J.W. asks from Virginia Beach, VA on November 30, 2006
My son is almost one and had for the last month been breaking out in a fash rash. It doest seem to bother him so I havent taken him to the doctor. My mother in law and I sat down and tried to decide what he was allergic to and narrowed it down to four things: bananas, apples, cimmamon, or yogurt. We waited for his face to clear and now it is my moms turn to babysit this week. I told her monday that she can give him some bananas and to watch his face for a rash. I picked him up that afternoon and sure enough there was a rash around his mouth! My problem is that my mom does not believe me that he is allergic to bananas. My husbands Aunt (who my mother does not like) has an extreme allergy to bananas, so it might run in the family. When I told her that she said "so, it doesnt mean he's allergic." She seems it odd because he ate bananas fine before. I guess it is because no one on my side of the family has food allergies and she doesnt want to believe it. He also broke out after eating ginger snaps, and I did some research and something that is in bananas is also in ginger. So that seems to support the banana reaction. Now my parents are talking about me getting him an allergy test done. His insurance is in limbo right now and I cannot afford to pay for it. And I think it is a little silly getting one done if it so obvious. How do I get my mom to understand that he is allergic to something and that people can become allergic to anything at anytime? I'm starting to pull my hair out and if I argue too much with her my dad will yell at me. Im trying to aviod too much conflict. Thank you!
A.C. answers from New York on December 03, 2006
Well J., I don't mean to disrespect any of the mothers who have already replied, but I think whomever says that they agree with your mother-in-law has lost their mind. This is your child and if you feel uncomfortable giving the baby bananas, than "NO ONE" should be feeding your child bananas. If anything, it should be discussed between you and your husband. If he wants you to put it on her, than the decision lyes solely on you. He has given up the choice to decide what your child eats. I think it's great that your family is there to help you, but the welfare of your child is what's important here. You just have to kindly let her know where you stand. No one will go with your rules if you don't stand up for yourself and have strong character in being a mother. Sorry for being so bold, but I just don't take kindly to people who try to dictate to others how to care for their children. Especially if it's someone who doesn't like an Aunt of yours. That sounds very childish. We're adults. Not high school students. Anyway, I hope you are successful in finding a diagnosis on your son's rash. Good luck! P.S. I also think it would be a good idea to try to go forth with the allergy test. Don't give up on your insurance. And don't back down when talking to them, or they will never accept.
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B.M. answers from Charlotte on December 03, 2006
It is definetely true that allergies can show up as well as disappear it seems at will. Now while i do not condone lying (usually)I'm wondering if it would hurt anything or anyone if you were to tell just a little lie by saying that you have had your son checked out by an allergist and that he/she validated his allergy to bananas. I just see it as a means to an end where you won't have to argue anymore and your mom can feel like she's listening to a DR. Because it seems to me that your mom does not respect your opinion on this because you are after all HER child,and shes having a hard time wrapping her mind around the fact that you can actually figure things out for yourself, by yourself y'know? I am glad to hear that you have a great support system, and i wish the best for you and yours, B.
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S.J. answers from Charlotte on November 30, 2006
I'm going through allergy tesing right now and they don't test you for every single thing. They test for the things that most people are allergic to and then tell you to try a rotation diet. Only eat certain things each day and see what you react to. If you're going to react, they told me you'd be able to tell with 20 minutes or so. Fortunately, most of my allergies are to things in the air, but I do have some minor food allergies. You're his mother and once he gets the insurance coverage to pay for it, have it done if you feel that you need to. Right now, go with your instincts. Good luck!!
C.B. answers from Norfolk on November 30, 2006
First off, Remeber you are the parent and not them. This is your child, not their. I know alot of family like to give their own advice but it is your childs welfare. Parents are usually the ones that know know something is wrong with our children and are always questioned by others. If I were you I would keep fighting with you Insurance Company about getting the allergy test done. Is there something your Doctor can do also about it? Have him submit a letter to the insurance company also. Some people my be able to eat things in their lives and then all of a sudden are allergic to them. Myself growing up had always been around shrimp. Then at the age of 16 I had a reaction one day just from cleaning them. I ended getting an allergy test done and found out that my body was now allergic to them. More than liking if he is allergic to bananas he may also be allergic to other foods. Tell, you family that is drving you crazy about this that not to be rude at all but this is my child and I'm concerned about his well being. So, either you can help me and him or be against us. I also read that food allergies can be hereditary. So, maybe it is something that was passed to him, but it doesn't mean if you have future children they will be allergic. Hope this helped and try to get him tested just to be safer than sorry!!! Good luck :-)
K.F. answers from Jacksonville on November 30, 2006
I know it may seem that he is allergic to the banana's but allergies and rashes can be extremely tricky to diagnose. My daughter went on pennacillian the first time and 8 days later broke out from head to toe...she was allergic to it, but so are my grandmother and brother. Now the second time she went on antibiotics they put her on something else, and 5 days later she broke out again...it looked the exact same to me as it did when she had the reaction to pennacillian except it wasn't quite as bad..the doctor said it wasn't an allergic reaction and that it was just a viral rash.
