N.S. asks from Los Angeles, CA on April 02, 2007
14 Mth Old Still on Bottle and Drinking Formula
My 14 mth old daughter is still drinking from her bottle and won't go without formula. My daughter is a very picky eater. So she won't fill up with food and I eventually have to give her a bottle. I feed her "The Next Step" formula by Enfamil.And she loves it! Sometimes I try and substitute the formula with organic milk and she will know the difference. She won't sleep through the night unless she's had her formula. Also she won't drink out of her sippy cup. I can try and give her juice, water, or formula in a sippy cup and she'll take once sip and give it back to me. But once I put it in a bottle, she loves it and drinks it all. I don't want the bottle to mess up her teeth and I can't afford to buy this formula any longer. Please help me.
So What Happened?™
Well I tried mixing it and she immediately knew the difference. She would walk her bottle to the kitchen counter and put it up. But thankfully she doesn't really want the bottle as much anymore. If I even try to offer it to her she turns it down and points to her sippy cup. She knows I never put milk in her sippy cup, so that's good. I think she will just grow out of it. So thank you everyone for your responses. I really appreciate all your advice :)
M.H. answers from Los Angeles on April 03, 2007
What I did to wean my oldest was to slowly dilute the formula. Like I would put 7/8 formula and 1/8 milk. Then after about 4 days 6/8 formula and 2/8 milk until she ws drinking all milk.
Make one change at a time. Cutting off formula and switching to milk at the same time is too much change. Switch to milk first then work on moving from bottle to sippy cup.
E.H. answers from Los Angeles on April 03, 2007
I know it seems cruel, but take the bottle away.
My best friend had a similar problem with her son.
He would not sleep at night without his bottle.
I told her to throw away the bottles in the house to reduce temptation.
Buy a few different type of sippy cups. The ones I found worked for my picky daughter is the ones with the soft wide straws....Nubby makes one, I believe parent's choice also makes one.
My daughter was the same way with the bottle. But once she took to the sippy cup everything was good. She did have at least one BIG tantrum, but they get over it. I know my daughter was happy to have a pretty cup.
Also if you don't believe the bottle will cause problems....you are wrong!! My son who is autistic was on the bottle until 3 1/2. He is now 9 yrs old and his teeth are so bucked. I can't even ever get braces for him, because I know he would not tolerate it. He had been using an orthrodontic pacifier too!
M.G. answers from San Diego on April 03, 2007
Hey there : ) I feel for you, my son resisted going from formula to milk, too. BUT you have to remember... YOU are the parent and YOU are in charge. And as hard as it may be you need to set the rules, with love and compassion of course, but it does need to be done. She may not like it, and she may throw a fit, but truth of the matter is she will get hungry and she will eat/drink when she needs to. But if you keep giving her the bottle and formula she won't ever go for the food or milk... becuase she knows if she cries enough you'll give in. My son's pediatrician said to go cold turkey, to throw out all the bottles at once. But I had a hard time with that. So I weened him off of the bottles. I gave him a bottle when he woke up in the morning, then 3 meals of food during the day and a bottle at night, before bed. After a week or 2 of that I got rid of the morning bottle and not soon after that the night time bottle. And you know what? He didn't even miss it. In fact, HE was the one who decided he was done with them... one night after only 3 ounces he spit it out and was done. No more bottles.
Now for getting him used to whole milk... I had to slowly introduce it to him. The doctor suggested mixing half and half (formula and milk) and giving it to him in his cup. Eventually, mix less formula and more milk until its all milk. My son wasn't into the cup either, not did he like the milk... he's spit it at me. lol... but after a while he got used to both and now he likes them. You just need to be consistant, as with anything in parenting. Even if they don't like it, repetition will always win over. Just be committed to making the change and do it so that its comfortable for you (like me not throwing out all of the bottles at once). Consistancy is SO important. Be strong and trust that you can do it!! Good luck! I'm a single mom, too, and it IS tough.... but you and I both know that it is SOOOOO worth it : ) You can do this and she will be just fine. She'll adjust to the changes, trust me. She may fight it, but it will happen. We as parents have to do whats best for our children and its not always whats easiest. They won't always be happy with our choices, but we know what's best for them right now. So get a plan/routine going and stick with it. It will pay off. Take care!
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C.L. answers from Los Angeles on April 05, 2007
My son is 16 months today. And I still have him on formula (NEXT STEP)too. And still on a bottle. He only takes his juice in a regular plastic cup. He hates the sippy cups. I've tried different ones. But he rather drink it from a regular plastic cup. I figured he sees us drinking from a cup or glass, so he wants the same.Well the reason why I chose to continue with the fromula was because I tried giving him whole milk when he turned 12 months. And he did not want to take it. I even tried mixing the formula in it. He is not a picky eater. He eats very well and still continous to take his naps. And sleep through the night. But the problem is that we are always out. And he still takes 6 to 8 oz. every three hours like still an infant. And when his hungry he lets the whole world know(lol!).
