1. So my husband and I were in the shower last night flexing our butt muscles to see who had a harder butt. I always knew he had a great butt, but his is like a rock and I got nothin! I work out WAY more than he does, how is his butt like that and mine is just a handful of nothing? Are mens butt muscles just naturally firmer than womens??? Im perplexed.
2.
Then we are getting out of the shower he says
Him- There is a girl that has a crush on me.
Me- Come again?
Him- A girl, at the gas station that my business parnter and I go to on Mon & Tues, she works there and she has a crush on me.
Me- (Giving him the stink eye) Silence.....
Him- She is NOT good looking AT ALL.
Me- Why are you sharing this with me?
Him- I just wanted you to know I still got it!
So apparently the other day when his business parnter went into the gas station without him, the girl that works there was asking about him and says she has a huge crush on him. I was actually really surprised that this bothered me. I have had girls tell me they think hes good looking before, but none that actually WANT him.
I told him I was gonna go up there and tell this girl to get her fantasies of my husband out of her head and to back up off my Koolaid! lol
Clearly I would never do that because who has time like that and thats just psycho. Why am I being so territorial of my husband??? Who cares right?
Dad oh hell no!
Carolynn, I would never do that. lol That is not my style and I was joking. I am not really worried about this girl, and no, I do not think she is a teenager.
I really did find it more amusing than bothersome. Im ok.
I can answer #2.
Because you love him.
And you know he still has "got it" but don't like it when other females VOICE their "crush" as it invites intrigue, as he has told you.
The important thing is you acknowledged his intrigue and let him know how you feel about it, done.
Give him a big loving kiss to let him know where he belongs and that you do realize he is a catch but has already been caught BY YOU!
Men love affirmation.......
Hmmm... I feel that twinge when me and my boyfriend go out. Not that he is drop dead gorgous, but he is charming. Let me know if you fine the trick to getting rid of that twinge.
I think Alley wants you to invite the girl over for an adults-only play date. :)
ETA: Lol. Well it sounds like you got a pretty good guy. He COULD have just not mentioned anything. :)
I tell my wife when things like that come up. And she tells me. It's a nice ego boost, and no threat to our relationship. :)
And guys have firmer butts from being spanked all the time when we were bad as kids. :)
I promise - no smiley face at the end of this sentence.
hahahahaha! I am cracking up about the two of you flexing your butt muscles and comparing...hahahaha!
Sorry no useful advice here. Just funny...
Theory 1: They sit on them more, builds better butt muscles
Theory 2: Ever see the cross leg reaction they have when they see a another guy take a....errrrm....groin shot? Protecting the family jewels all the time builds better butt muscles
My husband could tell you, but you would be bored outta your mind in a bout five minutes. It's much more fun to just make stuff up.
My husband has told me, "Oh, that girls wants me." Kinda pissed me off too.
I think it's the tone. When women say, that guy has a crush on me. We say,
"UUGGGH, this dude at work totally has a crush on me. So annoying. Gross."
Guys say (while strutting) "Yeah, that chick wants me."
That's my guess. :)
Haha.
As for the butt - do more squats - with a weighted bar if you have access to one - I swear that stuff works miracles. My butt literally bounces when slapped - haha :-)
As for the jealousy - I'm not a very jealous person either but I remember one time when we were flying back from vacation - our son was just a baby (maybe 1 at the most) and I was EXHAUSTED from the trip - he never slept and I was always up at crazy hours. Well - hubby decided he would "manage" him on the flight so I could rest. Awesome guy, right? Well - wouldn't luck have it that some really cute young girl was in the seat next to his (3 seats per room, I claimed window) so there I am, a haggard new mom drooling on the window while he's chatting it up with the cute young thing being "dad of the year." I was so jealous I think I turned green in my sleep - haha...funny that was 7 years ago and I still get a bit twitchy just thinking about it.
Human nature is a funny thing.
You're territorial because he's got an awesome butt! (And he showers with you! Damn...now I'm jealous! hehe)
Seriously though, I would take it as a compliment. First, he has chosen you over that girl at the gas station. And second, he loves you enough and is secure enough with you that he can share this info.
*hugs*
Molly, as for the butt question..... I got nothing.
As for your husband, it is/was an ego boost for your hubs. It sounds like he does "still got it". And he was sharing. You should be territorial, he needs to know that, which I'm sure he does, he just needed reassuring ;)
You can't help it if you picked a tasty flavor of Koolaid!
