn over, and there is not one reported death that indicates swaddling was at risk, nor are there any hip/bone issues linked to it... as a home daycare provider I prefer to get my info from the actual experts and look at the actual studies done

Congratulations! How exciting you are adding another new member to your family!! Sounds like your kids will be the same age range as my kids. I have no idea about shifts in parenting newborns though since my youngest is 6, but it is interesting how ideas and what they recommend changes over time.

I only have one child but I remember most of the modern stuff they make being a total waste of money. With the exception of the wipes warmer, I lived up north when my daughter was born and it was very cold in the winters.

I would just go with your instincts for baby #2, I am sure you will remember what you used the most and what you didn't.

if you have to swaddle then do it, if your baby likes a bumbo seat use it, they still say to put baby on the back to sleep but mine wouldn't sleep longer than an hour that way so i got a sleep positioner that helped them stay on their side. ( i was fearful of tummy sleeping so i didn't do it)

no matter the "fads" do what works for you!

It's funny .. my nieces are in late twenties and I my youngest only just started school in recent years - so I held on to all my baby stuff for them. So when they had babies I was shocked that my gear (which was new for my last as there was a bit of a gap) was inappropriate according to them. Even my sister didn't want it as a back up.
What we found was they had recalled all these models - so I had this wonderful seat that I was going to give them, but they typed the model number (on backs of products) into Google and voila - some child had been injured. Etc. Or some major defect had been found (the worst was my high chair which would flip babies out onto their heads somehow if bonked). I'm glad I didn't know any of this.

My niece swaddles her baby and was instructed on how to do so in the hospital. Swaddling blankets seem different though - hers are all gauzy like whereas mine were flannel. I only swaddled my first for any length of time (all of them were as newborns) but she continues to do so and he was a summer baby. Her blankets feel more like stretchy linen. We looked for flannel ones and couldn't find any. Bumper pads are still a no she said.

Bumbo seats are still out there. I didn't use them - thought they looked a bit odd and didn't like sticking them on the counter etc. My niece read conflicting articles on them so she returned the one she got at her shower.

Breastfeeding seems to be the same. On demand and whenever the baby wants it.
Hope that helps :)

My #2 is 1month old,with big sister being 5. :)

Swaddling- the new "rule" is that swaddling is still good, but you ant to leave the legs loose or swaddle them with the legs bent in a "frog" position to keep the hips in proper position.

Bumbo seats- the thing with them is that they don't provide the needed support for Baby's back, and pretty much makes them sit upright before they are ready... It also means they are not otherwise in a position where they can develop the muscles they should be working on. People were putting them on counters and stuff, and babies got injured falling from them like that... But that's a parenting issue, not a product one. Lol.

Personally, I think things seem to be in a constant flux... So I just take it into consideration and do what seems right to me. My son hates being swaddled, so I tuck the blanket around his belly tight enough so he can't pull it up over his face, then leave it loose over his arms and legs. Of course, I also bed share against general advice when he's having a rough night. I'm not a huge fan of bumbo seats, even before "they" started advising against them... So that's a nonissue for me.

I downloaded the "what to expect" app, and joined a forum of mothers due in the same month as me. I quite like it,because we all have babies at the same developmental stage, so we are all concerned about similar issues. It has other"boards" based on topic (breastfeeding, gestational diabetes, preemies, etc.) maybe this app would be a good one for you to look into?