M.W. asks from Fishers, IN on May 17, 2008
21 Month Old in a Toddler Bed Realistic?
Again, thank you for always being so helpful.
I have received some advice from moms who may be right about this but wanted additional input.
That way I figure she won't relate this home with her crib and the transition to a new baby in a crib will be a while after she has been in her bed.
Now, do I shut the door so she doesn't get out?
Do I keep going in if she cries?
Friends recommended putting a bow on the door and making a fuss over her getting a big girl bed....
I partly want to do this bc I am perfectly ok with her wondering about upstairs after waking up, she doesn't need to sit in her crib waiting for us at this point. The gameroom will be upstairs so she can play up there until everyone wakes up.
Which means her bedroom door will have to be open.
Any siggestions will help greatly - I only have a couple of weeks left and dread loosing sleep again but better now than when I have a newborn.
Also, is 22 months realistic to do this?
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N.L. answers from Columbus on May 20, 2008
I moved my son to his "big boy room" before he was 2. His bed had a trundle bed that pulled out and for a few months he slept on the trundle because I was afraid he'd fall out of the bigger bed. I did put a baby gate at his door so he could see out but not get out. I would only worry about her approaching the stairs while 1/2 asleep if you can't close the stairway off. I know my son has always climbed up and down the stairs safely, but would not be as safe before fully awake.
I also think doing the transition all at once makes sense!
H.M. answers from Bloomington on May 19, 2008
In my experience any big changes and moving and a new baby certainly qualify as two of the biggest, are a time when regression is common. It's probably not the best time to take away her familiar routines. Just my opinion. Best of luck!
L.B. answers from Mobile on May 19, 2008
It has been a long time since I had a toddler in the house. My thought is that a new house and a new baby are enough stress for a child less than two. I really don't like the idea of having her in a room with the door shut. What if she gets out of bed and falls asleep right in front of her door. Then you couldn't get into the room.
I wouldn't rush her to be a big girl. When children are small it seems as though they will never grow up. Next thing you know they are heading off to college.
I'm a mother of two adult children. That's my two cents worth. Grin :)
P.B. answers from Canton on May 18, 2008
Definitely make a fuss over her having her own new big girl bed. You could put a few of her favorite toys in her room and make a fuss about her playing with them in case she is up before the rest of you. If you are that comfortable about her roaming the house, then let her do so, but only after she gets use to it. You could try to tell her that if she gets up before them, that she should only go as far as her room, your room or the play room. Make sure all the doors are securely looked and she cannot reach them to open them. My Daughter kept climbing out of her crib at 15 months and that's when we made the transition to a bigger bed at 16 months. New house, new bed, new playroom------------She should be OK.
M.H. answers from Lafayette on May 18, 2008
I think you're right that this is the perfect opportunity to switch over!! I don't think you should keep the door shut in case she needs her mommy but make sure the upstairs is safe and there is a gate at the top of the steps. My granddaughter was climbing out of her crib at 9 months so it isn't too soon if you are ready!!
D.S. answers from Cleveland on May 27, 2008
My oldest is now 17 and we transitioned to a toddler bed at about the same age as you are looking at now. We also did it in a move and it worked out fine for us. I made a big deal out of his new big boy bed and he was aloud to have his favorite stuffed animal and blankey along with a nightlite and a book to read while he unwound and fell asleep. As far as making the room safe I just made sure he had no access to sharp objects in his room or around the house in case he wandered in the night or morning.
J.P. answers from Dayton on May 17, 2008
As the others have said, you know her best. At 16 months my son was very large and rolled around a lot in his crib. From my room I could hear him crashing into the sides of the crib. It would wake him up and of course I was up too. We put a twin mattress on the floor and a gate at his door. (our upstairs was not safe for him to wander)He slept very well and was sometimes on the floor by morning, but he had plenty of room to roll. Not that I am against toddler beds, I just knew he would roll out. That worked so well for us I did the same thing for my daughter at about the same age. We put the mattress on the frame by about 2 1/2 years. Just one more idea. Hope it helps,
K.S. answers from Columbus on May 17, 2008
My daughter was about 12 months when we started working on a "big girl" bed for her. We are in a 2 bdrm apt. & the 2 kids have to share a room. We bought them bunk beds. She sleeps great in it. The apt is set up so that we put a gate at the front of the hall & close the bathroom door. She has no where to go, but my bed. I am also a lite enough sleeper that I hear her come in. We are also co-sleepers so that helps even more to let her know where to go. If she wakes in the middle of the night, she just crawls in bed with me. I agree that every child is different & you would know her best.
L.F. answers from Cincinnati on May 18, 2008
I absolutely think this is possible. Talk to your daughter and see how she feels about a big girl bed. If she is ready and excited go for it. We put a basket of books next to my daughters toddler bed and she did a fantastic job with the transition. Good luck
A.G. answers from Cleveland on May 18, 2008
I just put my 21 month old twins in twin beds! It took a couple weeks for them to stay in their beds during nap time, but they went to bed in them at night without getting out of their beds. What i did was i didnt put any toys or anything fun in their room. The first 2 days at nap time I let them explore their new beds and room. I let that get out of the way, hoping that they would get bored. It worked. I started on the 3rd day going in there when they would get out of bed. I did the supper nanny trick. I went in there and told them it was nap time, put them in bed and gave them hugs and kisses. The next time I went in there i told them to get back in bed & i put them in bed and that was all i said. the next few times i just went in and put them in bed without saying anything. i took about six times but it worked. I would say after about a week they were done exploring and stayed in their beds. we have not had a problem since. We also keep the door closed & keep a pin above the door in case they lock it. i hoped this helps!
K.W. answers from Cleveland on May 18, 2008
There are many different approaches to this topic and what works for one might not work for another, so take this for what it's worth. My son turns 3 in 10 days and he is still in his crib. He never tried to climb out and is very comfortable there so we left him there. We had our second child when he was 23 months old and considered moving him so we didn't have to buy another crib, but... I have had a couple friends that had bedtime wars with their kids when trying to transition. So with the new baby coming, I didn't want to have that battle on top of everything else. I also read an article in Parents magazine saying that the average age for changing to a toddler bed was three. So, with that being said, if you think your daughter will transition easily, go for it. If you anticipate some trouble, I would just wait.