I think mens butts are naturally more muscular... along with most of thier muscles compaired to womens. My husband and I work out the same amount... hardly at all. We both have maintained the same weight but I have no muscle tone and he is all muscles. they suck lol
As far as the crush, I would have kissed him and told him that I have been telling you this the whole time! Im sure he isn't going to act on it, but its always nice to hear when someone other than your spouse thinks you still got it... it is an ego boost. Now tonight remind him just how good looking you still think he is and boost that ego even more :)
#1. Because women are supposed to be softer than men. It's biology. (Some of us just do a better job, than others!)
#2. Because you love him and value him in your life!
It's a compliment! (Don't go all psycho!)
I think he is trying to make you jealous and it looks like it worked. Show that your a little jealous , he will appreciate it! I might make sure she knows he is a happily married man by showing up sometime! I do like the shower conversation thou....cracked me up!
If you tell her to back up off your koolaid can you please video it and make it viral. That sounds amusing=)
I'm gonig to do the butt thing with my bf and get back to you tomorrow. although I do think guys have firmer butts and shaped diferent than girls. I have a small butt though---booo
BTW
Thanks for putting dirty thoughts in my head at 9:25 in the morning. Now I want to be in the shower with my bf.
Anyone want to take the 1st crack (npi) at saying what everyone is thinking or should I????
I wish my husband and I fit in our shower...
You got it DOP! lol
yes, men have butts that muscle up more naturally and easily, while ours are built to cushion. sorry.
as for the crush, it was either really nasty or kinda sweet of your husband to share it with you, depending on what sort of a fellow he is. i'm glad your psycho fantasies are staying where they belong because it really IS a cool thing (unless your dh is being nasty, in which case your ire should be directed at him.) it IS cool that he's still got it! if he's a babe, clearly the random female or three are going to like him! it seems pretty equally clear that he's not pleased with it in any sort of way other than a ego-stroke that he shares with you, so why not be pleased with him?
gals crush on my dh from time to time, and once it happened in front of me. she had no idea who i was so i was kinda tickled about it. he was nervous (his first wife was a piece of work, and this was a LOOONG time ago when we were still dating), but i just told him she is obviously a woman of refined and excellent taste.
rejoice in your handsome hub!
and i must say, i LOVE your storytelling chops. the stinkeye followed by silence is marvelously evocative. i feel as if i'm standing there as the tension builds.........
:D khairete
S.
There are times when I get all territorial of my husband too. I am not the "jealous" type, I don't get all "you can't go to that place anymore, you cannot say hello to another woman"...that type. I am normally the one who notices when women flirt with him, he generally has no idea.
Don't know why it irks me with some and not others. Most of the time I think...yep ladies just keep on looking cause he's all mine!
A few weeks ago standing in line at Chipotle for lunch a man asked me if I would like for him to make me a one of his burritos...I thought it was funny, and shared with my husband...kinda hoping to see a hint of territorial emotions from him...if it did...he never showed it.
Maybe he wanted to see you get territorial.
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No thoughts on the butt muscles.
How old is the 'girl' at the gas station? I mean if she's mid teens, I would say
'what's the real problem?' because lots of teenagers get a crush on an older man. Think back to high school and there are often real dreamy teachers that students get a crush on.
If this is someone in your own age bracket, then maybe hubby or his partner could subtley drop the fact that 'his wife thinks he's hot too". I don't think you need to go in there and make her feel like a lowlife. I think doing that would humiliate not only her but put your hubby in an uncomfortable way. Put yourself in her shoes for a second and what would you want to happen. Hubby's a customer and she would feel lousy having to wait on him.
Maybe you feel uncomfortable about this because it's hubby telling you and not girls you know. And also as you say, your friends have said he's good looking, but not have a crush on him. Hubby's upped the level by HIM reporting 1. 'he's still got it, 2. he's so hot someone's got a crush on him at the gas station. And that's ego boosting to a guy. (to know someone has a crush on him, that is). Maybe he's just feeling he needs an ego boost now and then?
I'd like to suggest that you probably don't want that twinge to go away....of course, us gals are territorial of our husbands; we know what we got here! That guy belongs to me, just me and only me. It never hurts to be reminded (but not by your husband) how great a guy he really is!
Lol! I don't get jealous with my hubby. He is 43 and I am 27...I know that he is really not going to do better (not to be conceded thats just how it is) My ex boyfriend though was into younger girls (I dated him when I was 21 and he was 39) we were at the mall one day and he made a comment about how the sales girl was flirting with him. I said "so what...you want me to ask her out for you or something?" I just don't get jealous.
