I'm recently married, my husband and I have been trying for a little over 4 months now to conceive. After 2 miscarriages of my own, one with my husband in early Dec. Of 2015, and after him loosing one in 2014. Although we are both fertile and have no issues with conceiving, I'm late. 5 days exactly, I have taken at least 3HPT since my first day, we are obviously overly excited and hopeful, but it seems odd to both of us that the test are coming back negative. My menstruation is regular, I've only been late once and that was in Dec. When we found out i was pregnant, we lost the baby after the 1st week to natural causes. We are hopeful, but wondering if it's still possible that we could still be having a bundle of joy on the way?
With my first attempts at pregnancy, I'd be late and wouldn't be pregnant. Didn't make sense to me either, but it could be a week off. I think the stress and excitement over trying to get pregnant made me be a bit late. I remember doing the tests and getting upset. Which again, can make you late.
I would stop testing, test again in a week and then let it go this month if it's still negative.
Hopefully it will happen for you soon :)
Get a hold of a copy of Taking Charge of Your Fertility. It is the how to get pregnant (or not) "bible".
One thing mentioned in the book is the thing that tends to make our cycle late if we aren't pregnant is stress....particularly around our time of ovulation....then we ovulate late (or not at all) and that makes our cycle late. Wanting to get pregnant so so so bad can be stressful....which is why I believe so many people get pregnant after they adopt...they start to ovulate regularly again.
Until I read this book I thought I had an irregular cycle turns out I didn't it was just 42 days long. Which was normal for me and meant I ovulated around day 26 (I believe). Which would have made us have a horrible time getting pregnant if we were counting on a 14 day ovulation.
So get the book and read it use the information and good luck!!
wait a week. if no period then use the first pee of the day to test again. (first morning pee is more concentrated and will have more hcg in it if you are pregnant.)
your body may of ovulated later than usual, you may be stressing out which will cause a period to be late.
Stress can cause cycle issues, so if you're really focused on pregnancy and it is upsetting you, then you may need to try to chill out a bit.
It is possible to have a fertilized egg that hasn't implanted. In that case, you don't producing enough hormones for a pregnancy test, but there is just enough to delay a period. It is common but usually completely undetected.
Sometimes two individually healthy and fertile people have a hard time making a baby together because something in their individual genes is less than compatible. After you've been actively trying for a year or two, if you keep not conceiving or having more known miscarriages, comparative genetic testing on you and your husband of you may be in order.
Most likely everything is just peachy. :-)
On average it takes a year of trying to get pregnant.
For everyone who gets pregnant right away, there are plenty who take longer than a year.
Secondary infertility is more common than you'd think (having trouble getting pregnant 2nd or 3rd time around).
How old are you?
Late 30's is not too soon for a skipped period due to the beginnings of peri menopause.
It's not impossible to get pregnant but it's more difficult the older we get.
Maybe you're pregnant and maybe you're not.
Wait a week and take another test.
If it says negative at that point - believe it.
Use an ovulation kit to help pin point when you do.
You might need to keep on trying for awhile.
If you haven't had any luck in a year (or 6 months if you're over 36), then see a fertility specialist.
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At 21 peri menopause shouldn't be expected.
You've only been trying 4 months.
Try for another 8 months and then if nothing happens then you both go see a doctor.
It's hard to be patient, I know. I'm sorry you've been through so many heartaches and so, of course, this is emotional for you. Try to remember that, a generation ago, everyone had to wait until the 3rd month to have a positive test!
Stop testing. You are wasting your money. If you're pregnant, you might just need more hormone to build up to make a test come out positive so wait a bit. Get another test (another brand) and use first morning urine if you haven't so far. Or, call your doctor on Monday and ask for a blood test. If you can't be seen right away, call your local Planned Parenthood and ask for the testing clinic. Assume that you may be pregnant, and do whatever you should from a dietary standpoint until you get a real answer (alcohol, nutrition, smoking, etc.).
Hope you get an answer soon!
It's just too soon. I remember the times when you had to miss a couple of periods before you realized you were pregnant. Sorry you're so impatient. It makes it so much more disappointing when it's not happening.
I always waited until I was two weeks late to take a test, and then waited until I was at least three months along (and confirmed by a doctor) before telling anyone besides my husband and BFF that I was actually pregnant.
Wait a few weeks and test again, if it's still negative then see your doc to find out what's up with your period.
I am 20, turning 21 in May. Menopause should be awhile away for now, could the miscarriages play a role in this? I was told I'm healthy and able to bare a child, it's just odd that the test are still coming back negative. I haven't had a lot of interaction with other mothers, my friend of many years is in her 2nd trimester now, she's the only person I've spoken with about this,but being her first pregnancy she don't know much either, so any advice or information is greatly appreciated!
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Thank you both!
