Belated Birthday Parties

There are many reasons why a birthday might be schedule at a later date - from financial to simple preference. As long as you're not asked to buy more than one gift per year, just be happy your child is being invited.

Unless the child won't live to see the next birthday, I consider it rude. If you can't do a big party it is not a sin. A small party on their birthday is more important than a big party when there is no real reason for it.

My kids birthdays are near Christmas and there is always conflicts with their friends be it dance, football, Christmas shopping, their parents Christmas work party, etc. It is difficult for children to understand that other things get in the way of their celebration. Since I only allow 2 to 3 friends per child anyway and it ends up that most of them can't come, we have had to resort to doing it a different time of year.

I understand the swim party in June for a party in January! Almost all kids would love to have a pool party, but seeing their birthdays don't allow them to do so because of the weather, I see that as being ok...
However the movies and sleepover, I don't understand, maybe money was tight for the family, and they promised their child they could have a bday party as soon as funds are available?!
Those are just my thoughts, hope your kids have fun!

I don't think etiquette even enters in to the equation. Families adapt. Sometimes there are situations that may interfere with the planning and execution of a "friend" party close to the actual date of a child's birthday. Family emergencies, finances, illness, holidays, divorce....a million things that can throw a wrench in parents' ability to have a party, but do little to mitigate a child's disappointment over not having a celebration with their friends. It isn't about the date or the calendar. It's about the celebration.

As a parent of kids who were born on thanksgiving, and good friends with a mom whose daughter's birthday almost always falls on Memorial day weekend (and has had more than one party where only 1 friend was able to attend), I can say that there are some practical reasons for having a b-day party that isn't at the same time of year as the actual b-day - any time the b-day falls around a long weekend or winter break or is in the thick of a holiday or busy-time-of-school year (e.g. near graduations, mothers day/fathers day, etc.) the family finds that either the majority of the friends will be out of town, they have too many other things going on to add "party planning" to the list, or both.

And for a January b-day, given that many families are already 'partied out' with winter break and december holidays, it's not surprising that a family might prefer to have the party in the summer time esp. if all their prior b-day celebrations have been indoors in cold/rainy weather.

Just my $0.02. We usually hold our daughters' b-day party in late October because we can have it outdoors in the back yard with less worry about a rain out :-)

I find it kind of amusing in a way. Little Tommy needs new toys? LOL. But, for some families it can make sense I suppose.

When someone wants to have a swim party, but has a birthday in January -that is what you do -have it when the weather is warm. You don't know what that family has going on, and it's none of your business when they have a birthday party.

Find something else to have a snit about -something that is important.

My daughter's bday was last week, but because of summer traveling and my work schedule, we're not going to get a chance to have her party until a month after her birthday. So I can understand why it might not work into a family's schedule to have a party until a couple months after the actual birthday. I also understand a 10yo wanting their bday party to be a swimming party. I think postponing it for that reason is just fine, as long as they don't have a party in January as well.

Well...I am not sure you want to hear my answer, but if the child is having the birthday several months from the original date, without having one on the exact date, I don't know why there would a problem...I could see your issue if the child was having 2 parties and you were invited to one or both, but sometimes due to illness or activities, kids can't have their party on the exact date. On my daughters 5th birthday, she had rotavirus and we had to cancel (that was in March) and we didn't re-schedule it in October...if you think it is silly, just don't go...just my thoughts :)