I told his Doctor when he had his 15 month check up about him still taking formula. And he said your spoiling him, eventually if his that hungry and knows there is whole milk in the bottle he'll take it. And also said if you have the money to spend on formula it's up to you. And about the teeth and bottle. I have a 14 yr old son too. That did not want to leave the bottle until he started pre-k. And he never had any problems with his teeth. And until now never had a cavity (KNOCK ON WOOD). But, also I never gave him a bottle before
bed time, or juice in a bottle. And I do the same with my 16 month old.
M.S. answers from Los Angeles on April 03, 2007
Hi try the nibby i think they are called they are soft tip sippy cups that simulate the nipple texture and start easing her off the formula by less fomula and whole milk mixture that is what i had to do with my son and he was bottle broke in 2 weeks
J.B. answers from Los Angeles on April 03, 2007
Im no sure what your daughter eats, but one thing I did to get her used to milk was moistening some cheerios with the milk, Adding a little more every week or so until their bodies can handle it, I know at first she was a little constipated, but some warmed up apple juice did the trick. My daughter loves the chocolate soy milk, you should try a little in a sipper cup. I personally cant stand to see those 4 year old kids walking around with bottles, so as soon as she could eat baby foods, I was giving formula to her in a sipper cup that I would hold up for her until she figured out what to do with it. The take'n'toss cups worked the best for starting out for me, I personally dont like the nubbies, but others seem to love them. Try the see-through cups, they like to see the liquid swirling around in there. I dont see anything wrong with putting her formula in her sipper cup, as long as she doesnt have the formula available to her all the time, I always have one with water available, You just want to get her used to the idea of using a cup, I save the juice and milk for meals so I dont have to worry about sticky spills. You could water down the bottle little by little until its all water and have the sippy cup with the regular formula/milk in it. If all else fails, just take the bottle away from her, its alot harder for you than it is for her, and she wont remember the bottle in a couple days, Stay strong, Good luck!
C.F. answers from Sacramento on April 04, 2007
I switched my son to milk by starting with putting some milk into his formula bottle and then gradually I would put one less scope of formula and add a little more milk. As well, I started a couple of days in replacing the water for the formula with milk. This made it so that the milk is some what masked by the formula and then you lessen the amount of formula gradually so she is less likely to notice the difference. You may start reducing it by just reducing each one by half a scope every couple of days, once she has readjusted to it. Another thing is that if at first she refuses let her go a little while without it, so of course use a daytime or morning bottle to do this instead of a nighttime bottle. She will get thirsty after a while of playing and is likely to just take it because its what is given to her again. Put it in the fridge and it should be fine. As for the sippy cup thing I don't have any advice because my son was easy on switching. I just gave it to him when he ate and then fnally just stopped having the bottles available and he used the sippy cup because that was what he had to do. I don't know if that will work with a child who doesn't want to take the sippy cup at all.
M.M. answers from Fresno on April 02, 2007
I just started giving my son milk and dairy products. He is on Alimentum formula (against my wishes, but that's another story) I am weaning him by making some formula and adding in some milk to it. Right now, since we are starting, it is 2oz milk to 6oz formula...if you work it slow, she may not know the difference. Every 3 or 4 days change the make up of the formula and when you get to a full bottle of milk, she will probably never know the difference. Tristen didn't even flinch when we gave him one.
As for using a bottle, Tristen still uses 2 or 3 throughout the day. He has long since been wanting something before bed time, but we usually make sure he has something not too long before then because he is a very, very good sleeper. As of this moment, I think I'm going to have to wake him up because he's been asleep for about 12 hours. Offer the sippy cup whenever you can. Just sit it down near her, or leave it where she can reach it. Babies our kids' age are very curious and she will check it out when she is ready. I am concerned about dental issues as well, and what you can do to alleviate some concerns is go to the baby's r us or something similar nearby and find the best orthodontic rubber nipples for the bottles you use, and do your best not to send her to bed with a bottle or pacifier.
Hope this helps!
J.K. answers from Honolulu on April 03, 2007
It might seem harsh but if they get thirsty enough they will drink whatever you give them and it may be hard for you at first but it won't take long to break from the bottle and the formula if you commit yourself. I have two girls who are 4 and 2, i found that getting a sippy cup that has a sipper that is the same texture as a nipple really helps to ease the transition from bottle to sippy. The picky eating is sometimes caused by not letting your child experiment with all kinds of foods, even if you don't like it you should let her try it and be enthusiastic about it. I find it kind of hard to give advice because most of the time the people don't want to hear it but i do have two kids who transitioned easily from bottle to sippy and neither are picky eaters. Hope this helps :)
S.D. answers from Los Angeles on April 03, 2007
I read your recent request.... have you tried to slowly make the transition by mixing both formula with milk??? This worked for my daughter.... I continued to mix formula with milk for about a week and was able to totally switch from formula to whole milk. Best wishes!!!