J.B. asks from Aurora, IL on October 21, 2010
Can't Travel for Holidays Because of Pregnancy.
I'm due Christmas day with baby #2, which means we can't travel for Thanksgiving(which is also my birthday this year) or Christmas. My husband and my family live far away, so just looking for ways to make the holidays feel like the holidays without traveling to see family. Should we try to have something here with both sides of the family or is that too much right before baby gets here?
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M.L. answers from Houston on October 21, 2010
I would say lucky you! Lol! I've always wanted to just STAY HOME and make it special for my kids. Enjoy, you will make great memories, especially if baby is due ate Christmas time!
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M.L. answers from Houston on October 21, 2010
I would say lucky you! Lol! I've always wanted to just STAY HOME and make it special for my kids. Enjoy, you will make great memories, especially if baby is due ate Christmas time!
J.F. answers from Philadelphia on October 21, 2010
If you want to host them then sure invite them over. If you can't see them call and talk tot hem. I'm sorry I don't have better advice.
K.P. answers from New York on October 21, 2010
My parents were actually in this situation just before my middle sister was born (early January). We couldn't fly to be with the extended families for Christmas and my parents were feeling very disconnected. So they started their own tradition of throwing a potluck party between Thanksgiving and Christmas and 28 years later, the party has morphed into a New Year's Eve party with 100+ guests and family members.
It never was and never will be a fancy party- everyone brings a dish to share and there is always tons of good food, good drinks and friends who have become family. Paper goods, beer, wine, soda and a festively decorated house... you don't need much else!
Sometimes you have to create a new tradition when the old ones just don't work anymore. Happy early holidays and enjoy your soon-to-be addition!
K.M. answers from Chicago on October 21, 2010
My family and I we do "thanksmas" and we do it WHENEVER I can get out to California. We have had Thanksmas in July, this year we actually get to have it right between both holidays so I am having 3 back to back!! So really you do not have to do anything big this year just have you own Thanksmas (get the turkey now if you have room in a freezer though) later when everyone can get together then.
D.B. answers from Boston on October 21, 2010
I think it sounds like too much - and if you have to prepare for all those people and then you deliver early, then what? I'd have one set of family for T-giving and the other set for Christmas, with the understanding that you may have to cancel. If there are a ton of people, then don't. You could ask your church or local senior center if there are people who need a place to go - bringing one or two others into your home can be a nice way to share the true spirit of the holidays..
Call them on the phone on the holidays, or Skype if you can - they will understand that the baby and you come first! Think of the gift you will be giving them! And you need your rest.
L.W. answers from Cincinnati on October 21, 2010
OMG I could have posted this in 2008. I was due on 12/18. and NONE of my family lives here. They all live anywhere from 350-550 miles away. What we did is we had Thanksgiving at my house with one family. I hired a maid service to come AFTER they left so my house was clean (worth the price) and when they were here, THEY brought food to cook for the weekend. They were really good about not letting me do much work (even though I tried) hubby did the turkey, mom in law did stuffing and dessert, sister in law made 3 sides. Everything that was left over we made a big thing of soup and froze the rest into baggies for individual meals. It was GREAT because I didnt have to cook for WEEKS. Then for my mom and dad, I skipped Christmas (I actually came home from the hospital on Christmas eve with the baby) my mom and dad came on 01/01/2009 and stayed for a couple weeks to help me with the baby...It was nice them coming AFTER wards because you are all wrapped up with having the baby and then its nice to be alone with your little one...but then after a couple weeks you will be wanting some help with the house chores, meals etc....because those tiny babies sure are alot of work (well for me it was)
CONGRATS, Happy Birthday, and Good luck!!
EDIT...also wanted to add that seeing family while you are prego is a nice thing. They can see you prego and it helps them bond with your little baby..
Also wanted to add that AFTER I had my baby, we traveled to my inlaw house (same ones who were at my house for turkey day) after the baby was 2 months old so they could see the baby before I went back to work in March.
C.C. answers from Philadelphia on October 21, 2010
Keep it simple. I love getting together with my family it still one of my favorite things to do...but if there close to delivering it might be something your just not able to do.
Maybe discuss visting in the spring. After flu season and it will be easier to travel.
S.D. answers from Indianapolis on October 21, 2010
eh...I'd still travel for thanksgiving:) Otherwise, I'd invite any friends and family who want to come. I don't think it would be too much for me, but I'm pretty laid back. Only you know if you can handle it! Get others to help prepare parts of the meal so you aren't doing it all. And see if some of your family can stay with friends so you don't have to house all of them.
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