My point is that while sometimes a rash may seem linked to allergies it may not be. Does you son break out just on the face, or all over? Another VERY important thing to keep in mind is that the more times a child is exposed to something they are allergic too the worse the reaction could become. If he shows signs of trouble breathing or wheezing with the rash, get him in immediately to a doctor or the ER. So, if you're not completely 100% sure what is causing it I would at least take him in to see a regular doctor. They may be able to tell better what the rash is and maybe even what's causing it. If they do say that he needs to be tested explain to them about the insurance, they may be able to refer you to some place that can help.
S. answers from Spartanburg on November 30, 2006
I have to agree with you mom that he needs to be tested. Believe me when I know about trying to pay for things that you really don't have the finances for, but it needs to be done. There are probably things he is allergic to that you have no idea and the bananas could be just underlying, there could be something else that he is even more allergic to and it would be beneficial to know what, plus you could settle the fact that he is allergic to bananas once and for all with your mom. I would talk with a health care provider and see what the test costs and if they would be willing to work with you since you don't have insurance. you could also call the local health department and get information about it, they may be able to perform the service at a great discount or for free, or could put him on some sort of medicaid til he has insurance again. She does need to respect you when you say you don't want him eating bananas, however better safe than sorry I would go ahead and get him tested. my daughter had to be tested and they just drew a grid on her back, and poked her with these tiny needles each with a different allergen, and she had some allergies to things that we did not realize and since have been able to make some changes in her diet and have noticed a huge difference. good luck to you.
R. answers from Spartanburg on December 01, 2006
I don't know exactly how you should go about getting your mom to understand, but, when I read your post, I had to write . . . My son had the same problem right around the same age--breaking out around his mouth after eating bananas. He definitely has allergy problems (runs in our familiy too). Just thought I'd let you know that our doctor said this could be (emphasis on could) related to an allergy to latex. So, I would encourage you to watch for this. My son is allergic to some antibiotics and sulfa drugs as well. The wierd thing is, he is 18-months-old now, and we have fed him little bites of banana, and we have not seen any rash, and he does not complain. Go figure. I'm just going to have to be careful. Anyway, I've been told that you can't get a child tested for allergies until he is older (somewhere around 2-4, not sure). As for your mother-in-law, maybe you can show her what you have researched, at least, and, if you have an open relationship with her, tell her how you feel. Hope this helps! R.
J.W. answers from Norfolk on December 01, 2006
I am now 29 years old. When I was in the 9th grade I had started to have allergies to stuff. I was sent to an allergy Dr and he tested me. Come to find out I was basicly allergic to nature. But to top it off, I was allergic to my cat that I had had since I was 3 years old!!! Allergies can devolop at any time!! And most Dr.s will not test for food allergy unless there is swelling of glands. All they will have you do is to clear him up (as you did) and keep a journal of what he ate at all meals and snacks. You have done all there is for a food allergy. You narrowed it down, found it out. My advise is next time your Mom says something tell her, when she feeds bannans (or anything else) she can pay the ER visit. Allergies can get worse as time goes on, they can also get better. When I had to do a journal for my food allergy, I found out I was allergic to dairy products. IE. - Milk, Cheese, Ice Cream, Chocholate, ect. I quit eating anything with dairy in it. As time passed, I started to re-intoduce things slowly. I found out I have a limit of the amount of intake I can have. If I drink 3 glasses of milk, a bowl of cereal, grilled chesse sandwhich, a bowl of Chocholate ice cream and then some Hershey Kisses I will break up in hives. But if I consume things in small amounts I am ok.
Just some info to help you out and to understand more. GOOD LUCK!