Anger Issues - Katy,TX

Sounds like he needs a few good spankings! I haven't had anger issues w/ my 7 yr old but on other discipline situations I've found that it works best to find something that really scares them. Timeouts and early bed time, etc. didn't work w/ mine. She didn't care. But she's scared of getting a spanking... I use the discipline time to get 1 on 1 w/ her, explain why she's in trouble, make sure she understands, etc. It's important to be calm. Don't go to them when you're angry or screaming. That just shows them that it's ok to scream. I also sometimes give her options like, either eat her dinner or get a spanking... trying my best to teach her about actions and consequences. I've also read a really great book by Lisa Welchel, called Creative Correction. It has Christian-based discipline strategies. Very good. I hope you find something that works for your family and hope that your husband will step up and back you!! Good luck! :)

S., coming from the social worker background I would ask you to look into a reason why he's so angry. This is a child, I presume, that has not had many issues before. The anger could be his "breaking point". Try to sit down with him to find out why he acts the way he does. I would also suggest that you and your husband go to marriage counseling to get on the same page. I understand that he's Arab, but you are in America & American ways of parenting are very different. You two need to have the same common ground in order to be effective. You mentioned that you are home with your children mostly by yourself anyway & that may have something to do with it. WHat if your son is acting like this to get some attention from his father? WHat if he continues to act like this to get his father to spend some "quality" time with him? Is it so wrong for your husband to go with him in his room and taLlk to him about his behaviors? Is it so wrong for your husband to go out & throw the football around or run errands with dad? As parents, we sometimes forget that everything that we do affects our childrens behaviors. Good luck

Your husband is wonderful? Because it doesn't sound like that. I believe your problem is the absent father figure in your sons life.

S.,
Your arrogant husband is your problem ~ your son just needs a good 'ol fashion spanking; tell your husband to stop making excuses for being a jerk, grow a pair, and give 'em one!
Deborah

Hello S.,
I'm the one who wrote about the son who's suffering with ADHD/Emotional/Anger problems. Your son is young so he's trying to establish his independence. You have to give him options pertaining to his behavior.Example: be consistent and firm when you tell him no...tell him if he continues that behavior he will go to bed and he can't play until he straightens up his act. Let him know hitting is unacceptable behavior...give him an option;"you will apologize now or you will take a nap. Remember no empty promises; you have to take action. Believe me our kids are sizing us up to see how true you are to your word. However I must say your husband has to be on the same page as you are. When the child see two parents unite in force; it's a loose,loose battle for them.

Good luck!!!
CeCe

God says not to spare the rod. Your husband should help in discipling your child. It's not fair that he dosen't help and excpects you to do it. If you don't disciple your child, they will try to get away with anything. They want you to show them right and wrong, it is a way of showing love and a child can sense that.

Your son needs a LEADER and the man of the house is the LEADER! You can not just ignore how your son is behaving but the issue needs to be dealt with first by starting with your husband! Sorry to be so harsh but the males these days not being the LEADER/MAN of the home is what is causing alot of the problems in our youth these days!!! Pray for your husband.