10 Years Between Children

My children are spaced apart at the oldest and youngest level with 2 boys right in the middle. my daughter was 13, sons 5 1/2 and 7 when youngest son was born. the oldest and the youngest bonded when I brought him home from hospital. the other boys were enough older that he was a collosal pain in their butts lol until he got bigger. he is 14 now and very close to both the older boys. I wouldn't worry about the spacing but if you are maybe you want to have 2 more so they have company for each other lol

I have 2 sisters - one from a previous marriage who is 20 years older than I am, and one from my dad who is 2.5 years younger than I am.

I NEVER got along very well with my younger sister. We are friendly now, and I'm there for her if she needs me, but I have nothing in common with her and wouldn't hang out with her as a person.

On the other hand, I have always gotten along with my older sister. She was more like an aunt during my growing up years because of the age difference. That couldn't be avoided, as she is old enough to be my mother. But as I've gotten older - late 20's, 30's, 40's, we have gotten very close. We have much more in common, are very similar in attitude and temperment, and even LOOK more alike, even though we are biologically less related.

Don't worry. Should you chose to have another child, they will find their own friends, and their older siblings may be their best friends anyway - just a different type.

Take care!

One of my best friends is 10 years older than her little sister and they have always been extremely close. I think your older daughters will love having a new little baby to take care of and they will be old enough to be really helpful.

I also know of a few people that had two kids and then a very long gap before having a third...and they had a fourth to give the little one a companion.

I also have friends who are 7-8 years apart from their only sibling and they are close too. The age difference won't matter as long as you help foster a good relationship.

Go for it!

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Hi, My Dad and step mother had my little brother when i was 15, and it was awsome, i Ioved helping out. And just because your children are so far apart in age doesn't mean they can't still be close friends. My little brother and my little sister and I are so very close.They practically live with me during the week when my parents work. My neighbor also had another baby when her daughter was 10 and she and her little brother are also very close. I think it is a great idea to have another baby when your children get older, plus you wont be alone in taking care of the baby, you have 2 helpers!

My oldest son is 21, daughter is 17 and my youngest is 3.

Not the way I planned it. Not even the way I wanted it, but it's the way it is.

My 21 yr old comes to see him when he can and my youngest is VERY aware of his older siblings but it is different raising them. My older two occupied themselves, took care of each other and were a "team", now I'm a "team" with my youngest and can say that I feel sad that he wont have that bond my older children did.

I think the bottom line is that if you have another child, it will not be in the same "family" dynamic as your other children...no matter how much you'd like them to.

I wish you well.

My daughter is alot younger than my two sons. It will be fine! My two boys are a senior and sophmore in highschool. My daughter is in second grade. If you feel like you want another child, don't let the ages of your others stop you. This third child will be cherished by her older sisters too.
A dear friend of mine had two children, then over a few years had two miscarriages. She was devastated and figured that was all she was going to be able to have. Then along came Grace. Seven years younger than her youngest. And guess what? A year and a half later, she was surprised by twins! What a blessing! The big brother and sister are such good helpers and are in absolute love of their new siblings!

It sounds like you have done such a beautifu ljob with the first two, who's to say that the third wouldn't be loved as well. Give yourself a pat on the back and if you have if you dirsire a third then do it. Your older kids might just love the ideal of becoming a big Sister(s), brother, to a younger one.

Your still young...just have 2 more:)

I have 2 "sets" of boys. My stepsons are 18 & 15...and even though their father and I got together when they were only 5 & 2 we waited a long time before we had our own kids. My sons are 6 &4. My oldest is 12 years younger than his oldest...and it is great!

Each "set" had their won quality childhood and now the older set loves playing and hanging with the younger set...and of course the younger set just truly believes that the older set walks on water! They are so in love with their big brothers and vice-versa.

I say everything always works out the way it is supposed too...so if you feel it deep down, then go for it!

I grew up with one sibling...a sister who is 2 years older...now that I have had my own kids I have realized how much I lOVE having a big family!

My oldest is 21 and the rest are 14, 12, and 9. He is their hero. THe youngest has always loved him, my 14 year old and he were more adversaries until he joined the Navy. Now he can do no wrong.

My sister is 9 years younger than I am, and we are very close. I would say she is my best friend. We weren't always close growing up, but honestly, I would take having a sister I am very close with now over one growing up. I was more of a babysitter/second mommy/protector with her growing up. Obviously we didnt stay up giggling in our bedroom at night, but we do that now.

There is no guarantee that will happen, and since your other daughters are so close, she might very well be the odd man out. There is no guarantee any of your kids will be close as adults though. My step sister (from very early childhood) who is much closer in age is certainly not a built in best friend. I think if you want another baby then go for it. It might be a boy, and generally your boys and girls aren't going to be "best friends" anyway. The new baby will have friends at school. And you might even decide you want a fourth. You never know what will happen, only what you feel you need to complete your family.

if you want another baby, do it now. my kids are 8 yrs apart.

My sister and I are 11 1/2 years apart and are very close.

i have 14 years between them. doing another to give my youngest a playmate. But really go for it i say

My oldest sister and I are 10 years apart, we have always got along great. My other sisiter and I are 4 years apart and she has never adjust to not being the baby- we fight constantley.
I think at 10 they are old enought to help and be involved with a younger sibling and not resent that a baby is in the house no issues over toys etc...
My husband's cousin have 2 kids close together and going to wait 6+ years then hope they can have another child or two.
My dad's family him and his brother are 18 years apart, and his kids are also 18 years apart- being that far apart they do not seem to be part of each other's life.