D.S. asks from Katy, TX on April 12, 2010
2 Yr Old Rides Dog like a Horse
how do you get a 2 yr old to quit treating a dog like a horse. he constantly sits on her. she is a very patient dog and acts like it doesn't bother her but I need to control it before he gets to heavy. His attention span is to short for time out I think. he will be 2 in 3 weeks. I don't feel this is a swat offense and don't swat if I dont have to the only other thing I can think of is putting him in his crib for time out. I know hes just playing but I worry about my dog to. she is a medium size dog and doesnt' act like it hurts. this just started tonight. I keep telling him the dog is not a horse but I really don't think a 2 yr old grasps this concept. any ideas? ps he is fascinated with putting little people on all of his little animals. any animal.
So What Happened?™
I asked this question so I would be a responsible pet owner and parent there is no need for telling me I need to be, why do you think I listed this post? what I have decided is to pull him every time and tell him no and put him on his rocking horse. I guess the live one was more appealing.The only time I believe in swats is if it is something that is going to hurt him ( ex finger in the light socket) as others pointed out if the dog gets hurt it will snap out of instinct this is true. I decided to swat if he doesnt quit within a very short while. this is the same as putting a finger in a light socket its tempting fate. and I do agree with the statement "a swat hurts less than a bite". as for explaining to him he is developmentally slow in speech and hearing this answer won't work.it would if he was in the upper 2's. but he dont turn 2 til the 5th. I did like the restate of "we don't sit on dogs"(short sweet to the point) it should make more sense to him than a dog isn't a horse.
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J.T. answers from Dallas on April 12, 2010
you stop your child however you need to, that is absolutely unacceptable. there is going to come a day that the dog doesn't like it, and she is going to defend herself. i have four dogs(we used to have five, one passed away a few years ago) and three children, i have NEVER allowed any of my children at any age to treat our dogs improperly(riding on, sitting on, pulling, pinching, hitting, kicking, etc.). you watch him 100% of the time that he has access to the dog, and you pull him off the second he attempts to get on her and tell him "no", repeat, repeat, repeat. if you can't watch for a period of time, you need to separate the dog and child by a baby gate or a crate for the dog. my animals love my children dearly and vice versa, but i don't expect them to put up with any rough treatment from the children either. a dog's spine is not made to be ridden, and you could be looking at potentially costly or life ending injury over time by allowing this to go on. good luck, 2 is an age where they DEF understand rules and boundaries, they are just testing the waters to see if you will back up what you say!
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K.W. answers from Los Angeles on April 12, 2010
Get your child a ride-on toy to replace the attraction to the ride-on dog :)
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B.K. answers from Pittsburgh on April 12, 2010
Hi D., I do have a dog that is "ridable" and it is not acceptable! You need to just make it a rule exactly like it's a rule not to play in the potty or with an outlet! Time-outs for a 2 yr old are possible (we made our girls stand in a corner at that age) if you are serious about them. You don't have to explain yourself or your rules to your child at this age! No sitting on the Dog. simple, plain, effective! Remember the kiss method when making rules for your children: Keep It Super Simple!! Best wishes
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S.T. answers from Washington DC on April 12, 2010
i do not think you can or should get into explanations about why it's not okay. just tell him very firmly that it's not and take him off. over and over again. until he gets it you are going to have to be very vigilant. i agree that he's a bit young for time out and he should not be hit for doing this, but he needs to know without a doubt that this is not okay and you really mean it. a lot of folks are saying the dog won't let him hurt her. this is not true.
protect your dog, and if you can't watch him around her, put her somewhere safe. this also protects your child. if he really hurts her she may very well inadvertently hurt him back, and no one wants that.
khairete
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I.G. answers from Seattle on April 12, 2010
I am sorry to be harsh, but jeez! be a responsible parent and dog owner.
We don't sit on a dog. Period. You sit on the dog, you get a timeout. Right away! If you are in a situation where you can't supervise them directly - say your cooking or using the bathroom - the dog and the child need to be separated. Either put the dog in a crate or your child in a safe room, that he cannot get out of.
How often have I heard before:"I can't believe old Sparky bit him, he has NEVER bitten anyone before and couldn't hurt a fly!"
It doesn't matter how "tolerant" the dog is of your son's behavior. Most children that are injured from dog bites, get bitten by their family pet. You are setting your dog and your child up for an incident, by not teaching your child how to properly behave with the dog.
If your dog is large enough for your child to ride on, even a "mild correction" from your dog, can result in severe injury. Don't bet your child's health on the fact that the dog has not reacted, YET.
Good luck!
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J.S. answers from Chicago on April 12, 2010
You're going to have to watch your son closely and nip this behavior in the bud before the dog nips him in the butt. At his age, a "We don't ride dogs." and redirection are the most effective. He'll figure it out eventually that riding the dog is a big NO and that you mean business. I love the idea of getting him a toy to at least sit on or a riding toy (they have horse ones, right?).
It will take more work on your part and it might seem like it takes forever for him to "get it", but he will. Patience is a virtue. :D Good luck!
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D.W. answers from Indianapolis on April 12, 2010
Our dog is large (~70 lbs) and began having behavior issues when our first child was about 15 months old. She (the dog) gets separation anxiety and is constantly trying to establish herself higher in the pack - where she used to be before we had 2 kids. In our case, she bites the molding around the windows when we're outside and she's not. It's becoming an expensive issue to resolve.
Our dog is patient, and submissive, too. But, we had to start seeing an animal behavioralist when all this started. He has 40 years experience as a vet and a behavioralist, and I can only imagine what he'd say about this.
He didn't even want us to let our dog on the sofa because she'd be at eye level with our son and perhaps challenge dominance in the family.
I'd put an end to it immediately. It's not safe - that's the main reason. It doesn't matter how calm of a dog it is, if there's one time the dog doesn't like it, your son is going to get hurt (either by being bitten or thrown off the dog's back).
Our daughter just turned 2, so I think you can tell them why it's not appropriate. But, if it were our house, our dog, and our child, I'd be firm in saying no anytime I saw it happening.
Good luck.
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M.P. answers from Portland on April 12, 2010
Since the dog doesn't seem to mind, I'd just let it go. The dog is not going to let him hurt him. When your son gets bigger the dog is going to walk away, twist, lie down or in some way prevent him from getting on him. Dogs can be such calm, patient pals. That's one reason we have them for pets. They're good at teaching kids by natural consequences. If your dog has shown himself to be a calm and patient pet I'd let your dog and son handle it. Learning from each other is a part of learning how to be pals. This experience will be helpful when he's older and learning how to get along with other children.
If he's prone to snapping or biting then I would recommend stopping your son. But then, if your dog is prone to snapping I wouldn't let my son be around the dog because we can not be sure what would upset him.
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